Friend problems. Advice!!?

Ok so I have this friend who I've known for 6years now. We used to be best friends, but then she went off with another girl.


Since then she's really gone downhill and she says she's been taking drugs (cocaine, heroin, pills, weed) and cutting herself. She says that she hates the person she's become so that we'll say something to make her feel better about herself. She also says that she misses all her old friends, but she never makes an effort to see any of us. She invites us round to her house and then doesn't answer the door, or says that her sisters turned up so we can't go in.


I met her a couple weeks ago and her eye kept twitching and she was shaking a lot, but I don't know whether she was putting it all on for attention.


Anytime anybody tries to talk to her about drugs to her face, she changes the subject, but if we ask her over msn she talks about it.


I don't know why she's like this. Is it attention seeking or does she really have a problem? I really don't know what to believe with her anymore coz she lies a lot. Help!!Friend problems. Advice!!?
Sometimes it is hard to let go of old friends, but in this situation it is something you might have to do. At this point as a friend you should suggest she gets help/counseling for her drug use, maybe refer her to a church or a drug rehab if you know of any that are in your area, let her know if she needs your support you will be there to help but that she must be committed to getting help or you will not put yourself in that type of situation . At that point you can only hope she take your advise but if she doesn't you will need to cut all ties with her untill she is willing to help herself otherwise she could drag you into her world! be carefull and good luck.Friend problems. Advice!!?
Ok listen, its not all attention seeking. Mostly its because shes just trying to be normal. help her along but don't let her become the center of your life.Invite her over to your house to hang out with you. But only you.try to get her back to normal by doing things u used to do togetherbefore she met this other girl.And go and beat the **** out of the girl that showed ehr all of this.
She probably really does have a problem, but it was her decision. If she never ditched you for someone else, she wouldn't have had any problems with drugs and self abuse. If she would like to come back to you and some other old friends, maybe you should give her a chance to show that she could change. If she decides that she wants the lifestyle she has now, so be it... Hope this sorta helped, and GOOD LUCK [:
Hi


If she is really your friend You will talk to her and make it clear you can tell she is on drugs . Tell her you are worried about her . Her new ';Friends'; Are only trying to do her Harm From your words I really think she has a drug problem . If she continues she is on the road to the gutter





Steve
people who do drugs tend to get nerveous and twitch a whole lot.and her friends are probably influencing her to not talk to her old friends.if they got her to smoke weed and do drugs they can get her to basically do anything.you friend needs help from you and her old friends before something worse happens.
it could be both attention seeking and problems


i've gone through the same process with a friend of mine before


and the thing is, if she's seeking attention... then there IS a problem


just keep being there for her, she'll open up to you
you need to call a phsyciatric hospital becouse i used to be just like that my best friend turned me in and i got alot of help and i thank her for that and try to be there for her when she gets out
oh jeez. Idroduce her to god? read parts of the bible to her like proverbs says to choose friends wisely. she might be hanging with some bad people now. tell her to pray. pray for her and make sure you tell an adult. goodluck(:
She really has a problem and she really needs help. Unfortunately she is the only one that can make the decision to get help.
it sounds like she has a problem...





does her parents know she's taking drugs...





try talking to her parents





or talking to her over msn.............tell her to get help if she has a problem
You need to help her this sounds like its from a bad teenage drama
Get rid of her. You don't need that kind of trouble in your life. She made her bed, let her lie in it.
ask if you can help her anyway but she has to be truthful
okay i know what your friend is going through. I was that friend. I was cutting and drinking. the whole time i was thinking that nobody really understood what was going on. You need to make her listen to you. scream at her if you have to. make her understand that doing all this is going to cause her to die. and make her realize the effects other people besides her are having. tell her if she doesnt get her act stright that no one is going to want to around her that pretty soon everyone that she ever trusted will leave her if she doesnt put in the effert. i hope my advise works.
Sounds bad and while she may be doing it for attention she is also addicted to finding the next best high. She needs to be told the honest truth that what she is doing is wrong, she needs to get into rehab, and you need to be supportive but only to the extent of helping and not supporting her actions. Its hard but if she doesn't change this will eventually kill her whether its in the next year or 10 years from now it will. You know she doesn't want to die while she is in that kind of lifestyle so for her sake be honest and blunt and then let her make the decision.
Those who are not our friends are true indicators of our character. It sounds harsh, but if your friend is smoking crack you're better off without her. You're neither her mother nor a professional doctor/therapist and it's not your job to get her clean. The best thing you can do is to let her know you're there for her if she needs help or an ear, but I think you're better off surrounding yourself with good people who do good things. You can't care about someone who doesn't care about themselves.