I sort of like this girl and i am good friends with her and a group of boys and girls. There is a boy in this group who i don't really like because he told me that life would be better if i were never born. Anyway, this boy is constantly cutting me off from this girl and asking her for a hug (as a joke) but i can see he really enjoys the attention. I'm trying to wait to tell her how i feel and ask her out but as long as this ******** guy is there i can't.
Please help! PS i'm only 11.Any advice on friendship problems?
first off...your too young to be worried about things like that. Friends will come and go and thats a proven fact!!!!
The boys sounds like he likes you...hes jealou, hes dealing with something on the inside and in order to make himself feel better is to piss you off....
Dont let ppl see when your mad and if the girl is your friend she will understand when yall talk about itAny advice on friendship problems?
Call her on the phone, that way the other guy can't be there to interfere.
He's just jealous. Try talking to her when you don't see this boy.
yeah call her text her don't let him annoy you he is jealous go to town with her and a few of her friend and a few of yours!good luck
ur 11! u may feel like this is a big issue right now but trust me its not....u'll have plenty of time later on to think about girls...in the mean time go do some homework...ur friends r seriously immature and have a lot of growing up to do! :)
Saturday, July 31, 2010
Problems??? Advice please!?
I went to the bathroom a minute ago, and when I wiped, the toilet paper had light pink blood on it. Here's a little background information that might be helpful: I haven't had sex in about 3 weeks. My period was from October 3-7, and was shorter than normal.. its usually 5 days. I was sick for about half a day a couple of weekends ago with a terrible headache and vomiting. I've felt nauseous for short periods of time at random parts of the day, and have had more discharge lately. The last couple of days I've also had a sharp pain in the lower left side of my back... not period pains, but almost like a pulled muscle pain. What could this be?Problems??? Advice please!?
You could have passed a kidney stone. I've had multiple kidney stones, when they traveled from my kidney through ureter to my bladder, it caused me a great deal of nausea and vomiting, not to mention it hurt. When the stone is in your bladder an you are trying to pee it out it could cause some slight bleeding too. Plus my back felt like someone stomped on it. Either way make sure you see the doctor. Good luck!Problems??? Advice please!?
well if you think there is a chance you could be pregnant (you can have a period early inpregnancy) you should call your doctor, a pain like that might indicate an ectopic pregnancy
The lower back pain and blood in the urine makes me think kidneys.. have you been injured recently?
I really think you should see a doctor.
I agree with Savory...it does sound like a kidney problem, perhaps an infection and hopefully nothing worse. It sounds worth a trip to your doctor.
It is time for a pap exam. Is there a possibility of pregnancy? Do you have pink on the toilet paper when you wipe after sex? It can be what others have said about kidneys. Another area to have checked is your cervix. What does the discharge look like? Get a pap because this can be a number of things and the worst of it can be cervical cancer so do not hesitate on the pap exam.
They may send you for a pelvic ultra sound. Get it checked out and go from there.
Best Wishes!
I would be thinking probably a kidney or bladder stone...I think you need to see a doctor very soon.....this could get worse and require some type of intervention......
Good luck!!!!
You could have passed a kidney stone. I've had multiple kidney stones, when they traveled from my kidney through ureter to my bladder, it caused me a great deal of nausea and vomiting, not to mention it hurt. When the stone is in your bladder an you are trying to pee it out it could cause some slight bleeding too. Plus my back felt like someone stomped on it. Either way make sure you see the doctor. Good luck!Problems??? Advice please!?
well if you think there is a chance you could be pregnant (you can have a period early inpregnancy) you should call your doctor, a pain like that might indicate an ectopic pregnancy
The lower back pain and blood in the urine makes me think kidneys.. have you been injured recently?
I really think you should see a doctor.
I agree with Savory...it does sound like a kidney problem, perhaps an infection and hopefully nothing worse. It sounds worth a trip to your doctor.
It is time for a pap exam. Is there a possibility of pregnancy? Do you have pink on the toilet paper when you wipe after sex? It can be what others have said about kidneys. Another area to have checked is your cervix. What does the discharge look like? Get a pap because this can be a number of things and the worst of it can be cervical cancer so do not hesitate on the pap exam.
They may send you for a pelvic ultra sound. Get it checked out and go from there.
Best Wishes!
I would be thinking probably a kidney or bladder stone...I think you need to see a doctor very soon.....this could get worse and require some type of intervention......
Good luck!!!!
I am a married woman and sometimes I do have problems with my husband due to money issue. Please advice me.?
that is the biggest reason ppl fight!
try talking instead of yelling...it takes A LOT of effort, but it's better than screaming and getting upset over something stupid.
and YES money is stupid...what is more important...your marriage or your money?
my husband and i NEVER fight about money..otherwise we would be very unhappy.
yelling doesn't fix things. communication *its not cliche* does work best if calmly utilized.I am a married woman and sometimes I do have problems with my husband due to money issue. Please advice me.?
Money causes more fights than anything eles. Specificlywhat is the problem? If he won't get a job, even after u tell him he should if he loves u , leave him!. If u r just not satified w/ what u or he make, can u find a way to be happy w/ less? Post some more specific questions, please.I am a married woman and sometimes I do have problems with my husband due to money issue. Please advice me.?
Money problems huh?
Well those problems are common to lots of couples. the way through any problem is to sit and talk about them.. There are sometimes obvious solutions to even the most difficult situations.. if the obvious answers don't apply then seek professional help in financial matters, the worst thing possible is to let things get out of control..
we need more details ;-)
Call the cops, and tell them that he beats you. They always believe the woman, and will haul his butt off to jail,,,,,, this should wake him up ...
Get rid of.........
Fix with pschotropic meds
Counseling
Please elaborate...........
It depends on who spends the most unwisely.
Talk about larger purchases (over $50.00) together.
Adopt the policy (less is more). Good Luck.
try talking instead of yelling...it takes A LOT of effort, but it's better than screaming and getting upset over something stupid.
and YES money is stupid...what is more important...your marriage or your money?
my husband and i NEVER fight about money..otherwise we would be very unhappy.
yelling doesn't fix things. communication *its not cliche* does work best if calmly utilized.I am a married woman and sometimes I do have problems with my husband due to money issue. Please advice me.?
Money causes more fights than anything eles. Specificlywhat is the problem? If he won't get a job, even after u tell him he should if he loves u , leave him!. If u r just not satified w/ what u or he make, can u find a way to be happy w/ less? Post some more specific questions, please.I am a married woman and sometimes I do have problems with my husband due to money issue. Please advice me.?
Money problems huh?
Well those problems are common to lots of couples. the way through any problem is to sit and talk about them.. There are sometimes obvious solutions to even the most difficult situations.. if the obvious answers don't apply then seek professional help in financial matters, the worst thing possible is to let things get out of control..
we need more details ;-)
Call the cops, and tell them that he beats you. They always believe the woman, and will haul his butt off to jail,,,,,, this should wake him up ...
Get rid of.........
Fix with pschotropic meds
Counseling
Please elaborate...........
It depends on who spends the most unwisely.
Talk about larger purchases (over $50.00) together.
Adopt the policy (less is more). Good Luck.
Potty training problems. Any advice will help.?
My son is two and he was starting to use the potty but now he runs screaming from it. When I ask him what is wrong he says the potty is going to eat him and he is scared. I have tried to reassure him nothing is going to happen and my four year old daughter has been trying to help too but nothing is working. He loves to flush the toilet so it's not the sound of the toilet and he has a toddler potty too. What am I doing wrong? Please help.Potty training problems. Any advice will help.?
Hi. This website will have everything you need to know about Potty training your son. It covers
When to start?
Getting ready
Basic steps for toilet training
Wet nights
Using training pants
Set backs and accidents
Health problems
http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/t鈥?/a>
Hi. This website will have everything you need to know about Potty training your son. It covers
When to start?
Getting ready
Basic steps for toilet training
Wet nights
Using training pants
Set backs and accidents
Health problems
http://raisingchildren.net.au/articles/t鈥?/a>
Anyone with heart problems got any advice on living long?
Exercises you do
Foods you enjoy
how long you have lived after your heart problem
%26amp; any guilty pleasures you have that the DR. hates
Thank you for your answersAnyone with heart problems got any advice on living long?
My Dad lived 31 years after his heart attack.
You are supposed to do less strenuous exercise, but long cardio is great for you, and over time that can be increased in intensity as long as you feel good, and watch your heart rate. You are mostly heart rate constrained in your activities, and it depends on your complications.
Eat lots of fruits, berries, kiwis, apples, dark grapes and pomegranates, and others. Take grape seed extract. Chicken white meat and salmon are great for you.
All fatty foods give me angina since I have really bad blockages, so I don't do that.Anyone with heart problems got any advice on living long?
I don't have a heart issue, but my dad had three heart attacks and the third killed him. He didn't do much of what he was suppose to do, so if you have kids and don't wanna drop dead infront of them on a family holiday then listen carefully. Walk everyday for 30 min. Brisk walking if you can. Avoid food high in cholestrol and saturated fats, also trans fat is very bad too. No red meat, no animal fat, limit the caffine. Drink fat free milk. stay away from greasy food like cheese. No more fried foods either. Stick to raw, baked or grilled food. Lot's of veggies and fruit. Unfortunately most people with heart problems are people that ate bad thier whole life, when you do that you have to pay be being good for the rest of your life. Also, quit smoking if you do and no drugs. Don't do what my Dad did.
Foods you enjoy
how long you have lived after your heart problem
%26amp; any guilty pleasures you have that the DR. hates
Thank you for your answersAnyone with heart problems got any advice on living long?
My Dad lived 31 years after his heart attack.
You are supposed to do less strenuous exercise, but long cardio is great for you, and over time that can be increased in intensity as long as you feel good, and watch your heart rate. You are mostly heart rate constrained in your activities, and it depends on your complications.
Eat lots of fruits, berries, kiwis, apples, dark grapes and pomegranates, and others. Take grape seed extract. Chicken white meat and salmon are great for you.
All fatty foods give me angina since I have really bad blockages, so I don't do that.Anyone with heart problems got any advice on living long?
I don't have a heart issue, but my dad had three heart attacks and the third killed him. He didn't do much of what he was suppose to do, so if you have kids and don't wanna drop dead infront of them on a family holiday then listen carefully. Walk everyday for 30 min. Brisk walking if you can. Avoid food high in cholestrol and saturated fats, also trans fat is very bad too. No red meat, no animal fat, limit the caffine. Drink fat free milk. stay away from greasy food like cheese. No more fried foods either. Stick to raw, baked or grilled food. Lot's of veggies and fruit. Unfortunately most people with heart problems are people that ate bad thier whole life, when you do that you have to pay be being good for the rest of your life. Also, quit smoking if you do and no drugs. Don't do what my Dad did.
More guy problems, any advice?
I've been talking to this guy for a few months. We see each other for time to time, but because of my busy schedule, all we've been doing is talking on the phone. Most of the time when we're talking we run out of things to talk about and here we are quiet, saying absolutely nothing on the phone. It's getting real old and boring. Does anyone have any advice on that?More guy problems, any advice?
See him in person more. You'll get to know each other better.
And on the phone you can be like oh remember that time when we did this...or that time you said that.More guy problems, any advice?
This is the time to really get to know one another and really see if you two are compatible. Find out about his favorites, such as: color, sport, actor, aunt/uncle, hobbies,tv or movie Discuss your and his future plans,college or trade school. What about children? Get his thoughts on marriage. What about charity, would he ever volunteer? There are so many things to talk about. I can't believe you are running out of things to talk about. You can make the conversation fun (music, parties) serious (religious, politics, education, the state of the world, employment, etc.) or romantic (where you would go for romantic dinners, or vacations). It does not matter how old you are to discuss these topics. Stay current read more to be more aware of what is happening in the world, this will also give you more to talk about.
Okay you need to see eachother more like atleast once a week or something because you can always find more interesting topics about eachother in person because you can read the body language and see everything.I think that this relationship you have with this guy is kinda unhealthy and you should either see eachother more or break it off. But you have to decide if you like him enough to make room for him in your liffe.....
I talk to a girl I know alot on the phone and we do run outta things to talk about alot. (Known each other and talked for over 3 years.) All we do is litterally talk about any random thing that pops into our head. Like if my feet are cold right then I'll say they are .. its not a good conversation but it does keep the line noisy at least.
Eventually we find something to talk about and keep the convo going. I also talk about what my pets did that day. Just talk about anything even the small little things that you normally wouldn't talk about..anything to keep each other talking.
Instead of wasting time with phone calls why don't you take up a hobby? Photography, painting, learning to play the guitar, these are all very fun and creative ways to fire up your inner passions, without the need to waste time on the phone while life passes you by.
Well heres my tip, whenever that happens to me, i just be random, say whatever comes to mind and go from there. If you get a respectable person who senses a sense of humor in you, than he/she will respect that and go with it, and have a laugh or two. Just say what comes to mind and see what happens.
Sounds like you have nothing left to talk about. You should work on yourselves, your futures, your responsibilities. Try not talking to each other for a few days, a week or 2 and I bet it will be fun again.
Yea you could get of the phone. or you could ask him is interests if he is into anything cool. talk about the stuff you two are into.
Yeah. Do things with him (sex possibly). Make him want more and want to see you more and that will open more conversation possibilities as well.
talking on the phone sure isn't an option
trie to see him more often
i know you're busy but that's the only way to have a relationship with him
It means you are probably trying to force something that just isn't there. When you really like a person you don't get bored talking to them
See him. That's the only way you'll know if there is anything there. Phone calls get old.
You're trying too hard.
If you can't make time for him, it's probably gonna go nowhere fast, so try to see him.
Less talk more action. Keep the fires of seduction raging in his pants!
leave him.
its not worth it and if youre bored then tht all you need to know really.
dump him!!!!!!!!!!!!!how to apply
See him in person more. You'll get to know each other better.
And on the phone you can be like oh remember that time when we did this...or that time you said that.More guy problems, any advice?
This is the time to really get to know one another and really see if you two are compatible. Find out about his favorites, such as: color, sport, actor, aunt/uncle, hobbies,tv or movie Discuss your and his future plans,college or trade school. What about children? Get his thoughts on marriage. What about charity, would he ever volunteer? There are so many things to talk about. I can't believe you are running out of things to talk about. You can make the conversation fun (music, parties) serious (religious, politics, education, the state of the world, employment, etc.) or romantic (where you would go for romantic dinners, or vacations). It does not matter how old you are to discuss these topics. Stay current read more to be more aware of what is happening in the world, this will also give you more to talk about.
Okay you need to see eachother more like atleast once a week or something because you can always find more interesting topics about eachother in person because you can read the body language and see everything.I think that this relationship you have with this guy is kinda unhealthy and you should either see eachother more or break it off. But you have to decide if you like him enough to make room for him in your liffe.....
I talk to a girl I know alot on the phone and we do run outta things to talk about alot. (Known each other and talked for over 3 years.) All we do is litterally talk about any random thing that pops into our head. Like if my feet are cold right then I'll say they are .. its not a good conversation but it does keep the line noisy at least.
Eventually we find something to talk about and keep the convo going. I also talk about what my pets did that day. Just talk about anything even the small little things that you normally wouldn't talk about..anything to keep each other talking.
Instead of wasting time with phone calls why don't you take up a hobby? Photography, painting, learning to play the guitar, these are all very fun and creative ways to fire up your inner passions, without the need to waste time on the phone while life passes you by.
Well heres my tip, whenever that happens to me, i just be random, say whatever comes to mind and go from there. If you get a respectable person who senses a sense of humor in you, than he/she will respect that and go with it, and have a laugh or two. Just say what comes to mind and see what happens.
Sounds like you have nothing left to talk about. You should work on yourselves, your futures, your responsibilities. Try not talking to each other for a few days, a week or 2 and I bet it will be fun again.
Yea you could get of the phone. or you could ask him is interests if he is into anything cool. talk about the stuff you two are into.
Yeah. Do things with him (sex possibly). Make him want more and want to see you more and that will open more conversation possibilities as well.
talking on the phone sure isn't an option
trie to see him more often
i know you're busy but that's the only way to have a relationship with him
It means you are probably trying to force something that just isn't there. When you really like a person you don't get bored talking to them
See him. That's the only way you'll know if there is anything there. Phone calls get old.
You're trying too hard.
If you can't make time for him, it's probably gonna go nowhere fast, so try to see him.
Less talk more action. Keep the fires of seduction raging in his pants!
leave him.
its not worth it and if youre bored then tht all you need to know really.
dump him!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I have problems. Please advice for me. I'm hearing impaired with my right ear.?
I'm from Philippines. I'm 21 years old. I'm female. I have hearing loss 100% in my right ear and other one in half. I also have speechless. I don't know what i choose my college courses.
Please help me. I hope that there's someone who advice me.
Thank you.I have problems. Please advice for me. I'm hearing impaired with my right ear.?
I know you're from the Philippines, so I'm not sure how possible this is for you, but in the US there are two universities that are primarily for the Deaf and hard of hearing. Gallaudet University, in Washington, DC, is a very good liberal arts college, and is a Deaf/HH school. The National Technical Institute for the Deaf, which is part of the Rochester Institute of Technology in NY State, is another option. Both schools accept international students, and as I understand it, both can provide some level of financial aid to international students with financial need. Gallaudet is *extremely* prestigious, but not horribly hard to get into. If you're interested, you should apply.
Whether you stay in the Philippines or not, you need to think about what you may want to do for a career, and that will help you in terms of picking courses, because the reality is, the only thing you can't do that a hearing/speaking person can do is hear and speak. You could therefore become a software engineer, a social worker (perhaps who works with the Deaf?), a psychologist, a doctor, an accountant, a teacher (perhaps of the Deaf?), and etc. Yes, your being unable to hear well, and unable to speak, should influence what you choose... but your options may be broader than you think.
