Relationship Problems...advice would be nice?

With any boy I crush on I lack the confidence that I normally express when I'm harmlessly flirting with any other guy. I have a hard time thinking that anyone could truly like me for who I am because of my childhood. I find myself always second guessing what is actually going on in their head compared to what they are showing me.





I am currently crushing on this boy who has taken a lot of unnecessary reactions on my part thanks to my nature and my first boyfriend. My first boyfriend I liked on-and-off for 5 years and took me 14 months to get over him after he broke up with me. He would ignore my messages, block me from MSN, and avoid me period leading to the magnification of my social paranoia, obsessive behavior, and clinginess.





This new boy is experiencing all of those things--as a crush. I fear that eventually I will drive him away during the two months I have him. I don't want that to happen but I am having a hard time trying to ignore the precedent. Suggestions of overcoming?Relationship Problems...advice would be nice?
You sound like your fear is getting in the way. I had a similar experience. My friend didn't like what I was doing. She didn't get how I felt so she said it was like I was crazy. That was her opinion but I took it personal. I had to learn to not be so hard on myself. You already know what to avoid doing so don't do that. If you think that your new boy will run away, I think you should talk about your fears. I think you could both come up with a solution that works better than last time. That way, it's all worked out. You just need to remember that every relationship requires honesty and open communication and trust. It's not easy to trust after you've been hurt but you've got to try. If it doesn't work out, don't feel too bad. The important thing is that you learn something about yourself and relationships every time. Don't take it all so seriously.Relationship Problems...advice would be nice?
well u must rlly like this guy..i think if u guys rlly like each other it will show but try not to go overbored and to clingy then hes gonna feel like overwelmed....try to give him space just a little dont ingnore him just dont u noe be all up on him and if he comes on u noe he likes u if he comes u should noe the diffrence from ur 1st boyfrenid
when u want to call or b needy tell youreself this...limit yourself to 2 calls a day 1 hour on msn and grab a hobby to help pass the time till u see or talk again
The best part is that you already got over your ex. That's good, but now for you to get this boy you like, is be yourself. Don't be something your not. I know that you hear that often, but this is true. Best advice. But now that you don't think of your ex anymore or at least once in awhile, just chill. Spend time with this boy. And if he acts weird around you either tell him about your past, and if he still acts weird, he isn't worth your time. Good Luck with that. =D
it sounds like you are very young and need to know what it is like to be on your own for a while. if he is smart he will know you are not mature enough to handle a relationship yet.
All i can say is treat him like he treats you.


Call him as much as he calls you. You will notice


whether or not he is really into you, if you just sit back and


let things happen.
if your last relationship didn't workout because you acted this way(social paranoia, obsessive behavior, and clinginess),then you should do the opposite this time
well first of all..forget about the past, and do not base past relationships on future ones. everyone is different, and who knows, maybe something good will come out of it if you just let it. let him know there is no pressure and just keep it lightweight. just focus on the positive and communication with him.