Boyfriend problems...advice please?

My boyfriend of 5 years broke up with me on new years eve and then tried taking it back...well I finally decided to give him another chance and he came over on Monday then today we ran to his house and I needed to use the comp to get an address for something I needed to mail and he immediately didn't want me to saying there was stuff he didn't want me to see...after arguing for awhile he FINALLY showed me his facebook with messages to a girl he works with (a girl he had admitted to me that he liked) The messages were all while we were broke up...but then when we got back to my house I got back on his account and found a lot more messages to several girls saying things like ';I'm single'; ';I'm using my middle name because I don't want my EX to find me'; ';We should hang out'; and talking about hanging out with the girl from work in his car one night, ';I can't stand my EX'; etc...All of these messages were from August-November before we ever broke up....What do I do?Boyfriend problems...advice please?
Not to sound like a jerk but it sounds like he's trying to keep you around as a back up plan





You have three options:





1. Confront him: if he denies it, he's not worth it


if he comes clean you're going to have to have a long heart to heart talk and if he isn't willing to do that he isn't worth it either





2. You could just dump him on the spot for saying such things and treating you this way





3. You could just ignore it and deal with it, but this is not very healthy for you as he will probably be yanking you around by the chain a lotBoyfriend problems...advice please?
Stop being so nosey and getting yourself hurt
That really sucks! He is a moron and forget about him. Dont try to get revenge, plz! it will make things worse.
Yo umove on. Things happen for a reason, be optimistic, maybe this happened to open your doors to bigger and better things. Then again he did admit to it. But at the end you had to get it out of him so he is not worth.
DUMP HiM!! OBViOUSLY HE CANT KEEP THiNGS HONEST WiTH YOU... GiRL YOU CAN DO MUCH BETTER THAN THAT i MEAN YEAH iTS GOiNG TO BE HARD SiNCE YALL WENT OUT FOR 5 YEARS BUT SEEiNG THiNGS LiKE THAT iSNT RiGHT iF HE REALLY WANTED YOU HE WOULDNT SAY ANYTHiNG LiKE THAT TO ANY OTHER FEMALE JUST TO GET SOME... iF YOU STAY WiTH HiM. HE CAN BE LYiNG/GOiNG AROUND YOUR BACK TiLL YOU CATCH HiM AND YOUR THE ONE THATS GONNA BE HURT. BUT iF YOU LET HiM GO iTS GOiNG TO HURT A BiT BUT YOUR GONNA HAVE A PEACE iN MiND THAT YOU DiD iT FOR GOOD. THAT YOUR NOT GONNA GET HURT AND STUFF....
this may sound harsh, but if this guy broke up w/ you once for this chick, then obviously he just wanted her and who, knows maybe she wasnt as great as he thought, but he should have thought about that before he broke up with you. you deserve someone that wants you all the time, not just when it's convinient for them...
Aww i'm sorry to hear this. He sounds like a bit of loser %26amp; you could probably do a lot better than him.





On the other hand, if you really love him %26amp; think he's changed towards you, give him a chance. Personally i probably wouldn't because i'd think it would end up going the same way. It's pretty horrible he spoke about you like that :(





Out of self respect, i'd tell him where to go ;)
He's a player, run, do not walk, away from this loser. He will always be a player. We players do not change.
I am so sorry. It must hurt so bad that you can't see that he is clearly not good for you anymore. Please for the sake of your self-respect do not go back with this guy. I felt angry on your behalf as I read that - you don't deserve to be treated/used like that. His credit is no longer valid so I wouldn't accept an apology from him esp after 5 years holy cow. Good luck.





i agree with tikinouso (sp?) - he is so keeping you as a back up
break up with him....what an a**hole...(sorry) he doesnt deserve you... hes a player.... im really sorry bout my language but hes really a jerk and i hate players....well its up to you actually. trust is one thing but what you saw is another...good luck...
well it seems he is a player and he is playing with your emotions. he has something else going on, on the side which doesn't look good at all. sit down like a grown up and talk to him and tell him that his is not gonna work and that you don't wanna date him anymore.


Hope this helped


~s@m