For example, one of my Deaf friends, who does not speak English (only speaks ASL), went to Gallaudet and now works as a software programmer. Another works as a teacher of the Deaf. Another works for a not-for-profit (charity). Another is a full-time professional actor - yes, an actor, who works both in productions for the Deaf and in those for people who can hear. Another is actually a professional figure skating coach.
You can do a lot. What are you interested in, personally?I have problems. Please advice for me. I'm hearing impaired with my right ear.?
In the US all colleges, even community colleges, have college advisers. they help you choose your classes and arrange your schedule.
Please help me. I hope that there's someone who advice me.
Thank you.I have problems. Please advice for me. I'm hearing impaired with my right ear.?
I know you're from the Philippines, so I'm not sure how possible this is for you, but in the US there are two universities that are primarily for the Deaf and hard of hearing. Gallaudet University, in Washington, DC, is a very good liberal arts college, and is a Deaf/HH school. The National Technical Institute for the Deaf, which is part of the Rochester Institute of Technology in NY State, is another option. Both schools accept international students, and as I understand it, both can provide some level of financial aid to international students with financial need. Gallaudet is *extremely* prestigious, but not horribly hard to get into. If you're interested, you should apply.
Whether you stay in the Philippines or not, you need to think about what you may want to do for a career, and that will help you in terms of picking courses, because the reality is, the only thing you can't do that a hearing/speaking person can do is hear and speak. You could therefore become a software engineer, a social worker (perhaps who works with the Deaf?), a psychologist, a doctor, an accountant, a teacher (perhaps of the Deaf?), and etc. Yes, your being unable to hear well, and unable to speak, should influence what you choose... but your options may be broader than you think.
For example, one of my Deaf friends, who does not speak English (only speaks ASL), went to Gallaudet and now works as a software programmer. Another works as a teacher of the Deaf. Another works for a not-for-profit (charity). Another is a full-time professional actor - yes, an actor, who works both in productions for the Deaf and in those for people who can hear. Another is actually a professional figure skating coach.
You can do a lot. What are you interested in, personally?I have problems. Please advice for me. I'm hearing impaired with my right ear.?
In the US all colleges, even community colleges, have college advisers. they help you choose your classes and arrange your schedule.
Advice for word problems on tests?
I get really confused..Advice for word problems on tests?
Take them one step at a time.
1. Read the problem the whole way through.
2. Identify (in one sentence) what the problem is asking you to do.
3. Figure out what bits of information are given to you.
4. Determine what bits of information you need.
5. Create a strategy for using what you do know to find out what you don't - a formula, a method, a format. Think about what you've been working on in class or the type of test you're taking.
6. Implement your strategy.
7. Check your work.
That rough outline works for math problems the same as it works for English problems. If you get confused you just need to figure out a way to break it down into smaller pieces - so you can handle one step at a time. I don't know if you're referring to a specific subject (math maybe?), but the general approach is the same.
Take your time, re-read things as necessary, and of course ask questions!
Good luck. :)
Take them one step at a time.
1. Read the problem the whole way through.
2. Identify (in one sentence) what the problem is asking you to do.
3. Figure out what bits of information are given to you.
4. Determine what bits of information you need.
5. Create a strategy for using what you do know to find out what you don't - a formula, a method, a format. Think about what you've been working on in class or the type of test you're taking.
6. Implement your strategy.
7. Check your work.
That rough outline works for math problems the same as it works for English problems. If you get confused you just need to figure out a way to break it down into smaller pieces - so you can handle one step at a time. I don't know if you're referring to a specific subject (math maybe?), but the general approach is the same.
Take your time, re-read things as necessary, and of course ask questions!
Good luck. :)
Can A Person With Severe Psychological Problems Give Useful Advice To Others?
Thought this was a pretty good question. It was in my text book. They go on to discuss persons such as Einstein and Van Gogh, who were considered ';eccentric';, but contributed greatly to society. I never thought about that before. I think, every case is different, and it all depends on the situation. Also, I wouldn't consider the eccentric nature's of Van Gogh and Einstein to be severe psychological problems...although I should probably do my research before saying that. lolCan A Person With Severe Psychological Problems Give Useful Advice To Others?
Better question should be...
Should a perfectly rational sane person take advice from a whack job? (Im kidding)
But seriously...
Many of the most creative and intelligent people in the world were considered mentally ill..
Personally, I don't see a problem with it far past the fact that I also question the doctors passing out the diagnosis. Some people are just different... not crazy. I used to receive advise from my patients that I worked with all the time... It never bothered me if they were ill. sometimes, you have to use your wisdom and determine for yourself what is use full and what isn't above and beyond what is just popular mainstream acceptance.Can A Person With Severe Psychological Problems Give Useful Advice To Others?
Yes Girlfriend We Can! I'm on meds and I make more sense then the so called norm! Don't let your psychological problems make you feel that you're not a part of the world. Look at people who are Autistic! They're smarter then some scientist! I don't give a fine f*ck about what people say about me! I never did even as a child. So do not sweat the madness! I just finished cussing out 2 racist on a previous question! And I feel numb as a board.
Yes, as president Bush is advising other countries as to conduct themselves . Either you are with us or against us. Isnt that a useful advice. Is he not eccentric, has he not contributed to the world peace.
generally, yes because they are more likely to understand how their own minds work and therefore possibly how others minds work. i would question what severe means... how severe? there is a point where a person would be incapable of giving useful advice.
I think this is a great question. I gave you a ';good question'; vote. =]
I think they definetely give useful advice because their views are different.. All of the greatest scientists, artists, mathmaticians (etc..) thought outside of the box.
Sure everyone has lucid moments.
And Van Gogh's ';eccentric nature'; was depression and severe enough to make him commit sucide.
GREAT QUESTION. THUMBS UP!
YES. I THINK THAT ALL PEOPLE HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER THAT IS OF VALUE TO SOMEONE.
PEOPLE COULD LEARN A LOT FROM CHILDREN IF THEY HAD MORE RESPECT FOR THEM, AND THEIR LACK OF EXPERIENCE. THINK ABOUT IT. THEY HAVE NOT YET LEARNED HOW TO LIE OR DECEIVE, AND THEY SAY WHAT'S ON THEIR MINDS.
I AGREE WITH YOU. IT'S ALL RELATIVE, HONEY.
';give useful advice to others'; seems the wrong phrase here, as that's not what your two examples did. Einstein was a scientist, Van Gogh an artist. They didn't ';give advice'; as such.
Of course some people who are ';different'; will come up with things other people don't.
People in general are narrow-minded about what everyone should be like, and ignorant and intolerant of much of the natural variation there is among people.
I think it's good that we aren't all identical, but, though many give lip service to this idea, they despise those who differ from them.
Better question should be...
Should a perfectly rational sane person take advice from a whack job? (Im kidding)
But seriously...
Many of the most creative and intelligent people in the world were considered mentally ill..
Personally, I don't see a problem with it far past the fact that I also question the doctors passing out the diagnosis. Some people are just different... not crazy. I used to receive advise from my patients that I worked with all the time... It never bothered me if they were ill. sometimes, you have to use your wisdom and determine for yourself what is use full and what isn't above and beyond what is just popular mainstream acceptance.Can A Person With Severe Psychological Problems Give Useful Advice To Others?
Yes Girlfriend We Can! I'm on meds and I make more sense then the so called norm! Don't let your psychological problems make you feel that you're not a part of the world. Look at people who are Autistic! They're smarter then some scientist! I don't give a fine f*ck about what people say about me! I never did even as a child. So do not sweat the madness! I just finished cussing out 2 racist on a previous question! And I feel numb as a board.
Yes, as president Bush is advising other countries as to conduct themselves . Either you are with us or against us. Isnt that a useful advice. Is he not eccentric, has he not contributed to the world peace.
generally, yes because they are more likely to understand how their own minds work and therefore possibly how others minds work. i would question what severe means... how severe? there is a point where a person would be incapable of giving useful advice.
I think this is a great question. I gave you a ';good question'; vote. =]
I think they definetely give useful advice because their views are different.. All of the greatest scientists, artists, mathmaticians (etc..) thought outside of the box.
Sure everyone has lucid moments.
And Van Gogh's ';eccentric nature'; was depression and severe enough to make him commit sucide.
GREAT QUESTION. THUMBS UP!
YES. I THINK THAT ALL PEOPLE HAVE SOMETHING TO OFFER THAT IS OF VALUE TO SOMEONE.
PEOPLE COULD LEARN A LOT FROM CHILDREN IF THEY HAD MORE RESPECT FOR THEM, AND THEIR LACK OF EXPERIENCE. THINK ABOUT IT. THEY HAVE NOT YET LEARNED HOW TO LIE OR DECEIVE, AND THEY SAY WHAT'S ON THEIR MINDS.
I AGREE WITH YOU. IT'S ALL RELATIVE, HONEY.
';give useful advice to others'; seems the wrong phrase here, as that's not what your two examples did. Einstein was a scientist, Van Gogh an artist. They didn't ';give advice'; as such.
Of course some people who are ';different'; will come up with things other people don't.
People in general are narrow-minded about what everyone should be like, and ignorant and intolerant of much of the natural variation there is among people.
I think it's good that we aren't all identical, but, though many give lip service to this idea, they despise those who differ from them.
Friend problems...advice, please (sry this story is really long but i need advice)?
Okay so i guess it would be best to start at the beginning. I will refer to people as pronouns (like he, she, and I) bc i don't feel like using other names and to respect their privacy i guess even though they are making me mad. w/e moving on. lol So last school year i became friends with this girl ('she', 'her', etc.) we became really good friends and her boyfriend i only saw enough of to say 'hi' to and i did i was really nice. she said he had a learning disability (which now i'm not sure i believe bc he gets a's and b's in school, i think its just MAJOR social problems he has) okay so then he would like IM me and just be kinda creepy but i didnt think anything of it. then he asked me for my #s to give to her, buuut he never gave them to her. he started calling me. but still i was like okay this kid juts needs interaction. so then he asked me if i would go out with him if he broke up with his gf and i said no. he told me not to tell her and i did so he got mad at me and their was just madness all over the place but we all got over that and moved on, but i wasnt as nice to him but i was civilized. So this school year he was creepy in the hallway and kept saying my name every two seconds just annoying. and she said that she understands some people just dont get along. so then he started IMing my friends and saying hi to them in the hallway and they didnt like that bc they knew what i went through with him. so in the hallway my friends boyfriend goes up to the two of them and tells him to stop being such a 'stalker' (actual word he used, which didnt help, but w/e) so she got mad saying oh he has a learning disability, thats the way he makes friends. I was there, but i did not say word to anyone, i did not do anything. i was only there. so now for like the past 2-3 weeks she hasnt talked to me. i've tried to say hey and she hasnt talked to me. she blocked me on aim without me doing anything. should i confront her? (the only reason i havent yet it bc there isnt a good time for me to do so, and is it too late for me to? has too much time passed?) or just leave it alone bc i'm probably better off without her? it just pisses me off that she stopped talking to me. i didnt do anything wrong. i think her bf brainwashed her into hating me bc i don't like him. asshole.
advice would be great! (also, i'm not really the type of person to be like 'yo *****, wtf is your problem?!' lol) again sooo sorry this is ridiculously long. Friend problems...advice, please (sry this story is really long but i need advice)?
i dont think too much time has passed, maybe the 'breather' as given her time to think and actually miss yu..
so i wouldn be all ';WTF'; straight up, try to be nice :) ahaha.
i think yu'd be better off confronting er in person. cause then she has no where to hide, and yu can tell what she really thinks by her body language and shiz.
if she's still being stupid and hating on yu for no reason, then yu dont need her..Friend problems...advice, please (sry this story is really long but i need advice)?
well it seems dat she mite not want to talk about it , maybe she is kind of.. obessed with her boy.?i think you should try to start with ahi and she of she responds you kno see if she would even respond anyways good luckk with that stalker you are talking bout
Well Its Not Your Fault
Hes a creep your SO better iff without him or her !!
He will try with another girl then she will come crawling back.
If you think that you wnt to be mates then just write her a letter to say that you can still be friends even tho you dnt get on wiv him.
And i dont mind long questions :) It wasnt even that complicated to read.
Anyway sometimes you just have to go with the flow and leave so called mates to go on with there fake little lies.You just concentrate on your real friends and youll be fine.
Oh and Dont Forget ITS FRIDAY :D
Smile Be Happppyyy Sorry i am chatting bubbles arent i but im like a bitt bored
Good Luck x
Hey i think you should just try to sit your friend down and try to have a last heart to heart type talk. Tell her how you feel and that ur sorry and ask if she thinks you could be friends again. try to avoid slating her bf to her face. If she accepts and says she will make an effort then see how it goes but if it really doesnt work then just leave her for a bit, if this guys a creep then she will work it out for herself in time. Its probably best to lay off talking about him etc as it will just make him seem like a victim and drive her to him. i say try to talk to her rationally and see if u can work it out or give her some distance to realise for herself what this guy is like.
advice would be great! (also, i'm not really the type of person to be like 'yo *****, wtf is your problem?!' lol) again sooo sorry this is ridiculously long. Friend problems...advice, please (sry this story is really long but i need advice)?
i dont think too much time has passed, maybe the 'breather' as given her time to think and actually miss yu..
so i wouldn be all ';WTF'; straight up, try to be nice :) ahaha.
i think yu'd be better off confronting er in person. cause then she has no where to hide, and yu can tell what she really thinks by her body language and shiz.
if she's still being stupid and hating on yu for no reason, then yu dont need her..Friend problems...advice, please (sry this story is really long but i need advice)?
well it seems dat she mite not want to talk about it , maybe she is kind of.. obessed with her boy.?i think you should try to start with ahi and she of she responds you kno see if she would even respond anyways good luckk with that stalker you are talking bout
Well Its Not Your Fault
Hes a creep your SO better iff without him or her !!
He will try with another girl then she will come crawling back.
If you think that you wnt to be mates then just write her a letter to say that you can still be friends even tho you dnt get on wiv him.
And i dont mind long questions :) It wasnt even that complicated to read.
Anyway sometimes you just have to go with the flow and leave so called mates to go on with there fake little lies.You just concentrate on your real friends and youll be fine.
Oh and Dont Forget ITS FRIDAY :D
Smile Be Happppyyy Sorry i am chatting bubbles arent i but im like a bitt bored
Good Luck x
Hey i think you should just try to sit your friend down and try to have a last heart to heart type talk. Tell her how you feel and that ur sorry and ask if she thinks you could be friends again. try to avoid slating her bf to her face. If she accepts and says she will make an effort then see how it goes but if it really doesnt work then just leave her for a bit, if this guys a creep then she will work it out for herself in time. Its probably best to lay off talking about him etc as it will just make him seem like a victim and drive her to him. i say try to talk to her rationally and see if u can work it out or give her some distance to realise for herself what this guy is like.
AP Literature Advice? READING problems?
I absolutely dislike reading books. I get so irritated when doing so. I go back to school on Monday and I'd like to finished reading one of my summer books. I still have 200 pages to read in 'How to Read Literature Like a Professor.'; Am I supposed to take breaks to make the reading go by smoother? How long do you think it will take me to read the rest of it if I'm absolutely dedicated? I've read like 80 or so pages and it seems like a semi-easy read.AP Literature Advice? READING problems?
I don't think ANYONE would enjoy reading a book with that title.
Reading takes work---people learn from a very young age to love stories, books, reading. If you have been cheated out of this experience somehow, you can get back on track. But you will have to teach yourself to love reading----it is too important to your life to be a miserable experience for you---missing out on books and the love of books will limit you in many ways. Books are there to be loved, worshipped, remembered, and they are literally eternal, making their authors immortal through time. If you miss out on enjoying books, it's like being blind.
Also, if you are just forcing yourself through the minimum of assigned books, it's like dragging yourself over glass, when the rest of the readers are walking on soft carpet.
There is no such thing as too many books to read---but most of all, it's a personal, important experience you are missing if you avoid books, especially if you are still in school.
Most important, if you read, you are treasuring, valuing, yourself and your mind. If you don't value your own mind, what's the point of working hard in school? None at all.
One book I would suggest that is FOOL-PROOF, and impossible to put down, and the most fun book to read ever, is Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's ';A Study in Scarlet.';
If you read nothing else this year, sit down and start reading it--it's a masterpiece.AP Literature Advice? READING problems?
See if you could find the cd disc for the book the story is in so that you can listen to the story.
You will not be able to pass AP LIT if you dislike reading. You need to read 50-100 pages a night of difficult books (The Invisible Man, Wuthering Heights, Great Gatsby).
You also write essays, interpretations, and have discussions.
It is a difficult course.
As for your book, 200 pages should go over smoothly in about 2.5 hours.
My AP literature class, I am the teacher, is reading the same thing over the summer so I am familiar with the book and the problem you are having.
My best advice would be to set realistic goals for yourself. Decide you are going to read 30 pages before you take a break and that break will be for an hour or say I am going to read 50 pages and then break for 45 minutes. Obviously the lengths of the time spent reading and the breaks should be guided by your own knowledge of how much you have left to read, how much time you have and how fast you are reading the book.
Above all else though remember to make sure you are comprehending what you are reading. No matter how much or how fast you read it is pointless if you do not understand what you are reading.
Good luck.
I don't think ANYONE would enjoy reading a book with that title.
Reading takes work---people learn from a very young age to love stories, books, reading. If you have been cheated out of this experience somehow, you can get back on track. But you will have to teach yourself to love reading----it is too important to your life to be a miserable experience for you---missing out on books and the love of books will limit you in many ways. Books are there to be loved, worshipped, remembered, and they are literally eternal, making their authors immortal through time. If you miss out on enjoying books, it's like being blind.
Also, if you are just forcing yourself through the minimum of assigned books, it's like dragging yourself over glass, when the rest of the readers are walking on soft carpet.
