Relationship problems......advice please!!!?

Okay, so this past weekend I went to go see my boyfriend who lives in NC. Well at some points during the weekend he was acting kind of wierd and he kept asking me what I was thinking, or what was bothering me. I said there wasnt anything wrong with me, cause there wasnt, and just kind of shrugged it off. Well he called me last night and said there was something he needed to talk to me about. Then he asked, ';Are you just dating me to get back at your last boyfriend?'; And Im like, ';Woah! What? of course not!'; My God, I love him to death, I started dating him because I was just in love with him the moment I saw him. He was my ex's best friend, so he thinks that I just dated him to stay closer to my ex. No way is that possible. So I kept trying to reassure him that it wasnt the case and I love him very much. Well he kept saying that I was still hurt from dating the last guy and that I was talking about getting back at him the whole time I was up there that weekend. Advice???Relationship problems......advice please!!!?
I know why no one is answering this and they are afraid to tell you the truth because they are afraid you might turn them in for being offensive. I will tell you, so please do not turn me in. If you do not want to hear me, simply stop reading here.





Him:


I do not know how much clearer he could be?!! ';...what I was thinking...'; ';...what was bothering me...'; ';...are you just dating me to get back at your last boyfriend?';





You:


';...there wasnt (sic) anything wrong with me...'; ';...I kind of shrugged it off...'; ';...He was my ex's best friend...';





Sounds like you are being frigid with him... holding out on the affections... treating him like your UNloved one. His phrases tell me this. I know this because I have been on the other side.





Distant relationships are very difficult at best. When you go to see him, the very first thing, do you take him into the bedroom and let him know, beyond a shadow of any doubt, why he is indeed your man and not someone elses? Do you wipe him out, over and over and over again? He is, after all, YOURS. Why he can't look at any other (he is too exhausted), because of you.





We guys do like to be touched, held, and treated like we are truely liked loved. We do like and need affection.





He sounds like a really nice and smart guy. Sounds like you picked well.





Good luck.