Love problems. Advice please?

ok, so i've been dating this guy for about a month and a half.


he really likes me and tells me he loves my frequently.


i've never really been in love but i say it anyway, just cause i feel it's the right thing to do and say. i know this is wrong but im scared what will happen if i dont say it. i feel stuck, like i dont get butterflies when we kiss or when we touch. he gets on my last nerve, he's immature and annoying. but i love his hugs and how he'll cuddle with me. i'm scared to end things because i dont wanna hurt him, ill see him all the time, ill miss his hugs, ill miss him period if i do, everyone will hate me (his friends are my friends too) so i will lose a lot of friends, so i don't really know what to do. i tell him i love him back all the time and if i break up with him ill look like such a huge ***** and liar. but overall im not happy, but im scared i wont be happy without him either for different reasons. then he knows that i talk to this one guy, and they dont like each other. he gets jealous and mad. he asks me all the time if i will break up with him, or if ill break up with him for the other guy. the other guy, lets call him ';pete';, wants me to break up with my current boyfriend, and i really like pete. my current boyfriend, we can call him ';roy';, asks me alllll the time if i like pete and i always say no even though i do. but overall im just a confused teenager who needs some advice, and really fast.


soo,


should i break up with roy?


what do i do about pete?


should i stick things out?


should i try to get HIM to break up with ME?





i will love you forever if you let me know your opinion, and what i should do.


please and thank you in advance. (:Love problems. Advice please?
Im rooting for Pete....Kick Roy to the curb he gets undr your skin and your never going to be happy!Love problems. Advice please?
Things are always worse if you trying to make someone break up with you. Playing games does nothing but make you look worse. This is something my mom taught me: Take a piece of paper and write down the pros and cons of each guy. Dont write down what you feel, write down whats true and if its worth it staying with someone that doesnt make you happy. Hope that works!
First stop saying I love you. That's not helping.


Second the longer you wait to breakup with him the more it will hurt him.


If you aren't happy than just go, do it face to face and be understanding if he is mad. As for your friends if they are really your friends they will still be after the breakup.


DO NOT GO OUT WITH PETE. If you breakup with Roy and immediately start dating Pete than he and his friends will hate you. It will make it seem like you are breaking up with Roy for Pete rather than breaking up with Roy because you don't want him. Wait a while before you start dating again out of respect for Roy, That is if you still want to be friends.





After Roy finds another interest date Pete. If that takes too long give it a month.


good luck
girl your all screwed up arent you? lol





well as for roy it seems as though you dont have genuine feelings for him, your friends and your comfortable with him and he gives you the attention you love. theres nothing wrong with liking attention and disliking change but it is wrong to play with his emotions, i myself was in a similar situation. if you care about pete genuinely then you should end it...





or you could sit roy down and discuss the things that you dont like about him and try and work it out... if you can honestly say that your still with roy cuz you love him then try and work it out but if you cant then its not fare to you or him and its time to let go and move on.... if you choose to do that then wait alittle while before you get with pete just to give yourself a break and allow some healing time for roy.





as for your friends, Who cares? true that you and roy share the same friends but if theyre really Your friends then they need to relise that its you and ROYS relationship, it doesnt involve them and they need to respect your desicion, they dont have to agree with you or like it but as you friend they need to respect it.





DO NOT try to make him break up with you, you WILL regret it later. handle it calmly and maturely just sit down and talk.





but fist you need to search yourself and decide if you wanna end it or make it.





its hard to hurt him because you do care for him but it would hurt him more if you stayed when you dont care, enventually itll hurt him even more.....





ya know also relationships arent allways gonna be kissy kissy lovey dovey, your not allways gonna get butterflies. perhaps roy is your bestfriend. sigh... really no one can give you perfect advise cuz we dont know the whole situation. we dont know whats in your heart or theyres.... but think of this. if you had to live WITHOUT either roy or pete who would it be? could you stand seeing another girl getting loving looks and warm hugs from roy? i think yo needa just stop and really think hard about this. maybe instead of asking people on yahoo for advise and talking to us about maybe you should be doing that with roy. hmm?








good luck girl,





aeonel





message me if you needa vent. ^_^





aeonelx@yahoo.com
Honestly, you don't love Roy. You are using roy as a security blanket, maybe to keep you from being lonely, or just to keep away boredom. HOwever, you don't love him, and the relationship will never work with Roy. There will always be doubt, because it is not right. It will be hard, b/c you don't want to hurt his feelings. but you are going to do it in the long run anyway b/c you are not right.





Take care of yourself and make good decisions for yourself.





Go with your gut.





My advice. just date Pete. Be alone, focus on school and get good grades, and use protection so you don't get pregnant and then you are stuck with them and the baby.
Ha. This is exactly what I went through for almost two years. I questioned things all the time, told myself to be quiet that I was only freaking out because I was being silly. I had unresolved things with my ex and I still liked him but told my boyfriend that I didn't. He was constantly jealous of my ex. I stayed with the guy for a year and nine months and I broke up with him less than a month ago. It was probably the hardest thing I ever had to do but that's just it...I had to do it. I wasn't happy. It wouldn't have been fair to him to stay with him only so that I didn't hurt him because it's just like lying to him. It wouldn't have been fair to me because I deserve to have that fantastic love that makes me feel alive and makes my heart be so fast and most of all I deserve to just be happy. My advice is simple, you just have to end it. I had three of my friends telling me exactly what I am telling you for months before I finally got the courage to do it and I'm still happy with my decision. You don't want to try to get him to break up with you because that's just exhausting and if he ever found out you did that, he would be hurt even more than if you just told him you don't feel that spark and you don't think it's fair to either of you to keep on dating. Tell him that you think that you'd be better of as friends. You haven't been dating so long that that reason sounds strange. Among those things I also had to add on that I couldn't see myself marrying him when I broke it off and I know that stung but it needed to be said. You're still young, there's plenty of time for I love you's and all of that just have fun being young and single while you can be. :) Good luck, hope I helped.
break up with roy . why stay your not happy , isn't fair on him and your not being true to yourself . forget what your friends think isn't their life . they will be plenty of hugs with someone else . as for pete leave that for alittle bit give roy sometime to get over you . if pete Truly is the one and he feels the same he will wait for a bit . good luck
tell him that you and pete are just friends


don't say i luv u if u don't mean it cause if u do say it and don't mean it the words aren't as special


say ';that's amazing cause i think i'm almost to the point where i luv u 2';


good luck


be careful whatever u do u don't want 2 lose both of them





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if your not in love i think you need to sit him down and talk to him. tell him your true feelings. let him know, dont play along for any reason. Love is strong feeling that does not need to be played