There is no such thing as too many books to read---but most of all, it's a personal, important experience you are missing if you avoid books, especially if you are still in school.
Most important, if you read, you are treasuring, valuing, yourself and your mind. If you don't value your own mind, what's the point of working hard in school? None at all.
One book I would suggest that is FOOL-PROOF, and impossible to put down, and the most fun book to read ever, is Sir Arthur Conan Doyle's ';A Study in Scarlet.';
If you read nothing else this year, sit down and start reading it--it's a masterpiece.AP Literature Advice? READING problems?
See if you could find the cd disc for the book the story is in so that you can listen to the story.
You will not be able to pass AP LIT if you dislike reading. You need to read 50-100 pages a night of difficult books (The Invisible Man, Wuthering Heights, Great Gatsby).
You also write essays, interpretations, and have discussions.
It is a difficult course.
As for your book, 200 pages should go over smoothly in about 2.5 hours.
My AP literature class, I am the teacher, is reading the same thing over the summer so I am familiar with the book and the problem you are having.
My best advice would be to set realistic goals for yourself. Decide you are going to read 30 pages before you take a break and that break will be for an hour or say I am going to read 50 pages and then break for 45 minutes. Obviously the lengths of the time spent reading and the breaks should be guided by your own knowledge of how much you have left to read, how much time you have and how fast you are reading the book.
Above all else though remember to make sure you are comprehending what you are reading. No matter how much or how fast you read it is pointless if you do not understand what you are reading.
Good luck.
I need advice for problems with my parents. it is nothing to serious but i dont no what to do.?
i am a pretty good kid. i pass school, with c's but thats all my parents expect out of me. i get almost everything i want. unless i do the stupidest things. okay so i forget to brush my teeth--no party this weekend. my room is messy (but only takes 5 minutes to clean up) no phone for a month i dont undersatnd how to make my parents chill out it is sos sososososos osso soso soso soososo hard. they dont have to care about the HUGE things like drugs, achole, and sex, bc i am a good person thatr dosnt do that yet bc i am only 15. so they continue to focus on the small things that realy d o n o t matter in life at all! it is realyy frustrating and they are ruining my life helppppI need advice for problems with my parents. it is nothing to serious but i dont no what to do.?
All of the small things add up....and yes they do matter in life. These things like cleaning and hygiene are necessary skills to function as an adult. As your parents, their job is to prepare you for life on your own.I need advice for problems with my parents. it is nothing to serious but i dont no what to do.?
Dear Chelsea,
The two things you mentioned...brushing your teeth and a tidy room are not that hard to accomplish, right? Why don't you focus on doing them and see if your parents are happier. It is also good to learn early in life no one ruins your life. The things you have done have brought you the unhappiness. Your parents sound wonderful. If you learn the lessons of your training now, it will pay you rich dividends in your future.
IF YOU PRETTY MUCH KNOW WHAT P*%26amp;%26amp;^ THEM OFF, TAKE CARE OF THE SMALL STUFF AND THEY WONT LOOK FOR THE BIGGIES. AS A MAN TOLD ME ONE TIME,
''IF THEY DON'T SEE THE OUTHOUSE,(THE BIGGIE) THEY WON'T LOOK FOR THE TOILET PAPER'(THE SMALLIES) THINK ABOUT IT. IT WILL MAKE SENSE TO YOU. GOOD LUCK.
Parents tend to freak out a little when their kids become teenages... but you sound like a good kid and I'm sure your parents know this. Talk to them about it, you maybe surprised.
If you have a friend whose parents are close with yours, tell that friend what your parents are doing to you. Tell her to tell her parents what you said, and then ask if her parents can try to convince yours to change their disciplinary ways. If that doesn't work then just try talking to your parents.
Your parents are trying to teach you responsibility. By making sure that you do the chores that you have been assigned they are preparing you for when you're out in the workforce and you have jobs that need to be done. If you don't do them you don't get paid....it's that simple. So your parents are doing you a huge favor by making sure that you're ready to be on your own..that's their job.
You should be happy that you're not my kid because those ';C's'; would not make it around here if I knew you were capable of doing better. Why are you just getting by, why not do your best so that the future will be brighter for you? What you do today will impact your future. The choices you make today will affect your tomorrow. Just think about it. The future is yours right now, to do anything you want to do, to be anything you want to be...that's a gift, don't blow it.
I wish you well.
I have to agree... the punishments are extreme for the behaviors they're supposed to manage.
The consequence for not brushing should be more along the lines of ';go brush now';. The consequences for not cleaning your room should be ';Turn off the TV and do it now';.
By applying overly punitive consequences relative to the behavior they risk pushing you away.
I suggest that you sit down with them and talk about this stuff. Point out that you would never do drugs or any of that much worse stuff and you'd like to work out a system that involves lesser consequences.
try talking to them bout it .to solve a problem you need to talk bout it to the person itself.i know you don,t want hear it. but your parents love you,they are show you about life,they want to show you to have good values.but one thing i can say you are a very gooddaughter.but at your age you schould know when to brush your teeth.a month punishment is way to harse.they are treating you like a 5year old,as a mother myself i think of my kids my babys no matter how old thier are .just ask my 28year old daughter!she is married an has 2 boys,sometimes i try to boss her around without thinking,an she says mother i am a adult,so you see sometimes parents have to be reminded that thier baby is not a baby anymore,GoodLuck Sweet Heart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
darling their just being parents
when ur one u'll understand why their doing this
but it is really good that they trust you not to do drugs, alcohol, or sex
I know how you feel my parents get on my back for the same exact things so here's what you do sit them down and tell them that you don't thinkt the punishment they give you fits the crime like if you forget to brush your teeth they should make you watch health films not take away going to party or if it takes you five minuets to clean your make you sit in bordom for five minuets.It works for my parents take it from a 14 yr old who is always getting yelled at!:}
ya i agree, they are going over bard over the little things, but maybe this is there way of reminding you who's in charge?or like you said, you get what you want, you a bit spoiled?maybe your taking advantage of them and your pushing that line in little ways, well usually when a kid pushes a little,if you don't respond, next time they push Little harder, maybe coming home after curfew?if parents dint put there foot down right away, the teenager is walking all over them-and soon the kids problem will be drugs and pregnancy?not using the phone is gonna kill you, or mess up your life.so clean your room everyday, it should stay clean, and for goodness sakes brush your teeth, its gross when you dint,and pull up your grades, C's are good, but you can do better,never settle, push your self, always always do your best. good luck and god bless you
yo dont worry about it..my parents where the same why with me but then one day i just told them that i didnt care anymore about wat they say...iam not telling you to do that cause yout parents might react different..o.. and the first couple times i told them i didnt care they would hit me but like iam taller and stronger then them it doesnt hurt me..lol..after a couple times they just didnt care *** much....iam only 16 so i understand you they complai about the smallest things...good luck...
Whats the question??
well your parents are only trying to prepare you 4 life out side this is only a stage you are going though.
';doesnt do that yet beause im only 15'; youd be surprise at the whole bunch of losers I know of doing drugs and sex and theyre waaay younger than you!!!.. anyways to the point.. talk to your parents.. tell them what you said, that you think they shouldnt worry about, you dont do drugs nor sex.. and youre a bit old to have them get mad at you for brushing your teeth (unless you dont brush them for days.. then I understand THEM) haha.. just talk to them .. theyre just looking out for you.. seems like they still see you as their little baby =)
they are just trying to raise you in a proper way. keeping yourself clean is a good thing. and its not so hard to brush your teeth or clean your room. To you it doesn't matter but I am sure to them it really does. I dont think they should punish you over it though. just do as they say and it shouldn't ruin your life over these little things
Explain to them that you feel they are jumping to punish you too quickly. If your room is a mess, ask them to give you a warning first. Then, if it's not clean in the next hour or so, they can punish you.
Sometimes parents don't want to negotiate, but if you can use a lot of words like ';I feel trapped and unhappy'; and focus on how you feel and DO NOT tell them ';you are being unfair'; then it may help them sympathize.
It's not a bad idea to do what they ask, though.how to apply
All of the small things add up....and yes they do matter in life. These things like cleaning and hygiene are necessary skills to function as an adult. As your parents, their job is to prepare you for life on your own.I need advice for problems with my parents. it is nothing to serious but i dont no what to do.?
Dear Chelsea,
The two things you mentioned...brushing your teeth and a tidy room are not that hard to accomplish, right? Why don't you focus on doing them and see if your parents are happier. It is also good to learn early in life no one ruins your life. The things you have done have brought you the unhappiness. Your parents sound wonderful. If you learn the lessons of your training now, it will pay you rich dividends in your future.
IF YOU PRETTY MUCH KNOW WHAT P*%26amp;%26amp;^ THEM OFF, TAKE CARE OF THE SMALL STUFF AND THEY WONT LOOK FOR THE BIGGIES. AS A MAN TOLD ME ONE TIME,
''IF THEY DON'T SEE THE OUTHOUSE,(THE BIGGIE) THEY WON'T LOOK FOR THE TOILET PAPER'(THE SMALLIES) THINK ABOUT IT. IT WILL MAKE SENSE TO YOU. GOOD LUCK.
Parents tend to freak out a little when their kids become teenages... but you sound like a good kid and I'm sure your parents know this. Talk to them about it, you maybe surprised.
If you have a friend whose parents are close with yours, tell that friend what your parents are doing to you. Tell her to tell her parents what you said, and then ask if her parents can try to convince yours to change their disciplinary ways. If that doesn't work then just try talking to your parents.
Your parents are trying to teach you responsibility. By making sure that you do the chores that you have been assigned they are preparing you for when you're out in the workforce and you have jobs that need to be done. If you don't do them you don't get paid....it's that simple. So your parents are doing you a huge favor by making sure that you're ready to be on your own..that's their job.
You should be happy that you're not my kid because those ';C's'; would not make it around here if I knew you were capable of doing better. Why are you just getting by, why not do your best so that the future will be brighter for you? What you do today will impact your future. The choices you make today will affect your tomorrow. Just think about it. The future is yours right now, to do anything you want to do, to be anything you want to be...that's a gift, don't blow it.
I wish you well.
I have to agree... the punishments are extreme for the behaviors they're supposed to manage.
The consequence for not brushing should be more along the lines of ';go brush now';. The consequences for not cleaning your room should be ';Turn off the TV and do it now';.
By applying overly punitive consequences relative to the behavior they risk pushing you away.
I suggest that you sit down with them and talk about this stuff. Point out that you would never do drugs or any of that much worse stuff and you'd like to work out a system that involves lesser consequences.
try talking to them bout it .to solve a problem you need to talk bout it to the person itself.i know you don,t want hear it. but your parents love you,they are show you about life,they want to show you to have good values.but one thing i can say you are a very gooddaughter.but at your age you schould know when to brush your teeth.a month punishment is way to harse.they are treating you like a 5year old,as a mother myself i think of my kids my babys no matter how old thier are .just ask my 28year old daughter!she is married an has 2 boys,sometimes i try to boss her around without thinking,an she says mother i am a adult,so you see sometimes parents have to be reminded that thier baby is not a baby anymore,GoodLuck Sweet Heart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
darling their just being parents
when ur one u'll understand why their doing this
but it is really good that they trust you not to do drugs, alcohol, or sex
I know how you feel my parents get on my back for the same exact things so here's what you do sit them down and tell them that you don't thinkt the punishment they give you fits the crime like if you forget to brush your teeth they should make you watch health films not take away going to party or if it takes you five minuets to clean your make you sit in bordom for five minuets.It works for my parents take it from a 14 yr old who is always getting yelled at!:}
ya i agree, they are going over bard over the little things, but maybe this is there way of reminding you who's in charge?or like you said, you get what you want, you a bit spoiled?maybe your taking advantage of them and your pushing that line in little ways, well usually when a kid pushes a little,if you don't respond, next time they push Little harder, maybe coming home after curfew?if parents dint put there foot down right away, the teenager is walking all over them-and soon the kids problem will be drugs and pregnancy?not using the phone is gonna kill you, or mess up your life.so clean your room everyday, it should stay clean, and for goodness sakes brush your teeth, its gross when you dint,and pull up your grades, C's are good, but you can do better,never settle, push your self, always always do your best. good luck and god bless you
yo dont worry about it..my parents where the same why with me but then one day i just told them that i didnt care anymore about wat they say...iam not telling you to do that cause yout parents might react different..o.. and the first couple times i told them i didnt care they would hit me but like iam taller and stronger then them it doesnt hurt me..lol..after a couple times they just didnt care *** much....iam only 16 so i understand you they complai about the smallest things...good luck...
Whats the question??
well your parents are only trying to prepare you 4 life out side this is only a stage you are going though.
';doesnt do that yet beause im only 15'; youd be surprise at the whole bunch of losers I know of doing drugs and sex and theyre waaay younger than you!!!.. anyways to the point.. talk to your parents.. tell them what you said, that you think they shouldnt worry about, you dont do drugs nor sex.. and youre a bit old to have them get mad at you for brushing your teeth (unless you dont brush them for days.. then I understand THEM) haha.. just talk to them .. theyre just looking out for you.. seems like they still see you as their little baby =)
they are just trying to raise you in a proper way. keeping yourself clean is a good thing. and its not so hard to brush your teeth or clean your room. To you it doesn't matter but I am sure to them it really does. I dont think they should punish you over it though. just do as they say and it shouldn't ruin your life over these little things
Explain to them that you feel they are jumping to punish you too quickly. If your room is a mess, ask them to give you a warning first. Then, if it's not clean in the next hour or so, they can punish you.
Sometimes parents don't want to negotiate, but if you can use a lot of words like ';I feel trapped and unhappy'; and focus on how you feel and DO NOT tell them ';you are being unfair'; then it may help them sympathize.
It's not a bad idea to do what they ask, though.
Teen problems and advice stuff?
is there a site, where teens post their problems, and other teens or adults help them with it?? i just wanna know.. or need to know. bitte?Teen problems and advice stuff?
You mean...like Yahoo Answers?Teen problems and advice stuff?
http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/en/counselli鈥?/a>
It's like a forum where teens post and young adult counselors give them answers.You can also call them if you want to
you're kinda doing that right now. you asked a question and i answered using my own personal experience. see how that works??
haha. if you ever need to talk feel free to message me.
there is beinggirl.com? but really it is asked by girls then answered by the people online who work the website
use that help phone thing
Urm, here is good ;)
Idk, I think it is called well click this link
www.yahoo.com/answers
You mean...like Yahoo Answers?Teen problems and advice stuff?
http://www.kidshelpphone.ca/en/counselli鈥?/a>
It's like a forum where teens post and young adult counselors give them answers.You can also call them if you want to
you're kinda doing that right now. you asked a question and i answered using my own personal experience. see how that works??
haha. if you ever need to talk feel free to message me.
there is beinggirl.com? but really it is asked by girls then answered by the people online who work the website
use that help phone thing
Urm, here is good ;)
Idk, I think it is called well click this link
www.yahoo.com/answers
Stomach problems... advice/unofficial medical advice?
For the last four days every time I eat any sort of food I feel really nauseous and have to lay down for about 30-60 mins.
I have been eating a variety of foods to see if anything is better or worse and yet there is no luck.
All food leaves me with the same results.
I was wondering if anyone has experienced this or whatever?
Also I don't know if it means anything but my heart has been pupultating a lot more than usual.
Please help.
And before you say see a doctor I have already booked an appointment but it's not for a few days.
So I was just seeking some advice.
ThanksStomach problems... advice/unofficial medical advice?
sounds like a stomach flu to me or maybe a parasite.
try Web MD
I have been eating a variety of foods to see if anything is better or worse and yet there is no luck.
All food leaves me with the same results.
I was wondering if anyone has experienced this or whatever?
Also I don't know if it means anything but my heart has been pupultating a lot more than usual.
Please help.
And before you say see a doctor I have already booked an appointment but it's not for a few days.
So I was just seeking some advice.
ThanksStomach problems... advice/unofficial medical advice?
sounds like a stomach flu to me or maybe a parasite.
try Web MD
Guy problems. advice pleease =)?
so there is this guy i am really good friends with and i sort of have started to fall for him. i knew for sure he liked me, say a month ago, but now i am unsure if he still likes me. he always gives me compliments, even though i know he gives alot of girls compliments it still makes me feel good, you know...? anyway i like him but i dont want to ruin any friendship. he's the best guy friend i have ever had. any advice would be great.thanks so much. 鈾?GGuy problems. advice pleease =)?
Yes, he still likes you. It sounds like he is somewhat comfortable with the ladies (ie. the compliments to them), but perhaps he lacks the fortitude to get things started with you.
Either way, if want this guy, let him know and make him yours. Offer to go out with him somewhere, just the two of you and get the chemistry flowing. Do not worry about losing the friendship, because all great romances start with a good friendship. If the romantic side is ment to be, it will be. If you never try, then you will never know what a wonderful couple you may have been.
Chances are, that worst case scenario, you two date a while and if the romantic side does not last, at least you do have the common friendship to fall back on.
Try for the best and follow you heart. Don't worry about the future, you're too young. Whatever gets broken will be fixed if it is worth fixing. Enjoy the moment....and your man!!Guy problems. advice pleease =)?
ok so ask him if he likes you if he doesn't than it might ruin your friendship but if he does than its worth a shot or maybe you could get a friend to ask i dont know
ask him out. and dont let the friendship get awkward if he declines.
I tend to find that the women are the ones (not all the time, but most) that let.make the friendships get awkward after revealing romantic feelings.
The girl asking the guy out isnt weird. this is the 21st century. women have rights. including ot ask the guy out. so do it.
Your feelings will get too strong sometime and then you will be angry you didnt ask him out while he was single, and then it will get awkward because youll be left hanging there.
