Baby Dad Problems...Advice Anyone?

The problem is that my son's real father will see him and then dissappear.A couple of months later he will send me an e-mail stating that if I don't let him see my son he's going to take me to court and all.So I let him see my son and it's the same thing over again right after the visit's over.He says that he's already talked to a lawyer and that he will have my son 1 weekend every 2 weeks if we go to court but, my son doesn't know him!What can I do to fight back and keep him from doing this b/s stuff and acting so immature?My son see's my b/f as his Daddy because he's the only one who's been there pretty much the whole time.I'm just afraid that my son's real dad will get custody or visitation and my son will be HORRIFIED going to some guys house every other weekend that he doesn't know!!What can I do?





Additional:He does pay child support ONLY because it's taken out of his paycheck.When we had an agreement before he didn't pay which is why I took him to court.Baby Dad Problems...Advice Anyone?
The only advice I have for you to do, is talk to a lawyer about the situation. The lawyer will then list options. You dont even have to get a lawyer if you dont have the money, just talk to one about the situation. After that, tell the baby's father what your going to do and that you have talked to a lawyer. If he wants to go to court, then hire a lawyer. You will know ahead of time that he truly is taking you to court because they will send you letters and notify you by mail.Baby Dad Problems...Advice Anyone?
You have no control over what your baby's father does---ever.


You have learned this lesson, having to take him to court to get money out of him.


Assume he will behave this way his entire life, and accept it.


He will only do what he is forced by law to do---but feel no responsibility for anything, ever.
Let me get this straight... You want to prevent your child from getting to know his father? Oh, where do I begin with this one?





First of all, no matter how much you want it to be true, your boyfriend is not, and will never be this child's biological father. There is nothing you can do that will change this fact.





Why would you want to take this opportunity away from your child? Just because things didn't work out between you two, doesn't mean you have the right to erase him from your child's life. Your son will one day be old enough to realize what you're trying to do, and will blame you for his father not being in his life.





You have no legal right to keep your son's biological father from spending time with his son. Even in cases of documented abuse, the father at least has rights to supervised visitation. He is correct in what he's telling you- if this goes to court, you will be forced by the Judge to allow them to spend time together- likely every other weekend at the very least, as well as holidays and special occasions. If you do not allow it, you will go to jail for contempt of court.





Also, payment of child support has nothing to do with a father's right to visitation. If he's not paying, you are still legally obliged to allow him his visitation rights.





Count your blessings. There are so many fathers out there who want nothing to do with their children. It's refreshing to hear of a father that is willing to fight for his right to his children.





Doesn't sound like he's the bad person in this situation. You need to let go of your personal issues, and allow your son to develop his relationship with his father. Sounds to me like you're the one getting in the way of the two getting to know each other. Who cares how much time passes between visits? Perhaps you'll find, if you're a little nicer to him, things might become tolerable- But when it comes down to it, you have no choice in this matter.





You're not doing anybody any favors by trying to erase this child's father- especially for your son. Like I said, it's only a matter of time before he's old enough to realize what you've done- and mark my words, he's going to try to erase YOU from his life once he makes this realization.