Thursday, August 19, 2010

Sleeping problems, advice needed!?

Our 11 month old son is a good little sleeper, i put him in his cot at 10am and 2pm and he self settles and sleeps for about one to two hours. Night time i put him at bed at 8pm and he self settles and stays asleep till about midnight/1am....after that i have no hope of getting him back to sleep in his cot. Only way to get him back to sleep is to have him right next to me cuddling up either in the bed or on the lounge.





I tried last night again to sit it out let him have a little cry but he gets himself that worked up its just awful. When i do pick him up it takes him a good 5-10mins to settle back down.





Do you have an help tips advice on what i can do!? A girlfriend of mine is having the exact same problem with her son and he is 1 month older.





Thank youSleeping problems, advice needed!?
at 11 months children develope very fast and he has most proberly realised that you are not with him when he wakes up and so this is where he comes for a cuddle. The best thing i can suggest is to do a technique called ';controled crying'; now i did this with my son and to be honest it really isnt alot of fun but for me it worked. you settle the child and let him cry for 5 mins then go in to him, re-settle him come out of the room and leave him for 10 mins. ect ect this learns the child that your still there but then you are got coming to be comming in at the same time every time he crys, there is a rule not to let them get left crying for longer than 30 mins though. i hope this is help full and works for you.... and and does the child sleep in your room, as he may well have noticed that your with him and now might be the time to move him out good luck (and if all else fails try and remember it wont last forever)Sleeping problems, advice needed!?
The following tips would probably help your son to sleep through the night. You will certainly find them interesting and easy to follow up.





Hope this would help and good luck.
maybe you should get him a bottle of milk that seems to do the trick if not hit em its good for them helps them build character
Awww, sorry to hear that!





Here is my advice...and it's worked for everyone I've suggested it for!





For nap or nighttime.








Babies go through different cycles, just like us! They have more vivid dreams now too, since they can't tell the difference in their life experiences and dreams of them!





It could also be that she's learning that you will come right away if she fusses, so she is fussing more instead of soothing herself back to sleep. This would be my #1 thought on why she's doing it.





During the night, don't make a habit of running right in! Let your baby learn to sooth back to sleep on it's own. If it continues for more than 20 minutes, go check for dirty diaper, etc. Try not to turn on lights, etc. The less fuss you make, the less a big deal this will be. You don't want to set up a routine in the middle of the night!





If there is teething pain, try using Hyland's Teething Tablets. Much better on your baby's system than pain meds! You can find it at most pharmacys. Walgreens, CVS, Walmart, etc.





I would do your nightly routine to ready baby for bed. Routine at bedtime is a good thing...it gets them in mindset. Calm, quiet and maybe the lights down a little. Cuddle, sing, read, etc.


Kiss babies, put in their own bed.


Maybe avoid those big, killer, PUPPY EYES! They're the downfall of many! LOL!


After putting baby down, hum a little as you walk away. ';Good night, mommy loves you!';


DON'T pick your baby up again. If you do, they expect you to pick them up every time.


Go in every few minutes, sooth your baby, sing, pat on the back, and leave again. Repeat this...sometimes many times.


Your baby may get more than fussy before the first night is over. Sometimes it is pretty easy.


The idea is that your baby will learn you ARE there, but that you are NOT going to pick your baby up. They may think that if they can't see or feel you, that you are actually gone. This will reassure your baby.


After a few times, try to hum or sing from the hallway instead of actually going in.


It may take a couple of nights for your baby to sooth itself to sleep.





Be strong! It's never easy, but it's so much better to do NOW!





Good luck...
Once they realize you are not there, there is not much you can do. I personally don't like the controlled crying method. I play with them, get them active for them to be worn out before they go to bed. I stay with them until they fall asleep. I get a book, sit next to them with my book light and once they are asleep, I go about my business so I can go to bed and be ready for the following day. With the controlled crying you still need to be near by to ensure they don't cry for so long and reasure them, so I might as well just stay with them until they are soudn asleep and I get a chance to catch up on ready. For their naps, the same thing, activity to get them tired enought so they can fall asleep on their own.





As for trying a bottle, maybe that may work up until 12, 14 months, but you have to think about the health of their teeth. They may be little but they need to be brushed before going to bed. You need to consider perhaps this may become a habit and they will always want to go to sleep with a bottle.





Another thing my little ones love to sleep with its a extra soft fuzzy blanket. So I have a lot of those and I rotate them so they don't get attached to just one blanket. They don't use it all the time, but when they are having a hard time falling asleep, they grab it and it comforts them too. I don't let them take the blanket any where else other than their bed.





Also, teething keeps them up at night, so maybe try the homeopathic theething pills to help them sleep. Or maybe your baby has outgrown napping twice a day and only needs one nap a day so he can sleep through the night. My youngest started napping only once a day for two hours at 12 months, and then stayed up till bed time and woke up almost 11 hrs later.





Those are just some of the things I do and it works for us. Every child is different so you got to play around with things to see what works.





Hope this helps and good luck...

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