ASK HIM OUT. and dont think ';cant I get him to ask me out';
Nobody ever magically makes someone do something without any interaction abotu it to the other party. so ask him out.
just tell him how u feel i did that and even though the person didnt feel the same way we are still good friends
you should probably seek love in another guy. it doesn't usually work out when it comes to situations like that. then you lose a boyfriend and a friend all at the same time. keep him as a friend, it'll be more rewarding for you both.
just say these exact words or something close: ';(what ever his name is) I'm not sure if we are on the same page and i dont want to ruin are friendship or anything but i was wondering if we could take our relationship to the next step and if not its ok i will be ok staying as friends.'; .. also you better be over 18 other wise focus on school and wait until you get to college.
Yes, he still likes you. It sounds like he is somewhat comfortable with the ladies (ie. the compliments to them), but perhaps he lacks the fortitude to get things started with you.
Either way, if want this guy, let him know and make him yours. Offer to go out with him somewhere, just the two of you and get the chemistry flowing. Do not worry about losing the friendship, because all great romances start with a good friendship. If the romantic side is ment to be, it will be. If you never try, then you will never know what a wonderful couple you may have been.
Chances are, that worst case scenario, you two date a while and if the romantic side does not last, at least you do have the common friendship to fall back on.
Try for the best and follow you heart. Don't worry about the future, you're too young. Whatever gets broken will be fixed if it is worth fixing. Enjoy the moment....and your man!!Guy problems. advice pleease =)?
ok so ask him if he likes you if he doesn't than it might ruin your friendship but if he does than its worth a shot or maybe you could get a friend to ask i dont know
ask him out. and dont let the friendship get awkward if he declines.
I tend to find that the women are the ones (not all the time, but most) that let.make the friendships get awkward after revealing romantic feelings.
The girl asking the guy out isnt weird. this is the 21st century. women have rights. including ot ask the guy out. so do it.
Your feelings will get too strong sometime and then you will be angry you didnt ask him out while he was single, and then it will get awkward because youll be left hanging there.
ASK HIM OUT. and dont think ';cant I get him to ask me out';
Nobody ever magically makes someone do something without any interaction abotu it to the other party. so ask him out.
just tell him how u feel i did that and even though the person didnt feel the same way we are still good friends
you should probably seek love in another guy. it doesn't usually work out when it comes to situations like that. then you lose a boyfriend and a friend all at the same time. keep him as a friend, it'll be more rewarding for you both.
just say these exact words or something close: ';(what ever his name is) I'm not sure if we are on the same page and i dont want to ruin are friendship or anything but i was wondering if we could take our relationship to the next step and if not its ok i will be ok staying as friends.'; .. also you better be over 18 other wise focus on school and wait until you get to college.
Family Problems advice.?
Im 18 and am the youngest of my 3 older brothers. We all live by our selves in the same house and had a family meeting today. My brother who is 19 seemed to disagree and go against everything that was said. He seems like he wants to distance himself from the rest of us, like he doesn't like us and making up stupid excuses to get out of things. This is like the first time we had a family meeting and my oldest brother who is 26 designed this to bring us closer together cause we aren't as close as brothers as you would think. We wanted to have dinner on Monday nights as a family but my brother who is 19 made up the excuse that he can't cause he has work and what not but i know he can get Mondays off but doesn't want to. Any ways the main point is after this meeting we got in an argument and it was left at ';you're a lil ***** you always are'; which is all he ever says at me what is wrong with him? Did I do anything to deserve this why doesn't he want to get closer to us brothers?Family Problems advice.?
Family issues abound and it is normal for siblings to have their differences. Whatever one chooses ultimately would have consequences one way or the other, only in different levels. Your older brother might have some personal issues that he hasn't resolved and it might be a defensive mechanism on his part to take it out on you. I know it is not fair. (Life is never fair anyway!) I'm the youngest myself and I have had a lot of rift rafts with my only oldest sister. One question you have to answer is: if any of you is the favorite of your parents? Usually between siblings, parents would normally have their favorites, so it is usual for some siblings to react this way out of envy and pride for themselves. Some, because of self-pity. It is upto you to be more understanding and open-minded (difficult, I know) the same way I was in my family. Your brother is detaching himself from your family because he might have felt unimportant or not loved by your parents or because of personal issues unknown to you, or he just enjoys his independence. Whatever his actions are, is a reflection of what he is feeling about your family or a result of his problems. This is for you to find out so you can understand his erratic behavior. Also, you can give him some time and space for him to figure out what he ';really'; wants in his life and time to resolve whatever issues he has. Most importantly, try to know if he has some serious personal problems that could even lead to suicide (worst case scenario). Just respect whatever he decides on even if it's negative. If you can't convince him otherwise, life will find a way for him to come to terms with the reality that he is shying away from. Whatever he chooses or however he reacts, just be there for him especially when he needs your support the most while making him feel that he is in control of his life. Try to have a heart-to-heart talk with him to help him with his issues, if he chooses not to, then let him be. Just trust your instincts.Family Problems advice.?
i think you're brother needs grow up a bit and get over himself. All you can do is walk away and not get involved in his arguments as it seems that he's not being very reasonable. you and your other brother should do your third of the housework and then leave the rest for him. maybe that will make him see that he doesn't do all that he thinks he does.
Wow!
He's all talk and he wouldn't dare move out. He's too scared to live on his own.
your 19 year old brother might have a commitment somewhere so he is a bit stressed, take it easy on him he might need your support! or rather try to reach out to him by asking him what is wrong.
Your Brother has issues, you can either choose to ignore him and move on with your life, -OR- try to find the reasons behind his bad behavior and try and help him deal. If you even think for a second, that he might actually want help...then maybe you should try but otherwise you need to move on with your life. it is a sucky situation to be in and i am sorry you have to deal. good luck to you and your brother. i also hope your family will be there to help and support your decision.
Family issues abound and it is normal for siblings to have their differences. Whatever one chooses ultimately would have consequences one way or the other, only in different levels. Your older brother might have some personal issues that he hasn't resolved and it might be a defensive mechanism on his part to take it out on you. I know it is not fair. (Life is never fair anyway!) I'm the youngest myself and I have had a lot of rift rafts with my only oldest sister. One question you have to answer is: if any of you is the favorite of your parents? Usually between siblings, parents would normally have their favorites, so it is usual for some siblings to react this way out of envy and pride for themselves. Some, because of self-pity. It is upto you to be more understanding and open-minded (difficult, I know) the same way I was in my family. Your brother is detaching himself from your family because he might have felt unimportant or not loved by your parents or because of personal issues unknown to you, or he just enjoys his independence. Whatever his actions are, is a reflection of what he is feeling about your family or a result of his problems. This is for you to find out so you can understand his erratic behavior. Also, you can give him some time and space for him to figure out what he ';really'; wants in his life and time to resolve whatever issues he has. Most importantly, try to know if he has some serious personal problems that could even lead to suicide (worst case scenario). Just respect whatever he decides on even if it's negative. If you can't convince him otherwise, life will find a way for him to come to terms with the reality that he is shying away from. Whatever he chooses or however he reacts, just be there for him especially when he needs your support the most while making him feel that he is in control of his life. Try to have a heart-to-heart talk with him to help him with his issues, if he chooses not to, then let him be. Just trust your instincts.Family Problems advice.?
i think you're brother needs grow up a bit and get over himself. All you can do is walk away and not get involved in his arguments as it seems that he's not being very reasonable. you and your other brother should do your third of the housework and then leave the rest for him. maybe that will make him see that he doesn't do all that he thinks he does.
Wow!
He's all talk and he wouldn't dare move out. He's too scared to live on his own.
your 19 year old brother might have a commitment somewhere so he is a bit stressed, take it easy on him he might need your support! or rather try to reach out to him by asking him what is wrong.
Your Brother has issues, you can either choose to ignore him and move on with your life, -OR- try to find the reasons behind his bad behavior and try and help him deal. If you even think for a second, that he might actually want help...then maybe you should try but otherwise you need to move on with your life. it is a sucky situation to be in and i am sorry you have to deal. good luck to you and your brother. i also hope your family will be there to help and support your decision.
Ex problems...advice please!!?
We broke up up almost a year ago....
He still likes talking to me.
Still wants to hang out with me.
Still flirts with me.
Still calls me all of my old nick names.
Still wants to hook up with me.
....But he doesn't want a serious relationship in high school. What? How can I make him change his mind?Ex problems...advice please!!?
Don't let him have benefits until he's willing to treat you with respect and give you a relationship, unless you're happy with just fooling around. It sounds like you do want a relationship, though, so you must take a step back, flirt with other people and show him what he's missing. Look cute and keep busy with things that are important to you (school, sports, whatever). If he calls you up, don't stay on the phone long and tell him you have somewhere else to go. You are very busy and he is lucky to get some of your time. That's how you can try to win him back. **AND no benefits until YOU get what YOU want!
Remember, it's all about you for a change! dont be his doormat!Ex problems...advice please!!?
Well sounds to me that he is super confused. I think u should tell him that he is being unfair to you kinna leading you on. Tell him that that stuff hurts because I know it does. But if he still doesn't want a relationship u should just try and move on because there are ppl who will want a relationship with u.
you know, i kinda understand this. I been through it. If he doesnt want a title, or anything. Then that means theres other girls he probaly is doing this too also. He will tell you anything, says he still loves you or whatever cause he enjoys knowing he can still have you when he wants. Dont let him do that... Show him what he's lost. Im still trying to tell myself this..
he's an ex for a reason. If you don't want any of his advances or him at all, end it on your terms or he's out completely.
Don't let him near unless you plan on giving in. No need to lead him on when he's never going to get anywhere.
wow, he's probably a player %26amp; has some other girl on the side. But you should talk to him more about it. Cuz that makes no sense.. he does all theese things with you but yet doesn't want to be together?! crazy.
You can't change his mind. He only wants to use you for sex. Why can't some girls understand that?
He still likes talking to me.
Still wants to hang out with me.
Still flirts with me.
Still calls me all of my old nick names.
Still wants to hook up with me.
....But he doesn't want a serious relationship in high school. What? How can I make him change his mind?Ex problems...advice please!!?
Don't let him have benefits until he's willing to treat you with respect and give you a relationship, unless you're happy with just fooling around. It sounds like you do want a relationship, though, so you must take a step back, flirt with other people and show him what he's missing. Look cute and keep busy with things that are important to you (school, sports, whatever). If he calls you up, don't stay on the phone long and tell him you have somewhere else to go. You are very busy and he is lucky to get some of your time. That's how you can try to win him back. **AND no benefits until YOU get what YOU want!
Remember, it's all about you for a change! dont be his doormat!Ex problems...advice please!!?
Well sounds to me that he is super confused. I think u should tell him that he is being unfair to you kinna leading you on. Tell him that that stuff hurts because I know it does. But if he still doesn't want a relationship u should just try and move on because there are ppl who will want a relationship with u.
you know, i kinda understand this. I been through it. If he doesnt want a title, or anything. Then that means theres other girls he probaly is doing this too also. He will tell you anything, says he still loves you or whatever cause he enjoys knowing he can still have you when he wants. Dont let him do that... Show him what he's lost. Im still trying to tell myself this..
he's an ex for a reason. If you don't want any of his advances or him at all, end it on your terms or he's out completely.
Don't let him near unless you plan on giving in. No need to lead him on when he's never going to get anywhere.
wow, he's probably a player %26amp; has some other girl on the side. But you should talk to him more about it. Cuz that makes no sense.. he does all theese things with you but yet doesn't want to be together?! crazy.
You can't change his mind. He only wants to use you for sex. Why can't some girls understand that?
BF problems..Advice needed???
Me and the BF have been togather now almost 8 months..we meet on myspace. My problem here( this may sound childish to degree prehaps) Here's goes.. Lately he has been spending alot of time commenting the other girl on myspace..he hasn't commented me in over 2 months here... he's using all the lines on her,basically saying the same things he once said to me when we first started talking. Also last week he called this persons name out while he was sleeping... Should I be concerned here?? honestly now??? I love him to death and he has always been there for me..
And he's always telling me how much he loves me... BUT these things have me concerned here. BTW..I have confronted him on this issue.. and he has no idea who i am talking about, and insist that myspace is a stupid website... go figure!!BF problems..Advice needed???
It sounds like your ';bf'; has a commitment problem. I don't believe there is anything wrong with having friends, but by your observations it sounds as if he may be going too far with this girl. If you love him that's fine, but remember that loving yourself is way more important. Don't allow anyone to treat you that way.BF problems..Advice needed???
Judging by what you have written, you have every right to be concerned. The real question is, what are you going to do about it? You have already confronted him and he denies it.how to apply
And he's always telling me how much he loves me... BUT these things have me concerned here. BTW..I have confronted him on this issue.. and he has no idea who i am talking about, and insist that myspace is a stupid website... go figure!!BF problems..Advice needed???
It sounds like your ';bf'; has a commitment problem. I don't believe there is anything wrong with having friends, but by your observations it sounds as if he may be going too far with this girl. If you love him that's fine, but remember that loving yourself is way more important. Don't allow anyone to treat you that way.BF problems..Advice needed???
Judging by what you have written, you have every right to be concerned. The real question is, what are you going to do about it? You have already confronted him and he denies it.
Boyfriend problems advice...?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. He constantly talks about marrying me, and matter of fact he is flying home with me in 9 days to meet the parents...
He is a great guy and very loving and compassionate, the only problems are that sometimes I feel like his mother, nagging at him to do the simpelist things... (laundry, pick up after yourself...) Also about 4 months ago, had my first encounter catching him with Porn. That to me is the biggest, because I do trust him, but at the same time, feel betrayed and that I can't trust him in that dept. He swore up and down that he would never do it again, but I felt like a piece of crap after seeing it. It wasn't even hard core porn. He got it from Blockbuster. But I feel that while I am at work during the day he is up to no good either tv, or computer getting his jollies off someone else... I have talked to him about it since then, stating I hate bringing the past up, but I have not forgiven him...Boyfriend problems advice...?
Gurl, I have delt with the same thing for years. My husband and I just got married in May 2006. Before that we were together for 5 years. I caught him with it a couple of times and asked him not to watch it unless I was there. A couple of months later I caught him again, trying to sneak it, adn then lied about it after I had caught him. I got really mad and we had an argument. I gave his hardcore porn dvd to his uncle and asked him to keep it unti lwe got married and we would get it back. When we did get married I told him WE would watch it for stimulation during sex and he promised he wouldn't watch it without me. He gets home usually 2 hours before I do and one day a couple of months ago I found the dvd in the dvd player, he had been watching it before I got home!! I broke it into a million pieces and we haven't gotten another one, and probably wont. I felt the same way as you did, like crap. I honestly don't know what you do to get them to stop with the porn. I just thought it was what all guys did. I have always trusted my husband when he promises me things, but I feel like if we get another porn dvd he will do it again. I am so glad to see that someone else feels like I do and that I wasn't just blowing the whole thing outta proportion. But you do need to forgive and forget.
He is a great guy and very loving and compassionate, the only problems are that sometimes I feel like his mother, nagging at him to do the simpelist things... (laundry, pick up after yourself...) Also about 4 months ago, had my first encounter catching him with Porn. That to me is the biggest, because I do trust him, but at the same time, feel betrayed and that I can't trust him in that dept. He swore up and down that he would never do it again, but I felt like a piece of crap after seeing it. It wasn't even hard core porn. He got it from Blockbuster. But I feel that while I am at work during the day he is up to no good either tv, or computer getting his jollies off someone else... I have talked to him about it since then, stating I hate bringing the past up, but I have not forgiven him...Boyfriend problems advice...?
Gurl, I have delt with the same thing for years. My husband and I just got married in May 2006. Before that we were together for 5 years. I caught him with it a couple of times and asked him not to watch it unless I was there. A couple of months later I caught him again, trying to sneak it, adn then lied about it after I had caught him. I got really mad and we had an argument. I gave his hardcore porn dvd to his uncle and asked him to keep it unti lwe got married and we would get it back. When we did get married I told him WE would watch it for stimulation during sex and he promised he wouldn't watch it without me. He gets home usually 2 hours before I do and one day a couple of months ago I found the dvd in the dvd player, he had been watching it before I got home!! I broke it into a million pieces and we haven't gotten another one, and probably wont. I felt the same way as you did, like crap. I honestly don't know what you do to get them to stop with the porn. I just thought it was what all guys did. I have always trusted my husband when he promises me things, but I feel like if we get another porn dvd he will do it again. I am so glad to see that someone else feels like I do and that I wasn't just blowing the whole thing outta proportion. But you do need to forgive and forget.
Help me with guy problems!advice??
I like this guy but he is going out with an eighth grader. but, when i see tham near eachother they don't even tllk or say hi. he sits next to me in two classes and he always flirts w/ me and a lot of people think he likes me. what do you people think i should do.Help me with guy problems!advice??
Just be friends with him
If he likes you he will ask you out
but have faith
add me on myspace
clau_kool_lovely@yahoo.com
If you need more advice =-p
Just be friends with him
If he likes you he will ask you out
but have faith
add me on myspace
clau_kool_lovely@yahoo.com
If you need more advice =-p
Is it true that , Good advisers couldn't advice her/his own problems? But they can give good advice to others
Can you answer why? Thanks for answering my question.Is it true that , Good advisers couldn't advice her/his own problems? But they can give good advice to others
Good advisers not necesarily have to be strong persons. That means that they are very experienced and smart so they study the situation and find all the best solutions that you had not even considered and advise. The other side of it is that they give good advise becuase they have been there or becuase they know what is right and wrong. However, when they are in a situation that needs to change they sometimes find it hard becuase they know what to do but they are not strong enough to do it thus they call a quit as soon as the pain starts getting strong.Is it true that , Good advisers couldn't advice her/his own problems? But they can give good advice to others
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(some advisors may even deny the fact that they have problems).
