Girlfriend; Weed; Problems - Advice?

okay, im sixteen years old and i am in love; call me crazy but i know i am... I've been going out with this girl for a year and i like everything about her except her marijauna use... She's not like a teen that smokes weed every once in awhile, she smokes it on a daily basis.





I love her to death and i dont want her smoking weed. I've been known to smoke weed before, but i dont let it affect my life; im graduating high school this year at 16 and enlisting in the airforce the day i turn 17 to become a pararescue apprentice and get an education and hopefully stay in for 20+ years and retire early. I consider myself to be a good kid with a great head on my shoulders, but i recently quite smoking weed because i'm turning 17 this august, 2010 (but i never really considered myself a pot smoker in the first place).





Anywayyssss, she lets marijuana affect her daily routine; how shes gunna get money for it, how shes gunna get it, who shes gunna get it from, where shes gunna smoke it. I dont like it at all and like her much better when shes sober.





She told me today that she was blazed and i said ';babe, you shouldnt do that so much :( life isnt about getting high'; - and she said ';actually yes it is; and being with you :)'; and then i said ';well which ones more important?'; and she avoided the question like ';your really gunna make me choose?'; and ';i dont understand why you act like my dad sometimes';





What should i do; i'll accept all suggestions - from things to say, to breaking up with her, to asking her other questions; or anything... thank you....Girlfriend; Weed; Problems - Advice?
I can't tell you what to do, but I can explain some of the choices you face.





First of all, your girlfriend is who she is. She is not going to change just because you ask. If she really changes, it has to be because she wants to. She already knows you don't like her smoking weed, but it is her body and her life, as I am sure she has told you already.





Second, if you are serious about making a career in the Air Force, having a weed user is going to be a real drag. If you wind up together (married), you will probably be living on base, at least a lot of the time. Illegal drugs in your quarters will get you tossed out with a dishonorable discharge, or, worse, get you prosecuted. Don't forget, possession of weed is still a federal crime. You may not take it very seriously, but I can assure you that the 脜ir Force does. If you tell them, ';It's not mine, it's hers,'; they will just laugh. If it is in your quarters, you will be responsible for it.





Just as she doesn't want to choose between weed and you, you probably need to choose between her on the one hand, and your entire future life on the other. That's not an easy thing to do, when you love your girl, but I am afraid it is what you are up against.Girlfriend; Weed; Problems - Advice?
you are young. its hard to see it at the time, but i promise you theres 99% chance she isnt the one. you got your whole life ahead of you and plenty more people to meet. not to mention, anybody that would put a drug above you in a relationship needs to get their priorities together.