Bad Problems, Advice needed. BULLYING!?

Hey there.


About two weeks ago, I was sitting in the common room with a few friends. Then I heard a comment said from some other boys across the room. They were shouting ';*******';. Basically, when i was younger I used to play with a girls toy. I must have been at least 5 years old.





I know who told these other people about it. He was sitting right there. I completely ignored the comment and they stopped. Nobody directly said my name or anything to my face.





The day after was fine, nothing was said. The next day, I was sitting in my ICT class and I noticed this boy tell someone else. Then they were saying the comment again. I knew this was becoming a rumour risk. So i went right to the head of 6th form and told him what was happening. He's so good to talk to.





He dealt with it swiftly and the next day, the boy who was the threat of spreading the rumour said nothing. He didn't say anything me me and even times out of school when i saw him he looked quite nervous, or almost shy of me.





We broke up for a week, so I was glad to get a nice break and start fresh. The first day back, I was outside with a friend, it was break time. On my way back into the common room, I noticed that the boy who's a treat was talking to someone else. Obviously i don't know about what. Then the boy who he was talking to seemed to look me up and down and give me a slight smirky smile. Now my first though was ';oh god, he's telling people still'; And i got really down for the day, but no comments were said to me.





Now i keep thinking the ';What if'; question and now i'm depressed, can't eat much, sleep much and am just panicking about this. Today i went and spoke with the 6th form head about how i'm feeling. I opened up and told him that I am depressed and that i need people to talk to and reassurance. He told me that he was confident it would not spread and that he has been spoken to.





this Tw*t doesn't say anything to me, but i think he's trying to spread it still. I don't know if i'm paranoid (which i probably and hope I am) or if i actually have like a anxiety disorder of some sort. I spoke with my 6th form head about everything, and he told me that the possibility of it spreading around the 6th form and everyone tormenting me would be very, very unlikely. To people like the spreader who don't know me, I would just come across as one of the 'Popular' kids, or something like that.





My 6th form head asked me if i wanted to take some counselling for my problems and teach me how to deal with things better. To you reading this, it will look like such a silly thing. But you need to realise this is my life and it's effecting me. I want it to stop and everything go back to normal and how it was. Even if nothings said to me in school, I still worry just on the off chance something is mentioned. just any advice would be great. this is really a dark time for me. Thanks for reading :)Bad Problems, Advice needed. BULLYING!?
Bullys can only have an effect if they see a result. I realise it is not easy to ignore, but ultimately that is what you need to do. If you can you should try to project the opposite emotion to the one that the bully expects. Disinterest and disdain are useful tools. If they think you are unaffected they will lose interest. I think you should take up the offer of counselling. You may well be able to pick up on some very useful tips.


Good luck and remember, they are the sad bastards.Bad Problems, Advice needed. BULLYING!?
Sounds like you have had a hard time.





This head of the 6th form sounds like a good guy and I would suggest you keep talking to him about how you are feeling. If I were you I would take his advice and go to counselling. This will help you deal with what has happened and help you deal with anything similar that may affect you in the future.





Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!
If someone told you that he played with girl toys when he was a little kid, would you actually give a ****? Do you really think anyone else will either? He is only making himself look bad...I wouldn't sweat it. But I would definately take your 6th forms offer on getting counseling.