For me it is always been true.. I am good at looking at other's situations and seeing what they need to do.. but when it comes to my own life I am a constant screw-up... partly it is because being on the outside gives me a little clearer and unbiased perspective on the situation.
ya, pretty much. ';those who can, do. those who can't, teach.';
Once long ago a very wise old woman told me that [ everyone knows what to do with the devil except the one that has him] I have found this to be true in most cases.
Good advisers not necesarily have to be strong persons. That means that they are very experienced and smart so they study the situation and find all the best solutions that you had not even considered and advise. The other side of it is that they give good advise becuase they have been there or becuase they know what is right and wrong. However, when they are in a situation that needs to change they sometimes find it hard becuase they know what to do but they are not strong enough to do it thus they call a quit as soon as the pain starts getting strong.Is it true that , Good advisers couldn't advice her/his own problems? But they can give good advice to others
Advisors tend to focus so much on%26gt;%26gt;%26gt; GIVING ADVICE%26gt;%26gt;%26gt; that they forget about their own problems... it would be unwise of them to think they don't need to receive advice.
(some advisors may even deny the fact that they have problems).
For me it is always been true.. I am good at looking at other's situations and seeing what they need to do.. but when it comes to my own life I am a constant screw-up... partly it is because being on the outside gives me a little clearer and unbiased perspective on the situation.
ya, pretty much. ';those who can, do. those who can't, teach.';
Once long ago a very wise old woman told me that [ everyone knows what to do with the devil except the one that has him] I have found this to be true in most cases.
My Doctor has stopped my Anti inflammatorys because of stomach problems . Any advice on joint pain relief?
my neck , back, fingers and knees are now really hurting , I'm only 35My Doctor has stopped my Anti inflammatorys because of stomach problems . Any advice on joint pain relief?
I really wish there was an easy answer to this question. It is getting asked in the surgery more and more often as we become increasingly concerned about the risks of NSAIDs, both to the stomach and the heart.
The result is we are giving more patients simple pain relievers, these have no effect on the stiffness and tend to give only patchy relief of pain symptoms.
The other thing we do is prescribe the anti-inflammatory together with PPIs= proton pump inhibitors like omeprazole. This does tend to reduce gastro-intestinal symptoms dramatically, but may have much less effect on the risk of the NSAIDs causing bleeding. Generally also the slow release, once a day, anti-inflammatories should be avoided
Recent work suggests old fashioned naproxen used chronically may have less cardiac risk than say diclofenac, the commonest drug we use now.My Doctor has stopped my Anti inflammatorys because of stomach problems . Any advice on joint pain relief?
If you're open to alternative therapies then I can highly recommend a few sessions of Reiki to help the relieve the pain. It's 'non-intrusive' and very relaxing!
Do some research on Tai Chi, acupuncture or meditation. I believe Tai Chi has been found to be effective with shingles (not the same thing, I know) and acupuncture has been effective with certain conditions, although I don't have specific info. And of course, ask your doctor first.
You might get the Dr to subscribe '; Pennsaid ';, it's an anti-infammitory that comes in drops and is applied directly to the sore area.
he has probably stopped them because prlogned use of anti-inflamatories damages your stomach lining, which has probably caused your stomach problems. a drug called glucosamine is good, you can get it cheap at the moment at holland%26amp;barrett.
Your doctor did the right thing. Lots of problems with those anti inflammatorys.
yes glucosamine, fish oil in big doses can help with pain. However, If there is inflamation too.. there are other things to use. ie supplements. I know what they are but alas I sell them to and will get jumped on.
Whatever you do .. dont use just any stuff from health food store or supermarket.
Good luck. Tiger balm may help with temporary soreness- with a wheat pack on top ..
glucosanimine
voltarol ointment is good I believe you can buy it over the counter now.I do hope you get some remedies on here good luck.
I use Ostio-biflex. It's a mixture of glucosamine and chondrodant. Which is a type of joint fuel, it helps strenghten you cartlidge as well as build up the fluid between your joints which act as a cushion. I've tried differant brands but this one works best for me. There is also one out there called flex-a-min. But had little results with this. They announced on cnn new's that the fda said this was actually better for arthretic pain than the pain killer celebrex.
The more you are able to move, if only a little at the time to start with. The worse thing you can do is stay immobilized. Force yourself to move about.
See Mary Jane...sounds like she'd have to roll it for you though!!
For just relaxing...
Try buying some of them 'wheat bags' that you stick in the microwave to heat up.......
They work wonders on aches and pains... they might help?
i have trouble taking anti-inflammatories too so my doc gave me indocin.......not so bad on stomach..........good luck
ps. u can have arthiritis at any age!!!!!!!!!!! sorry!!!
tell your doctor to sort your stomach problems out and your joint pain will go.I have exactly the same problem but i take nurofen and suffer with the stomach regardless.The doctors are useless with digestive problems.
soaking in a hot bath with 2c. of Epsom salts can do a great deal to remove the inflammation and the pain. Epsom salts helps to pull out the toxins from the body.
I recommend you try acupuncture. Many people have tremendous results using this for Pain instead of medical drugs. you have nothing to lose by giving it a try.
u can ask ur doctor to prescribe some gastric medication for u with some painkiller
There are over the counter supplements with glucosimine and chondroiton that are specifically made for just that condition. Some people swear by shark cartilage. Royal jelly is supposedly a good remedy. Also light exercise ( not aerobic, but more stretching and strength type exercises) would probably help. I'm 47 and have some aches and pains daily and the glucosimine helps me.
I really wish there was an easy answer to this question. It is getting asked in the surgery more and more often as we become increasingly concerned about the risks of NSAIDs, both to the stomach and the heart.
The result is we are giving more patients simple pain relievers, these have no effect on the stiffness and tend to give only patchy relief of pain symptoms.
The other thing we do is prescribe the anti-inflammatory together with PPIs= proton pump inhibitors like omeprazole. This does tend to reduce gastro-intestinal symptoms dramatically, but may have much less effect on the risk of the NSAIDs causing bleeding. Generally also the slow release, once a day, anti-inflammatories should be avoided
Recent work suggests old fashioned naproxen used chronically may have less cardiac risk than say diclofenac, the commonest drug we use now.My Doctor has stopped my Anti inflammatorys because of stomach problems . Any advice on joint pain relief?
If you're open to alternative therapies then I can highly recommend a few sessions of Reiki to help the relieve the pain. It's 'non-intrusive' and very relaxing!
Do some research on Tai Chi, acupuncture or meditation. I believe Tai Chi has been found to be effective with shingles (not the same thing, I know) and acupuncture has been effective with certain conditions, although I don't have specific info. And of course, ask your doctor first.
You might get the Dr to subscribe '; Pennsaid ';, it's an anti-infammitory that comes in drops and is applied directly to the sore area.
he has probably stopped them because prlogned use of anti-inflamatories damages your stomach lining, which has probably caused your stomach problems. a drug called glucosamine is good, you can get it cheap at the moment at holland%26amp;barrett.
Your doctor did the right thing. Lots of problems with those anti inflammatorys.
yes glucosamine, fish oil in big doses can help with pain. However, If there is inflamation too.. there are other things to use. ie supplements. I know what they are but alas I sell them to and will get jumped on.
Whatever you do .. dont use just any stuff from health food store or supermarket.
Good luck. Tiger balm may help with temporary soreness- with a wheat pack on top ..
glucosanimine
voltarol ointment is good I believe you can buy it over the counter now.I do hope you get some remedies on here good luck.
I use Ostio-biflex. It's a mixture of glucosamine and chondrodant. Which is a type of joint fuel, it helps strenghten you cartlidge as well as build up the fluid between your joints which act as a cushion. I've tried differant brands but this one works best for me. There is also one out there called flex-a-min. But had little results with this. They announced on cnn new's that the fda said this was actually better for arthretic pain than the pain killer celebrex.
The more you are able to move, if only a little at the time to start with. The worse thing you can do is stay immobilized. Force yourself to move about.
See Mary Jane...sounds like she'd have to roll it for you though!!
For just relaxing...
Try buying some of them 'wheat bags' that you stick in the microwave to heat up.......
They work wonders on aches and pains... they might help?
i have trouble taking anti-inflammatories too so my doc gave me indocin.......not so bad on stomach..........good luck
ps. u can have arthiritis at any age!!!!!!!!!!! sorry!!!
tell your doctor to sort your stomach problems out and your joint pain will go.I have exactly the same problem but i take nurofen and suffer with the stomach regardless.The doctors are useless with digestive problems.
soaking in a hot bath with 2c. of Epsom salts can do a great deal to remove the inflammation and the pain. Epsom salts helps to pull out the toxins from the body.
I recommend you try acupuncture. Many people have tremendous results using this for Pain instead of medical drugs. you have nothing to lose by giving it a try.
u can ask ur doctor to prescribe some gastric medication for u with some painkiller
There are over the counter supplements with glucosimine and chondroiton that are specifically made for just that condition. Some people swear by shark cartilage. Royal jelly is supposedly a good remedy. Also light exercise ( not aerobic, but more stretching and strength type exercises) would probably help. I'm 47 and have some aches and pains daily and the glucosimine helps me.
My Doctor has stopped my Anti inflammatorys because of stomach problems . Any advice on joint pain relief?
my neck , back, fingers and knees are now really hurting , I'm only 35My Doctor has stopped my Anti inflammatorys because of stomach problems . Any advice on joint pain relief?
I really wish there was an easy answer to this question. It is getting asked in the surgery more and more often as we become increasingly concerned about the risks of NSAIDs, both to the stomach and the heart.
The result is we are giving more patients simple pain relievers, these have no effect on the stiffness and tend to give only patchy relief of pain symptoms.
The other thing we do is prescribe the anti-inflammatory together with PPIs= proton pump inhibitors like omeprazole. This does tend to reduce gastro-intestinal symptoms dramatically, but may have much less effect on the risk of the NSAIDs causing bleeding. Generally also the slow release, once a day, anti-inflammatories should be avoided
Recent work suggests old fashioned naproxen used chronically may have less cardiac risk than say diclofenac, the commonest drug we use now.My Doctor has stopped my Anti inflammatorys because of stomach problems . Any advice on joint pain relief?
If you're open to alternative therapies then I can highly recommend a few sessions of Reiki to help the relieve the pain. It's 'non-intrusive' and very relaxing!
Do some research on Tai Chi, acupuncture or meditation. I believe Tai Chi has been found to be effective with shingles (not the same thing, I know) and acupuncture has been effective with certain conditions, although I don't have specific info. And of course, ask your doctor first.
You might get the Dr to subscribe '; Pennsaid ';, it's an anti-infammitory that comes in drops and is applied directly to the sore area.
he has probably stopped them because prlogned use of anti-inflamatories damages your stomach lining, which has probably caused your stomach problems. a drug called glucosamine is good, you can get it cheap at the moment at holland%26amp;barrett.
Your doctor did the right thing. Lots of problems with those anti inflammatorys.
yes glucosamine, fish oil in big doses can help with pain. However, If there is inflamation too.. there are other things to use. ie supplements. I know what they are but alas I sell them to and will get jumped on.
Whatever you do .. dont use just any stuff from health food store or supermarket.
Good luck. Tiger balm may help with temporary soreness- with a wheat pack on top ..
glucosanimine
voltarol ointment is good I believe you can buy it over the counter now.I do hope you get some remedies on here good luck.
I use Ostio-biflex. It's a mixture of glucosamine and chondrodant. Which is a type of joint fuel, it helps strenghten you cartlidge as well as build up the fluid between your joints which act as a cushion. I've tried differant brands but this one works best for me. There is also one out there called flex-a-min. But had little results with this. They announced on cnn new's that the fda said this was actually better for arthretic pain than the pain killer celebrex.
The more you are able to move, if only a little at the time to start with. The worse thing you can do is stay immobilized. Force yourself to move about.
See Mary Jane...sounds like she'd have to roll it for you though!!
For just relaxing...
Try buying some of them 'wheat bags' that you stick in the microwave to heat up.......
They work wonders on aches and pains... they might help?
i have trouble taking anti-inflammatories too so my doc gave me indocin.......not so bad on stomach..........good luck
ps. u can have arthiritis at any age!!!!!!!!!!! sorry!!!
tell your doctor to sort your stomach problems out and your joint pain will go.I have exactly the same problem but i take nurofen and suffer with the stomach regardless.The doctors are useless with digestive problems.
soaking in a hot bath with 2c. of Epsom salts can do a great deal to remove the inflammation and the pain. Epsom salts helps to pull out the toxins from the body.
I recommend you try acupuncture. Many people have tremendous results using this for Pain instead of medical drugs. you have nothing to lose by giving it a try.
u can ask ur doctor to prescribe some gastric medication for u with some painkiller
There are over the counter supplements with glucosimine and chondroiton that are specifically made for just that condition. Some people swear by shark cartilage. Royal jelly is supposedly a good remedy. Also light exercise ( not aerobic, but more stretching and strength type exercises) would probably help. I'm 47 and have some aches and pains daily and the glucosimine helps me.
I really wish there was an easy answer to this question. It is getting asked in the surgery more and more often as we become increasingly concerned about the risks of NSAIDs, both to the stomach and the heart.
The result is we are giving more patients simple pain relievers, these have no effect on the stiffness and tend to give only patchy relief of pain symptoms.
The other thing we do is prescribe the anti-inflammatory together with PPIs= proton pump inhibitors like omeprazole. This does tend to reduce gastro-intestinal symptoms dramatically, but may have much less effect on the risk of the NSAIDs causing bleeding. Generally also the slow release, once a day, anti-inflammatories should be avoided
Recent work suggests old fashioned naproxen used chronically may have less cardiac risk than say diclofenac, the commonest drug we use now.My Doctor has stopped my Anti inflammatorys because of stomach problems . Any advice on joint pain relief?
If you're open to alternative therapies then I can highly recommend a few sessions of Reiki to help the relieve the pain. It's 'non-intrusive' and very relaxing!
Do some research on Tai Chi, acupuncture or meditation. I believe Tai Chi has been found to be effective with shingles (not the same thing, I know) and acupuncture has been effective with certain conditions, although I don't have specific info. And of course, ask your doctor first.
You might get the Dr to subscribe '; Pennsaid ';, it's an anti-infammitory that comes in drops and is applied directly to the sore area.
he has probably stopped them because prlogned use of anti-inflamatories damages your stomach lining, which has probably caused your stomach problems. a drug called glucosamine is good, you can get it cheap at the moment at holland%26amp;barrett.
Your doctor did the right thing. Lots of problems with those anti inflammatorys.
yes glucosamine, fish oil in big doses can help with pain. However, If there is inflamation too.. there are other things to use. ie supplements. I know what they are but alas I sell them to and will get jumped on.
Whatever you do .. dont use just any stuff from health food store or supermarket.
Good luck. Tiger balm may help with temporary soreness- with a wheat pack on top ..
glucosanimine
voltarol ointment is good I believe you can buy it over the counter now.I do hope you get some remedies on here good luck.
I use Ostio-biflex. It's a mixture of glucosamine and chondrodant. Which is a type of joint fuel, it helps strenghten you cartlidge as well as build up the fluid between your joints which act as a cushion. I've tried differant brands but this one works best for me. There is also one out there called flex-a-min. But had little results with this. They announced on cnn new's that the fda said this was actually better for arthretic pain than the pain killer celebrex.
The more you are able to move, if only a little at the time to start with. The worse thing you can do is stay immobilized. Force yourself to move about.
See Mary Jane...sounds like she'd have to roll it for you though!!
For just relaxing...
Try buying some of them 'wheat bags' that you stick in the microwave to heat up.......
They work wonders on aches and pains... they might help?
i have trouble taking anti-inflammatories too so my doc gave me indocin.......not so bad on stomach..........good luck
ps. u can have arthiritis at any age!!!!!!!!!!! sorry!!!
tell your doctor to sort your stomach problems out and your joint pain will go.I have exactly the same problem but i take nurofen and suffer with the stomach regardless.The doctors are useless with digestive problems.
soaking in a hot bath with 2c. of Epsom salts can do a great deal to remove the inflammation and the pain. Epsom salts helps to pull out the toxins from the body.
I recommend you try acupuncture. Many people have tremendous results using this for Pain instead of medical drugs. you have nothing to lose by giving it a try.
u can ask ur doctor to prescribe some gastric medication for u with some painkiller
There are over the counter supplements with glucosimine and chondroiton that are specifically made for just that condition. Some people swear by shark cartilage. Royal jelly is supposedly a good remedy. Also light exercise ( not aerobic, but more stretching and strength type exercises) would probably help. I'm 47 and have some aches and pains daily and the glucosimine helps me.
Kitten had op thursday had problems breathing so took her back to vet now shes being sick any advice?
my kittens had op on thursday
when i picked her up was told she had a sore throat due to being put out and she was really sorry for herself that night and making a funny noise
on friday she was sort of coughing on and off all day so i took her back to the vet
they gave her an injection and tablets said she had a respatory infection and within a hour she was much better running around and eating
i gave her tablets on sunday as told and she was ok
but last night she was sick in the evening and i came down to find she had been sick this morning
she ok in every other way but im worried that shes not going to keep medicine down now
should i take her back to vet or see how she goes todayKitten had op thursday had problems breathing so took her back to vet now shes being sick any advice?
Hey, Never be afraid to ask your Vet questions. If he/she did not explain the problems, or what to expect , then shame on them. Call and ask, and if you are still concerned about the kitten tomorrow, call again. You never know with animals, as they cannot tell you what the problem is. It just might be the coughing is something he needs to cough up to get better. But just in case its not, talk to your Vet. If they get upset with you for asking too many questions, then get another Vet. If it were your doctor, You would ask questions. Vet's are no different.............. Good Luck with your kittenKitten had op thursday had problems breathing so took her back to vet now shes being sick any advice?
If i was you, have a look for information that shud come either on the tablet box or on leaflet if there is one thats being given to you. If there isn't any then ring your vet for advice and explain that shes being sick, it may be that that shes suffering from side affects due to the tablets the vet gave you for her, or it could be the side affects to the injection. It could also be that she has a bit of stomach upset, you just never know. Anyway, if still unsure, either way ring vet and that way it would put your mind at rest.
Call your vet and ask, but she probably is just coughing up stuff from the infection and she may need to do that to get well.
Of she is eating and keeping her food down and acting normal, just keep an eye on her.
take her back to the vet. don't let him get away from explaining the problem clearly, and what you should be doing to get your pet back to good health; unless of course you're not going to do exactly what the vet tells you to. otherwise get the animal a more concern owner or take it to the nearest no kill shelter.how to apply
when i picked her up was told she had a sore throat due to being put out and she was really sorry for herself that night and making a funny noise
on friday she was sort of coughing on and off all day so i took her back to the vet
they gave her an injection and tablets said she had a respatory infection and within a hour she was much better running around and eating
i gave her tablets on sunday as told and she was ok
but last night she was sick in the evening and i came down to find she had been sick this morning
she ok in every other way but im worried that shes not going to keep medicine down now
should i take her back to vet or see how she goes todayKitten had op thursday had problems breathing so took her back to vet now shes being sick any advice?
Hey, Never be afraid to ask your Vet questions. If he/she did not explain the problems, or what to expect , then shame on them. Call and ask, and if you are still concerned about the kitten tomorrow, call again. You never know with animals, as they cannot tell you what the problem is. It just might be the coughing is something he needs to cough up to get better. But just in case its not, talk to your Vet. If they get upset with you for asking too many questions, then get another Vet. If it were your doctor, You would ask questions. Vet's are no different.............. Good Luck with your kittenKitten had op thursday had problems breathing so took her back to vet now shes being sick any advice?
If i was you, have a look for information that shud come either on the tablet box or on leaflet if there is one thats being given to you. If there isn't any then ring your vet for advice and explain that shes being sick, it may be that that shes suffering from side affects due to the tablets the vet gave you for her, or it could be the side affects to the injection. It could also be that she has a bit of stomach upset, you just never know. Anyway, if still unsure, either way ring vet and that way it would put your mind at rest.
Call your vet and ask, but she probably is just coughing up stuff from the infection and she may need to do that to get well.
Of she is eating and keeping her food down and acting normal, just keep an eye on her.
take her back to the vet. don't let him get away from explaining the problem clearly, and what you should be doing to get your pet back to good health; unless of course you're not going to do exactly what the vet tells you to. otherwise get the animal a more concern owner or take it to the nearest no kill shelter.
I need some advice? Ex problems?
I still like my ex even though she ignores me. Just recently i cheated on her. She doesn't want to talk to me. Should i try to save our broken relationshipI need some advice? Ex problems?
She's ignoring you because you hurt her recently. You need to just give her time, and then if you still feel the way you do now, then you can try to save it. But remember, don't blame her if she doesn't want to get back with you. You cheated on her. Good luckI need some advice? Ex problems?
you cheated on her while going out ! that's so mean you need to leave her the *uck alone you hurt her!
truth hurts
You cheated on your ex? If you're broken up, you don't have a relationship anymore.
I think she is hurt by the fact you cheated on her. Give her some space to get her thoughts together for a while. Then tell her how you really feel. If you really love her you should go after her.
She's ignoring you because you hurt her recently. You need to just give her time, and then if you still feel the way you do now, then you can try to save it. But remember, don't blame her if she doesn't want to get back with you. You cheated on her. Good luckI need some advice? Ex problems?
you cheated on her while going out ! that's so mean you need to leave her the *uck alone you hurt her!
truth hurts
You cheated on your ex? If you're broken up, you don't have a relationship anymore.
I think she is hurt by the fact you cheated on her. Give her some space to get her thoughts together for a while. Then tell her how you really feel. If you really love her you should go after her.
Can someone give me advice to family problems?
I hate my parents. I recently stopped taking a medicine that I felt wasn't right for me. I want some refuge away from them, and I want to live my life the way I want to. Can anyone please help me or give me advice to this?Can someone give me advice to family problems?
Alright, go live by yourself. Work, go to school at the same time .You'll realize you need to work more for bills, then drop out of school. Next, you'll be trying to find your baby's daddy.Can someone give me advice to family problems?
Well, what is the medication for? If you have epilepsy or diabetes your decision to stop the medication is a bad, bad plan. If they are diet pills then yeah, don't take them but if you have a medical condition feeling that they are not good for you and stop taking them doesn't seem like a wise thing to do. As for hating your parents, no one can tell you to feel differently but life with that attitude won't do you much good either. It doesn't sound like you are being abused or exposed to danger, and if you are in fact living in a decent home where you are safe but your parents are annoying, you have a good life. Wait until you can move out and keep busy for the time you are going to be home.
Age has everything to do with it. Everyone hates their parents when they are in their teens. If you are a teenager you will have to go to a civil court and ask for emancipation from your parents. You will have to prove to the court that you are able to live on your own, plus prove to the court that your parents are unfit.
if your 40 my advice is to pack ur bags and go :P
nah seriously every parent and child fights i always fight with my mum and dad ...............take a walk for a while sort your head out and possibly right them down so the next time you have an argument you can clearly show your points and maybe they may come to some agreement with you and understand were your coming from
it all depends on what the problem in your family is.
why dont you like them?
try talking to them about whats bothering you
mayb they'll understand
Well it really depends on how old you are..
Alright, go live by yourself. Work, go to school at the same time .You'll realize you need to work more for bills, then drop out of school. Next, you'll be trying to find your baby's daddy.Can someone give me advice to family problems?
Well, what is the medication for? If you have epilepsy or diabetes your decision to stop the medication is a bad, bad plan. If they are diet pills then yeah, don't take them but if you have a medical condition feeling that they are not good for you and stop taking them doesn't seem like a wise thing to do. As for hating your parents, no one can tell you to feel differently but life with that attitude won't do you much good either. It doesn't sound like you are being abused or exposed to danger, and if you are in fact living in a decent home where you are safe but your parents are annoying, you have a good life. Wait until you can move out and keep busy for the time you are going to be home.
Age has everything to do with it. Everyone hates their parents when they are in their teens. If you are a teenager you will have to go to a civil court and ask for emancipation from your parents. You will have to prove to the court that you are able to live on your own, plus prove to the court that your parents are unfit.
if your 40 my advice is to pack ur bags and go :P
nah seriously every parent and child fights i always fight with my mum and dad ...............take a walk for a while sort your head out and possibly right them down so the next time you have an argument you can clearly show your points and maybe they may come to some agreement with you and understand were your coming from
it all depends on what the problem in your family is.
why dont you like them?
try talking to them about whats bothering you
mayb they'll understand
Well it really depends on how old you are..
Hi,do you have any advice on teenage skin problems?
im 16 and i take tablets for my spots,their not too bad but they dont look very nice.ive tried most creams and i have a healthy diet. has any one else experineced this problem and found a solution? or if not have any advice?Hi,do you have any advice on teenage skin problems?
I'm 16, i use proactiv, ive done used it 3 times in 5 days and im clearing up quick, make sure you get the china clay to go w/ the solutions!!!
FROM THE MAKERS
There is no cure for acne, only a solution.
FOOD
Medical studies show that diet- including chocolate, pizza, and french fries- rarely affects acne. If you find that certain foods make you break out, its common sense to avoid them.
SUN EXPOSURE
Small amounts of sun exposure may improve acne. But sun bathing often increases plugging of pores, producing white and blackheads!!!
UNTREATED ACNE
It's important to start treating acne early. It can get worse leaving scars- both emotional and physical.
WASHING YOUR FACE
Acne is not caused by uncleanliness. Overwashing your face or stripping it with alcohol in an effort to ';Clean'; your skin can actually make blemishes worse.
ACNE IS YOUR FAULT
FALSE, acne is not your fault!!! Acne is caused by a combination of factors, including hormones, bacteria, overabundance of oil, and plugging of pores- not by how often you wash your face or the foods you eat.
ACNE CAN BE CURED
FALSE, there is no cure for acne- not even the perscription drug ACCUTANE. But you can prevent and control mild to moderate acne blemishes with proactiv so its important to treat now and not wait until you can't stand it any longer!!!Hi,do you have any advice on teenage skin problems?
the best and easy way is to wash you face often with just clean and clear water also Before you attempt the other acne treatment techniques you must be sure that you are currently using the proper washing routine. Keeping your face clean requires that you wash it two times per day, three times at the most. You must be very careful to avoid overdoing it. Skin must maintain the proper pH levels to remain healthy. Over washing will make your face dry and irritated causing more breakouts. Many times individuals will vigorously scrub their skin when they wash it. I do not recommend this because such treatment will only serve to irritate the skin causing more breakouts.
Note, acne is not caused by ';dirty'; skin it is the result of clogged pores infected with bacteria. Therefore, washing alone does not prevent acne. Washing is no mystery treatment, in fact washing alone will not prevent acne. It simply serves to remove dirt and oil at the surface level. Although washing alone may not prevent acne, the wrong type of washing can aggravate acne making it worse.
Follow these recommendations: wash your face by gently rotating your soap lathered hands on your face. I do not recommend face cloths as they may irritate the skin. Use a mild nonabrasive soap. Rinse well with warm water. Using a clean soft towel, gently pat dry your face.
Touching
Perhaps one of the most often overlooked remedies. Stop putting your hands by your face! I am often guilty of this resting my hand on the side of my head while reading. Also rubbing or bracing your chin is another common problem when thinking. Avoid rubbing, touching, or itching your skin with your hands. Your hands contain a lot of bacteria that can cause acne flare-ups. Also be careful of the telephone. Clean them often with rubbing alcohol because they sometimes come in contact with the face causing more acne.
It is probably one of the most difficult things to avoid since much of the hand to face contact throughout the day we are unconscious of. Make it a habit to avoid hand contact and be conscious of it during the day to avoid bacteria.
Water
Water helps the body flush out toxins and transport nutrients to the body. Drinking water puts less strain on the skin organ to flush out toxins. The recommended amount of water you should drink is at least half your bodyweight in ounces of water( a 140lb. individual should drink 70 ounces/day ). While water alone will not eliminate your acne it will greatly assist your skin in remaining healthy and that will be one portion of the pie in fighting acne.
Caloric Intake
We are also pleased to announce some ground breaking scientific research that we uncovered while researching the role of diet and acne. We have discovered several scientific studies that illustrate what many individuals have probably overlooked or are unaware of in their diets today. Specifically it is excess caloric intake (the amount of daily calories consumed beyond those required to sustain your current body weight). You can adversely affect your acne levels through altering your diet, simply by consuming excess calories. Several scientific studies have proven this.
The scenario goes basically like this: the process of increasing your caloric intake is by nature an anabolic process for your body. When this anabolic process is put in motion your natural hormonal levels increase. Yes, that's right your testosterone(responsible for acne) will increase beyond their normal levels within your body. So, you should not be consuming excessive calories in your diet beyond those needed to maintain your current body weight. Recall that increased levels of testosterone will increase sebum production levels that result in more pimples.
And for those individuals requiring scientific proof or others that wish to examine this very important issue further, we direct your attentions to the following scientific study references:
I know this may sound like a broken record, but so far proactive has been the only thing that works. You can also have your doctor prescribe you retin A. Make sure you drink lots of water and go to a sauna once in a while. Please do not touch your face, I know it's easier to say but the long term damage can be horrible.
I started using Clean %26amp; Clear products but it only got some of the acne to go away. There is this amazing face mask called Queen Helenes. I use it twice a week. You can even use it for spot treatments. It minimizes pores, gets rid of blackheads, and gets rid of acne. Heres the website for it...
http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.a鈥?/a>
I just got Zeno and I love it if the mask doesnt work get Zeno Acne Clearing Device. Its amazing. It only works on pimples though not blackheads. If you dont like it or it doesnt work for you, you can return it within 30 days. Heres the website for it...
http://www.myzeno.com/
Proactiv Refining Mask is also great. It clears acne and blackheads fast and you can use it as a spot treatment. Heres the website...
http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/app.d鈥?/a>
You can also use these from Biore they get rid of blackheads I use them and they really work. Here is this website...
http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.a鈥?/a>
I really hope this helps acne is no fun at all I hate it!!! Dont get Acne Free or Proactiv because its harsh and doesnt work. It made my face peel which was no fun at all.
Here's a good idea:
ProActiv is a well-known substance to help with cleaning your face, but a few of my friends and I who use it have similar symptoms - It clears up the small but after about a month, a huge pimple that pretty much never goes away pops up. So I suggest this a no.
My friend uses a Clydomithin (or something) acne medication - It's prescription, but her face is relativly clear except for one or two pimples, but she was explaining to me she hadn't been using it often enough because she would wake up late to go to school. It's about the same price as proactiv, so I suppose it is a good deal.
Most prescription medications can be dangerous - Accutane is very bad for your skin, so I suggest you dump it if you have it. I think Differin would work, but I have yet to hear of anyone with it.
Neutregena products work pretty well - most are gentle. My past uses of Clearasil products are good, but using it too much or for over a month makes MY skin adapt to it. I suggest changing it up after every bottle of whatever you use, but Neutrogena On-The-Spot creme or Clearasil Ultra Vanishing creme under the sink or in the purse - it's a quick way to fix acne, but I suggest not touching the face at all while it is on and applying it liberally a couple times a day. Get some daily oil wipes for some help, they eliminate shine and bad oils.
Tanning is a sort of good idea - spend a day or two out in the sun, but after that wear some sunscreen - You CAN get hurt from tanning too much, but it is a quick fix. I always lose a ton of acne when I visit a place like Disney World for about a week, but I try to take care of my face during that time also. Remember: Don't tan too much, cause some bad effects could arise. Skin Cancer isn't fun.
If you wear makeup, wear nonacnegenic or noncomedogenic makeup, because it won't clog the pores nor cause acne. But while you have pimples, the best thing to do is NOT wear makeup - even coverup - you HAVE to let it go away.
Biore strips also work well. What I do is after my shower every day, if I have acne on my nose or face, I apply a strip after washing my face, and while I blowdry my hair, I blow some heat on it. It gets a bit hard to peel off, but a huge amount of oil can come off if done right. But at times, it can end up just being white. But don't do them every day, because it will make your skinn realllyy dry. Then, after removing the pad, washing off any residue, and then drying the area, put some of the vanishing creme I mentioned above on the area. I had a pimple once that was pretty bad, I did that, and it went down pretty fast.
Use a bit less conditioner. If you use conditioner, it can make your hair oily-er and greasy-er. or, just use it on the top of your head and stay away from the bangs/ face area. Although your bangs will not be a silky smooth, they will be less greasy. And use less conditioner than you normally do - you only need a small dollop of the stuff. And if you have really dry hair, use a bit less shampoo - it kind of drys it out, so keep it soft-ish. But hear me out - DO NOT REFRAIN FROM WASHING YOUR HAIR. A kid at school I know ';lets the oils in his hair set in'; and not wash his hair for days on end, making his face utterly acne-ful. Besides, even though your hair might look ';hot,'; your hair could be seriously damaged by it and that oil goes where everything that up goes - down, especially to your face (and sometimes, your back).
Stay Stressless! Don't stress about everything, cos ance IS caused by stress. Tests are tests, quizes are quizes, and acne is acne. You are gonna get a ton of everything when you are a teenage, so just don't stress. If you have a stressful relationship with someone, I suggest slowing it down a couple of steps. Also, maybe a stress releasing activity like yoga or pilates or just plain exercising can work down some stress and acne. Sleep is good, remember that.
Don't go overboard, but experiment with this stuff. Doing it all at once is not recommended, but I suggest waiting for the prescription medications til all of the methods have been tried. Make sure to do as the last one said - stay stressless! Do that with all of these - Acne is a hereditary thing too, so everyone has it. But if you know anyone who can change your genes so you can't get acne - well, I don't know. haha! Just be safe, and don't kill yourself over acne.
I'm 16, i use proactiv, ive done used it 3 times in 5 days and im clearing up quick, make sure you get the china clay to go w/ the solutions!!!
FROM THE MAKERS
There is no cure for acne, only a solution.
FOOD
Medical studies show that diet- including chocolate, pizza, and french fries- rarely affects acne. If you find that certain foods make you break out, its common sense to avoid them.
SUN EXPOSURE
Small amounts of sun exposure may improve acne. But sun bathing often increases plugging of pores, producing white and blackheads!!!
UNTREATED ACNE
It's important to start treating acne early. It can get worse leaving scars- both emotional and physical.
WASHING YOUR FACE
Acne is not caused by uncleanliness. Overwashing your face or stripping it with alcohol in an effort to ';Clean'; your skin can actually make blemishes worse.
ACNE IS YOUR FAULT
FALSE, acne is not your fault!!! Acne is caused by a combination of factors, including hormones, bacteria, overabundance of oil, and plugging of pores- not by how often you wash your face or the foods you eat.
ACNE CAN BE CURED
FALSE, there is no cure for acne- not even the perscription drug ACCUTANE. But you can prevent and control mild to moderate acne blemishes with proactiv so its important to treat now and not wait until you can't stand it any longer!!!Hi,do you have any advice on teenage skin problems?
the best and easy way is to wash you face often with just clean and clear water also Before you attempt the other acne treatment techniques you must be sure that you are currently using the proper washing routine. Keeping your face clean requires that you wash it two times per day, three times at the most. You must be very careful to avoid overdoing it. Skin must maintain the proper pH levels to remain healthy. Over washing will make your face dry and irritated causing more breakouts. Many times individuals will vigorously scrub their skin when they wash it. I do not recommend this because such treatment will only serve to irritate the skin causing more breakouts.
Note, acne is not caused by ';dirty'; skin it is the result of clogged pores infected with bacteria. Therefore, washing alone does not prevent acne. Washing is no mystery treatment, in fact washing alone will not prevent acne. It simply serves to remove dirt and oil at the surface level. Although washing alone may not prevent acne, the wrong type of washing can aggravate acne making it worse.
Follow these recommendations: wash your face by gently rotating your soap lathered hands on your face. I do not recommend face cloths as they may irritate the skin. Use a mild nonabrasive soap. Rinse well with warm water. Using a clean soft towel, gently pat dry your face.
Touching
Perhaps one of the most often overlooked remedies. Stop putting your hands by your face! I am often guilty of this resting my hand on the side of my head while reading. Also rubbing or bracing your chin is another common problem when thinking. Avoid rubbing, touching, or itching your skin with your hands. Your hands contain a lot of bacteria that can cause acne flare-ups. Also be careful of the telephone. Clean them often with rubbing alcohol because they sometimes come in contact with the face causing more acne.
It is probably one of the most difficult things to avoid since much of the hand to face contact throughout the day we are unconscious of. Make it a habit to avoid hand contact and be conscious of it during the day to avoid bacteria.
Water
Water helps the body flush out toxins and transport nutrients to the body. Drinking water puts less strain on the skin organ to flush out toxins. The recommended amount of water you should drink is at least half your bodyweight in ounces of water( a 140lb. individual should drink 70 ounces/day ). While water alone will not eliminate your acne it will greatly assist your skin in remaining healthy and that will be one portion of the pie in fighting acne.
Caloric Intake
We are also pleased to announce some ground breaking scientific research that we uncovered while researching the role of diet and acne. We have discovered several scientific studies that illustrate what many individuals have probably overlooked or are unaware of in their diets today. Specifically it is excess caloric intake (the amount of daily calories consumed beyond those required to sustain your current body weight). You can adversely affect your acne levels through altering your diet, simply by consuming excess calories. Several scientific studies have proven this.
The scenario goes basically like this: the process of increasing your caloric intake is by nature an anabolic process for your body. When this anabolic process is put in motion your natural hormonal levels increase. Yes, that's right your testosterone(responsible for acne) will increase beyond their normal levels within your body. So, you should not be consuming excessive calories in your diet beyond those needed to maintain your current body weight. Recall that increased levels of testosterone will increase sebum production levels that result in more pimples.
And for those individuals requiring scientific proof or others that wish to examine this very important issue further, we direct your attentions to the following scientific study references:
I know this may sound like a broken record, but so far proactive has been the only thing that works. You can also have your doctor prescribe you retin A. Make sure you drink lots of water and go to a sauna once in a while. Please do not touch your face, I know it's easier to say but the long term damage can be horrible.
I started using Clean %26amp; Clear products but it only got some of the acne to go away. There is this amazing face mask called Queen Helenes. I use it twice a week. You can even use it for spot treatments. It minimizes pores, gets rid of blackheads, and gets rid of acne. Heres the website for it...
http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.a鈥?/a>
I just got Zeno and I love it if the mask doesnt work get Zeno Acne Clearing Device. Its amazing. It only works on pimples though not blackheads. If you dont like it or it doesnt work for you, you can return it within 30 days. Heres the website for it...
http://www.myzeno.com/
Proactiv Refining Mask is also great. It clears acne and blackheads fast and you can use it as a spot treatment. Heres the website...
http://www.qvc.com/qic/qvcapp.aspx/app.d鈥?/a>
You can also use these from Biore they get rid of blackheads I use them and they really work. Here is this website...
http://www.drugstore.com/products/prod.a鈥?/a>
I really hope this helps acne is no fun at all I hate it!!! Dont get Acne Free or Proactiv because its harsh and doesnt work. It made my face peel which was no fun at all.
Here's a good idea:
ProActiv is a well-known substance to help with cleaning your face, but a few of my friends and I who use it have similar symptoms - It clears up the small but after about a month, a huge pimple that pretty much never goes away pops up. So I suggest this a no.
My friend uses a Clydomithin (or something) acne medication - It's prescription, but her face is relativly clear except for one or two pimples, but she was explaining to me she hadn't been using it often enough because she would wake up late to go to school. It's about the same price as proactiv, so I suppose it is a good deal.
Most prescription medications can be dangerous - Accutane is very bad for your skin, so I suggest you dump it if you have it. I think Differin would work, but I have yet to hear of anyone with it.
Neutregena products work pretty well - most are gentle. My past uses of Clearasil products are good, but using it too much or for over a month makes MY skin adapt to it. I suggest changing it up after every bottle of whatever you use, but Neutrogena On-The-Spot creme or Clearasil Ultra Vanishing creme under the sink or in the purse - it's a quick way to fix acne, but I suggest not touching the face at all while it is on and applying it liberally a couple times a day. Get some daily oil wipes for some help, they eliminate shine and bad oils.
Tanning is a sort of good idea - spend a day or two out in the sun, but after that wear some sunscreen - You CAN get hurt from tanning too much, but it is a quick fix. I always lose a ton of acne when I visit a place like Disney World for about a week, but I try to take care of my face during that time also. Remember: Don't tan too much, cause some bad effects could arise. Skin Cancer isn't fun.
If you wear makeup, wear nonacnegenic or noncomedogenic makeup, because it won't clog the pores nor cause acne. But while you have pimples, the best thing to do is NOT wear makeup - even coverup - you HAVE to let it go away.
Biore strips also work well. What I do is after my shower every day, if I have acne on my nose or face, I apply a strip after washing my face, and while I blowdry my hair, I blow some heat on it. It gets a bit hard to peel off, but a huge amount of oil can come off if done right. But at times, it can end up just being white. But don't do them every day, because it will make your skinn realllyy dry. Then, after removing the pad, washing off any residue, and then drying the area, put some of the vanishing creme I mentioned above on the area. I had a pimple once that was pretty bad, I did that, and it went down pretty fast.
Use a bit less conditioner. If you use conditioner, it can make your hair oily-er and greasy-er. or, just use it on the top of your head and stay away from the bangs/ face area. Although your bangs will not be a silky smooth, they will be less greasy. And use less conditioner than you normally do - you only need a small dollop of the stuff. And if you have really dry hair, use a bit less shampoo - it kind of drys it out, so keep it soft-ish. But hear me out - DO NOT REFRAIN FROM WASHING YOUR HAIR. A kid at school I know ';lets the oils in his hair set in'; and not wash his hair for days on end, making his face utterly acne-ful. Besides, even though your hair might look ';hot,'; your hair could be seriously damaged by it and that oil goes where everything that up goes - down, especially to your face (and sometimes, your back).
Stay Stressless! Don't stress about everything, cos ance IS caused by stress. Tests are tests, quizes are quizes, and acne is acne. You are gonna get a ton of everything when you are a teenage, so just don't stress. If you have a stressful relationship with someone, I suggest slowing it down a couple of steps. Also, maybe a stress releasing activity like yoga or pilates or just plain exercising can work down some stress and acne. Sleep is good, remember that.
Don't go overboard, but experiment with this stuff. Doing it all at once is not recommended, but I suggest waiting for the prescription medications til all of the methods have been tried. Make sure to do as the last one said - stay stressless! Do that with all of these - Acne is a hereditary thing too, so everyone has it. But if you know anyone who can change your genes so you can't get acne - well, I don't know. haha! Just be safe, and don't kill yourself over acne.
Mother in law problems! advice please!?
So, he's moving to be with me and he is 28 and has been taking care of his mother for years and years and years. The job that he is planning on taking will be about an 10,000 dollar a year cut for him. It won't allow him to spend as freely and GIVE as freely as he has, but he will survive and he and I will be happy together(finally after waiting almost 2 years!!). His outlook was a little negative on it, but I tried to pep him up and tell him to look at the positives and that he won't have to stay at this job, he can just take it and then leave later on if he wants, just something to get him going..plus the company would pay for him to finish his Bachelor's and with that degree he'll be able to do so much more anyway, so I'm telling him to do it...use them up for a year or 2..with his leadership skills he is guaranteed a promotion in no time. My parents tried to cheer him up and tell him the positives as well. HIS MOTHERMother in law problems! advice please!?
i dont know the women and i already dont like her...you need t o tell ur man how you feel, and point all this out if hes just going to continue doing everything she wants him to then theres problem and you may want to re consider your relationshipMother in law problems! advice please!?
oh my this is a train wreak. this is his mother like it or not your going to have to deal with her i don't know how after reading this but if your going to be happy as you say,this has to be handled.did you stop to think that your man might be sad about having to leave his mom i know shes sucking him dry you think but after all shes been his mom longer then you have been in his life and as hard as it might be for you to understand he might not want to take a pay cut move away and start all over and be away from his mother you might be happier with her out of the picture but he might not be,please i beg you both for every-ones sake moms included think about this awhile if time allows so much change at one time is hard to deal with and he might very well in the long run be unhappy with the decision he makes if its to please you and not himself......good luck your going to need it!!!
Some MIL's are just horrible to deal with and at that age they won't change. Just tell your man to not send her any money and try and keep him so busy doing things with you that he won't care to call her so much. Don't stress so much over her asking what he makes though. Even in families where the parents aren't hitting their kids up for money that's a pretty normal question to ask. My parents are loaded and still ask all of us kids what we'll be making (though they may be wanting to see if we'll be hitting them up for money!)
Hang in there! I know from personal experience with my MIL from hell that things can be rough. Just don't let her mess up your relationship. Good luck! ;-)
You sound a bit hypocritical i.e. you think it's unfair that your mother-in-law wants her son close %26amp; you don't want to move, but you want to be close to your family so you are asking your bf to move away from his. You sound bitter %26amp; twisted. Every family is different, that is obviously considered normal questions in his family. The way I see it, both you %26amp; your mother-in-law are putting pressure on this boy %26amp; he is the ';victim';, not you. You are not getting what you want without a fight, so you are pissed off. Whatever his reasons (or your mother-in-law's), she is his mother %26amp; he her son. Don't come between that or you will just make him more miserable. Think about the situation you are putting him in, not just yourself.
FYI- Her, I mean your boyfriend will never cut the strings..If it took 2 years to get him this far just imagine what the rest of your life will be like. Believe me I speak from experience. My husband of 10 years is very ';devoted'; to him mother. To the point where he takes her to dinner at least 3 times a week plus other activities instead of being home with me and our 3 children. And now she is slipping and calling him her husband. Move on now!
Erica
With all due respect, my mother could ask how much money I make and that would not upset me or my husband at all
If my sister gets a new job, I would probably ask how much money she will make, as well as other questions because I love her and we are very close
I want to cheer with her if she is succeeding in her profession
The same way my mother would ask me how much I make so she could probably help me if I need a bit of a hand financially speaking
In other words I see nothing wrong with people asking personal questions if they are intimate and close as a family should be
However, if your mother in law just wants to know how much she can take because from what you say she is lazy and likes to exploit her son, then it's another story
If you are asking for advice, I would forgive her and not keep any grudge, thia way you will maintain a healthy reashionship with her
At the same time, be open about money with your loved one and in a frienly way, try to stipulate a bit of a budget or boundaries, come to an agreement as to how much and even IF his mother should keep receiving financial aid from him
One day you may want to have children of you own and it will be great if they can count of a grandmother, and it will also be great if you and him can prepare a bit of a comfortable future for them :)
She's not your mother in law yet. If you have SUCH problems now.... Of course, if you're as hateful to his face about his mother as you are here, she won't ever be your mother in law.
魏ill his mom
the key is getting him to say no to her. put it to him this way....when we have children, do you want to depend on them to support us? to ask them to stay in one place and at one job to make sure they are close enough to get the cash from them? if you move up there to be with him and you marry him and you guys stay around her, SHE IS GOING TO RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE. there is no way around it. he is a big boy and shes a big girl, GET A JOB. and what's with the 19 year old who doesnt work? wtf? has she ever lived in the real world where people raise their kids and then let them go out and live their own lives knowing they armed them the best they could for life? honey, i'm sure you love him if you are considering moving close to her to be with him, but mark my words, if you do, get ready for the real fight. she sees you as a problem. if you marry her son, he will have his own family unit, and where will that leave her? you are a threat to her. i am really sorry for you. but i feel even more sorry for her. i wish you the best and i wish her to get a job. before she ruins the 19 year olds chances of learning how to take care of herself.
hi i'm bill,you've got the first stage of your problem out of the way by writting it down and getting it of your chest ,you know aproblem shared..the next step would have to be,really talk it over with your boyfriend,tell him who you feel about the way you feel about the way his mother is treating him,likeyou know as a meal ticket,even bring in the fact about his brother and sister inlaw,and ask why they don't speak or even see her anymore.good luck and i hope it works out for you...
All I can say from experience is get over it! Atleast his mom is not telling him to leave you (as my inlaws do) You must realize that however your MIL treats your husband is exactly how he has let her. This has always been their relationship even before he met you and that is his choice to let that happen. Dont interfere. If its something you feel you cant deal with then don't stay with him. But if you choose to be with him, then you must accept it. It won't change until he sees it for himself. I wish someone would have given me this advice...My inlaw situation is out of control and its all because I could not accept that my MIL only treated my husband the way he has let her treat him. Accept it or move on. Trust me it can and will get much worse if you don't stay out of it.
Whoa, take a breath and slow down just a bit. Your anger is coming through loud and clear, and though you may have every right to feel the way you do, remember one thing. She is his mother and her actions may be selfish and overbearing, the bottom line is M.O.T.H.E.R.. My advice to you would be stop letting her actions control you and your emotions. It will get you nowhere. You will just stay angry and all tied up inside, instead of being there for your boyfriend, with emotion support. It sounds to me as if she's not only draining you emotionally, she's draining her son as well. So, she's nosy and asks questions that you view she shouldnt. Let it go. Cause all the foot stomping you do will NOT change her actions or attitude.
Instead concentrate on you and your bf. Once he gets relocated and settled in concentrate on your future with him, and be yourself. Not the person your future mom in law turns you into. Try and stop reacting to her actions and make your own plans with your bf. Support his efforts and be there for him, and in time he will see what life without Mom being around constantly can be like. But I will tell you this much, breaking those strongholds can be very hard. Family is family and we've all got some we didnt choose but have to deal with. And distancing from a domineering overbearing mother can be very difficult to say the least. It takes time and patience.
So, just show him you are there for him, and practice some patience. Remember that he probably feels the same way you do on those issues, but she's his mother and I'm sure he respects that to some degree or she wouldnt have the hold and pull she has on him. In time you and him will build your own life and family, dont let it be ruled by some one who provokes you to anger or whatever. Just let that go and build your own stuff.
i dont know the women and i already dont like her...you need t o tell ur man how you feel, and point all this out if hes just going to continue doing everything she wants him to then theres problem and you may want to re consider your relationshipMother in law problems! advice please!?
oh my this is a train wreak. this is his mother like it or not your going to have to deal with her i don't know how after reading this but if your going to be happy as you say,this has to be handled.did you stop to think that your man might be sad about having to leave his mom i know shes sucking him dry you think but after all shes been his mom longer then you have been in his life and as hard as it might be for you to understand he might not want to take a pay cut move away and start all over and be away from his mother you might be happier with her out of the picture but he might not be,please i beg you both for every-ones sake moms included think about this awhile if time allows so much change at one time is hard to deal with and he might very well in the long run be unhappy with the decision he makes if its to please you and not himself......good luck your going to need it!!!
Some MIL's are just horrible to deal with and at that age they won't change. Just tell your man to not send her any money and try and keep him so busy doing things with you that he won't care to call her so much. Don't stress so much over her asking what he makes though. Even in families where the parents aren't hitting their kids up for money that's a pretty normal question to ask. My parents are loaded and still ask all of us kids what we'll be making (though they may be wanting to see if we'll be hitting them up for money!)
Hang in there! I know from personal experience with my MIL from hell that things can be rough. Just don't let her mess up your relationship. Good luck! ;-)
You sound a bit hypocritical i.e. you think it's unfair that your mother-in-law wants her son close %26amp; you don't want to move, but you want to be close to your family so you are asking your bf to move away from his. You sound bitter %26amp; twisted. Every family is different, that is obviously considered normal questions in his family. The way I see it, both you %26amp; your mother-in-law are putting pressure on this boy %26amp; he is the ';victim';, not you. You are not getting what you want without a fight, so you are pissed off. Whatever his reasons (or your mother-in-law's), she is his mother %26amp; he her son. Don't come between that or you will just make him more miserable. Think about the situation you are putting him in, not just yourself.
FYI- Her, I mean your boyfriend will never cut the strings..If it took 2 years to get him this far just imagine what the rest of your life will be like. Believe me I speak from experience. My husband of 10 years is very ';devoted'; to him mother. To the point where he takes her to dinner at least 3 times a week plus other activities instead of being home with me and our 3 children. And now she is slipping and calling him her husband. Move on now!
Erica
With all due respect, my mother could ask how much money I make and that would not upset me or my husband at all
If my sister gets a new job, I would probably ask how much money she will make, as well as other questions because I love her and we are very close
I want to cheer with her if she is succeeding in her profession
The same way my mother would ask me how much I make so she could probably help me if I need a bit of a hand financially speaking
In other words I see nothing wrong with people asking personal questions if they are intimate and close as a family should be
However, if your mother in law just wants to know how much she can take because from what you say she is lazy and likes to exploit her son, then it's another story
If you are asking for advice, I would forgive her and not keep any grudge, thia way you will maintain a healthy reashionship with her
At the same time, be open about money with your loved one and in a frienly way, try to stipulate a bit of a budget or boundaries, come to an agreement as to how much and even IF his mother should keep receiving financial aid from him
One day you may want to have children of you own and it will be great if they can count of a grandmother, and it will also be great if you and him can prepare a bit of a comfortable future for them :)
She's not your mother in law yet. If you have SUCH problems now.... Of course, if you're as hateful to his face about his mother as you are here, she won't ever be your mother in law.
魏ill his mom
the key is getting him to say no to her. put it to him this way....when we have children, do you want to depend on them to support us? to ask them to stay in one place and at one job to make sure they are close enough to get the cash from them? if you move up there to be with him and you marry him and you guys stay around her, SHE IS GOING TO RUIN YOUR MARRIAGE. there is no way around it. he is a big boy and shes a big girl, GET A JOB. and what's with the 19 year old who doesnt work? wtf? has she ever lived in the real world where people raise their kids and then let them go out and live their own lives knowing they armed them the best they could for life? honey, i'm sure you love him if you are considering moving close to her to be with him, but mark my words, if you do, get ready for the real fight. she sees you as a problem. if you marry her son, he will have his own family unit, and where will that leave her? you are a threat to her. i am really sorry for you. but i feel even more sorry for her. i wish you the best and i wish her to get a job. before she ruins the 19 year olds chances of learning how to take care of herself.
hi i'm bill,you've got the first stage of your problem out of the way by writting it down and getting it of your chest ,you know aproblem shared..the next step would have to be,really talk it over with your boyfriend,tell him who you feel about the way you feel about the way his mother is treating him,likeyou know as a meal ticket,even bring in the fact about his brother and sister inlaw,and ask why they don't speak or even see her anymore.good luck and i hope it works out for you...
All I can say from experience is get over it! Atleast his mom is not telling him to leave you (as my inlaws do) You must realize that however your MIL treats your husband is exactly how he has let her. This has always been their relationship even before he met you and that is his choice to let that happen. Dont interfere. If its something you feel you cant deal with then don't stay with him. But if you choose to be with him, then you must accept it. It won't change until he sees it for himself. I wish someone would have given me this advice...My inlaw situation is out of control and its all because I could not accept that my MIL only treated my husband the way he has let her treat him. Accept it or move on. Trust me it can and will get much worse if you don't stay out of it.
Whoa, take a breath and slow down just a bit. Your anger is coming through loud and clear, and though you may have every right to feel the way you do, remember one thing. She is his mother and her actions may be selfish and overbearing, the bottom line is M.O.T.H.E.R.. My advice to you would be stop letting her actions control you and your emotions. It will get you nowhere. You will just stay angry and all tied up inside, instead of being there for your boyfriend, with emotion support. It sounds to me as if she's not only draining you emotionally, she's draining her son as well. So, she's nosy and asks questions that you view she shouldnt. Let it go. Cause all the foot stomping you do will NOT change her actions or attitude.
Instead concentrate on you and your bf. Once he gets relocated and settled in concentrate on your future with him, and be yourself. Not the person your future mom in law turns you into. Try and stop reacting to her actions and make your own plans with your bf. Support his efforts and be there for him, and in time he will see what life without Mom being around constantly can be like. But I will tell you this much, breaking those strongholds can be very hard. Family is family and we've all got some we didnt choose but have to deal with. And distancing from a domineering overbearing mother can be very difficult to say the least. It takes time and patience.
So, just show him you are there for him, and practice some patience. Remember that he probably feels the same way you do on those issues, but she's his mother and I'm sure he respects that to some degree or she wouldnt have the hold and pull she has on him. In time you and him will build your own life and family, dont let it be ruled by some one who provokes you to anger or whatever. Just let that go and build your own stuff.
Help me!!!!!!! boy problems!!!!! ADVICE NEEDED!!!!?
i know this guy (im new at the school) and we're friends :) he's majorly hot and funny ( i llloovve funny guys :D ) and today i was talking with my friend and one of his friends and he just came up randomly and hugged me :D and yes i have a MAJOR crush on him. what should i do?!?!? thanks! :)Help me!!!!!!! boy problems!!!!! ADVICE NEEDED!!!!?
you should ask him out, go to the movies or hang at one of your guys houses, trust me i have worse problems i have been crushing on the same guy for 3 years and nothing has ever happened. make your move but don't do anything that might risk you friendship, wait and see if he likes u back then things can get even better for u.Help me!!!!!!! boy problems!!!!! ADVICE NEEDED!!!!?
Marriage should be between a man with a woman who are grown up and mature to take the responsibility of the new family bearing children into the generations of mankind in the human society.
Talking to each other using the technology of sending messages is part of teenage life and it doesn't mean a married life partner, rather only a partner for enjoying using messages and other means.
God bless you in Christ Jesus mighty name.
Oh dats kewl :) Y dnt u ask him out?????
you should ask him out, go to the movies or hang at one of your guys houses, trust me i have worse problems i have been crushing on the same guy for 3 years and nothing has ever happened. make your move but don't do anything that might risk you friendship, wait and see if he likes u back then things can get even better for u.Help me!!!!!!! boy problems!!!!! ADVICE NEEDED!!!!?
Marriage should be between a man with a woman who are grown up and mature to take the responsibility of the new family bearing children into the generations of mankind in the human society.
Talking to each other using the technology of sending messages is part of teenage life and it doesn't mean a married life partner, rather only a partner for enjoying using messages and other means.
God bless you in Christ Jesus mighty name.
Oh dats kewl :) Y dnt u ask him out?????
In law problems?? advice?
well here is the problem. my husband's family had a business and my husband was in the line to own everything but he also have a brother who at the time was seeing this girl. after we got married he came back from the us and get married 3 months after, however he went back to the us cuz his wife wanted to go, but after seeing the way my husband and i was living the wealthy life the girl started to envy us, she started to call my mother in law and talk ****, so my mother in law believed her and do away with the business so my husband was left with nothing and she talk a whole bunch of rubbish about me. it has been year and my mother in law hasn't talk to me or my husband, however she calls the other daughter in law. the problem is that my husband is in the us and it will take about 3 yrs for me to go and this ***** has her visa and is goin away. its eating me and because of this every little thing trips me off and i would fight with my husband. i am crying most of the time..help.adviceIn law problems?? advice?
WOW! That is really not fair or nice of that person. I am sorry that you have to deal with that. Why will it take you 3 years to go to where your husband is?
Maybe you could write a letter to your husbands mom telling her how you feel and your side of the story. Just leave her to think about it and tell her that she hasent even talked to her own son in a year!
That is not very loving of her as a mother!
Well good luck and sorry about your situation :(
Beast Wishes - Lisahow to apply
WOW! That is really not fair or nice of that person. I am sorry that you have to deal with that. Why will it take you 3 years to go to where your husband is?
Maybe you could write a letter to your husbands mom telling her how you feel and your side of the story. Just leave her to think about it and tell her that she hasent even talked to her own son in a year!
That is not very loving of her as a mother!
Well good luck and sorry about your situation :(
Beast Wishes - Lisa
Thursday, July 29, 2010
Marriage relationship problems, advice please...?
This may not be the best place for advice, but I'm interested in women's point of view mostly. I have been to marriage counseling, and I'm working on my sex addiction problem.
My wife looses faith in my recovery and no longer wants intimacy with me. I have made progress in my recovery, I no longer masturbate, but I still strive with my desires, and recently saw porn which I confessed to her.
My wife expects perfection from me in this area, she doesn't like it when I feel attracted to other women, but I do not know how to avoid feeling attraction to other women. I have never cheated my wife in real life, only in my fantasies... I love my wife, but she holds back her love when she gets upset with me, and tends to hold an eternal grudge.
I try to repent, but that is not enough for her and she would rather have a divorce than give me time to progress.
We have been married for 5 years and have a single child together. I like and love my wife, I'd like to hear your advice.Marriage relationship problems, advice please...?
I live on the same side of this as your wife. I can tell you that to me, in my heart, whether he's cheating in fantasies, on the phone, or email or whatever, it still feels the same as if I sat and saw him do it for real in person. I hold back too when I'm upset, because in my mind, I visualize him sitting there doing it again, the stupid porn thing for four hours every day, when he does not give me anywhere NEAR the time or focus he puts into that. It's hard to want to be intimate with someone when you know there is NO way you can measure up to what they look at every day or fantasize about. It hurts period. She probably would rather divorce (which is the point I find myself at) because she's simply EXHAUSTED with waiting for progress that NEVER comes, and wonders if she can ever trust you anyway. And think about it. With the pain it causes HER, why should she wait indefinitely on you? It's NOT all about you! It's about her too. I'm not trying to ';dis'; you here. We all have our hangups and mess up. I'm just speaking from the standpoint of a woman who's endured this kind of pain, and knows how it feels. Would you feel good if you knew she had to fantasize about other men all the time?
There just finally comes a time, when a woman builds up her self-confidence, and self-love and realizes that she DOES deserve better than this, and if you can't give it, then what other option does she have? Good luck to you overcoming this problem. At least you're trying. More than I can say in my own circumstance.Marriage relationship problems, advice please...?
first of all masterbation is not an addiction unless you are out of control, my guy does it next to me and i know he thinks about other girls, that is normal too. all men, unless gay, are attracted to other woman, my god ..she want to casterate you too? i think she needs a lesson in men. porno can be an addiction also if used all of the time. she is making your desires stronger by cutting you off completely. if she needs to talk to me give her my email address. i am very open minded and may help her to understand. years of experience!
There is not such thing as perfection... I think however that your wife is and has been very hurt by things you have done in the past and she will need time to heal and forgive you and to start to get past the pain of this herself before she can become whole herself again because what you have done has made her feel that you do not love her and that she is not good enough for you as your wife... I went through this with my first husband and marriage so i can understand where she is coming from and how she feels and why. Is your wife open to trying to go to marriage counseling at all with you???? Or did you go yourself to marriage counseling without her... You are not the only one who needs help and counseling here she does too. Just to let you know that fantasizing about other women is the same thing as doing it with them in person ... There is a scripture in Matthew that says If you look at a woman to lust after here you have already commited adultery in your heart. In God's eyes it is the same thing. If you and your wife go to counseling together and for yourselves and the both of you do all you can to try and save and restore your marriage and relationship and there is ABSOLUTLEY no hope then i feel you should let her go but not until then and only then...
I also want you to think of it this way... How would you feel if she was attracted to other men and lusted and fanatsized about them and you knew about you???? Could you handle this if she had a problem like this and with pornography like you do??? All I am saying is to put yourself in her shoes.... I never felt that my first husband loved me and that he even cared about me and it made me have no self esteem at all and i never felt pretty or attractive to him... This really hurt our marriage and needless to say i reacted the wrong way and we did not go to counseling and help for our marriage... He was also mentally and verbally abusive to me... Our marriage ended in disaster and i dont wish this on anyone else or their marriage. Have you called a local church or pastor and talked with them about this and see if they could possibly give you some advice or help and if they would be able to talk to the both of you together.... I sure hope your child does not grow up in this disfunctional relationship and turn out with alot of problems because of it. May i also suggest some websites for you and your wife to visit together and email these people and ask them for help and advice. If you and your wife would like to talk to my husband and I we are here.... Another thing that really hurt me and my marriage at that time is that he would masturbate to other womens pictures in front of me. Have you done this to and front of her at all?
http://www.marriagetoday.org
http://www.drphil.com
It sounds like you're really giving her your best. And I gotta tell ya pal, I'm not addicted and a woman but I can't even swear off masturbation forever. I don't even know that it's healthy. I also have fantasies and have never considered the thoughts in my head as cheating. As far as being attracted to people of the opposit sex, who isn't? It's whether you act on it or not that makes or breaks the man (or woman for that matter). You would know best if your attitudes and actions spell addiction and the porn thing certainly can mess up a guy, I know, but I fail to see where her attitude is coming from.
Whatever is going on with her, it's clear that she isn't going to be able to get past this on her own. Has she expressed a desire to make it work? Have the two of you sought help together?
I'm 46, widowed and I would be inclined to give you a better chance than it sounds like you've had with her. I also believe in love and in marriage and it sounds sad that she would end it when you are obviously trying very hard to overcome your problems, especially since there was no one else brought into your bed.
I wish I could tell you how to thaw her soul. For me, I think if I felt that way I would want to give it more time to see if my feelings returned, and with a child involved I think that's the way to go. But convincing her that you are doing your best may be hard if she isn't receptive. Are you doing all you can to make sure she has what information she needs to trust you? if what she wants is a play by play of your day and activities, are you willing to provide her with that? Have you opened up your entire life to her so that she can be reasonably sure you are following the practices that ensure successful resolution with regard to yur addiction? I only ask these things to help you decide whether you are doing all you can do to give her what she needs to trust you.
If you are doing all that you can and she isnt doing anything but talking of divorce, than there may be little you can do to change that. If it's her final answer then the work you need to do lies in letting go of her and looking to the future for you and your child.
Do remember that words are very important to women and that she needs to hear your feelings and thoughts. The best you can do now is to express yourself openly to her and see if she wouldn't give you more time.
I wish you good luck and will be hoping she gives you that time to prove yourself.
How would you like it if your wife fantasized about other men constantly. How would you feel if she was making love to you and thinking about another man. I do not understand men and their thinking. I wouldn't want to make love to a man who was fantasizing about another woman - what's the point????? It almost sounds like you are flaunting this to her and that is probably what is making her mad. Do you really want the marriage or is something inside doing this to get her upset so you can go out and fulfill all of your fantasies. What about your child? Is sex more important than that?
My wife looses faith in my recovery and no longer wants intimacy with me. I have made progress in my recovery, I no longer masturbate, but I still strive with my desires, and recently saw porn which I confessed to her.
My wife expects perfection from me in this area, she doesn't like it when I feel attracted to other women, but I do not know how to avoid feeling attraction to other women. I have never cheated my wife in real life, only in my fantasies... I love my wife, but she holds back her love when she gets upset with me, and tends to hold an eternal grudge.
I try to repent, but that is not enough for her and she would rather have a divorce than give me time to progress.
We have been married for 5 years and have a single child together. I like and love my wife, I'd like to hear your advice.Marriage relationship problems, advice please...?
I live on the same side of this as your wife. I can tell you that to me, in my heart, whether he's cheating in fantasies, on the phone, or email or whatever, it still feels the same as if I sat and saw him do it for real in person. I hold back too when I'm upset, because in my mind, I visualize him sitting there doing it again, the stupid porn thing for four hours every day, when he does not give me anywhere NEAR the time or focus he puts into that. It's hard to want to be intimate with someone when you know there is NO way you can measure up to what they look at every day or fantasize about. It hurts period. She probably would rather divorce (which is the point I find myself at) because she's simply EXHAUSTED with waiting for progress that NEVER comes, and wonders if she can ever trust you anyway. And think about it. With the pain it causes HER, why should she wait indefinitely on you? It's NOT all about you! It's about her too. I'm not trying to ';dis'; you here. We all have our hangups and mess up. I'm just speaking from the standpoint of a woman who's endured this kind of pain, and knows how it feels. Would you feel good if you knew she had to fantasize about other men all the time?
There just finally comes a time, when a woman builds up her self-confidence, and self-love and realizes that she DOES deserve better than this, and if you can't give it, then what other option does she have? Good luck to you overcoming this problem. At least you're trying. More than I can say in my own circumstance.Marriage relationship problems, advice please...?
first of all masterbation is not an addiction unless you are out of control, my guy does it next to me and i know he thinks about other girls, that is normal too. all men, unless gay, are attracted to other woman, my god ..she want to casterate you too? i think she needs a lesson in men. porno can be an addiction also if used all of the time. she is making your desires stronger by cutting you off completely. if she needs to talk to me give her my email address. i am very open minded and may help her to understand. years of experience!
There is not such thing as perfection... I think however that your wife is and has been very hurt by things you have done in the past and she will need time to heal and forgive you and to start to get past the pain of this herself before she can become whole herself again because what you have done has made her feel that you do not love her and that she is not good enough for you as your wife... I went through this with my first husband and marriage so i can understand where she is coming from and how she feels and why. Is your wife open to trying to go to marriage counseling at all with you???? Or did you go yourself to marriage counseling without her... You are not the only one who needs help and counseling here she does too. Just to let you know that fantasizing about other women is the same thing as doing it with them in person ... There is a scripture in Matthew that says If you look at a woman to lust after here you have already commited adultery in your heart. In God's eyes it is the same thing. If you and your wife go to counseling together and for yourselves and the both of you do all you can to try and save and restore your marriage and relationship and there is ABSOLUTLEY no hope then i feel you should let her go but not until then and only then...
I also want you to think of it this way... How would you feel if she was attracted to other men and lusted and fanatsized about them and you knew about you???? Could you handle this if she had a problem like this and with pornography like you do??? All I am saying is to put yourself in her shoes.... I never felt that my first husband loved me and that he even cared about me and it made me have no self esteem at all and i never felt pretty or attractive to him... This really hurt our marriage and needless to say i reacted the wrong way and we did not go to counseling and help for our marriage... He was also mentally and verbally abusive to me... Our marriage ended in disaster and i dont wish this on anyone else or their marriage. Have you called a local church or pastor and talked with them about this and see if they could possibly give you some advice or help and if they would be able to talk to the both of you together.... I sure hope your child does not grow up in this disfunctional relationship and turn out with alot of problems because of it. May i also suggest some websites for you and your wife to visit together and email these people and ask them for help and advice. If you and your wife would like to talk to my husband and I we are here.... Another thing that really hurt me and my marriage at that time is that he would masturbate to other womens pictures in front of me. Have you done this to and front of her at all?
http://www.marriagetoday.org
http://www.drphil.com
It sounds like you're really giving her your best. And I gotta tell ya pal, I'm not addicted and a woman but I can't even swear off masturbation forever. I don't even know that it's healthy. I also have fantasies and have never considered the thoughts in my head as cheating. As far as being attracted to people of the opposit sex, who isn't? It's whether you act on it or not that makes or breaks the man (or woman for that matter). You would know best if your attitudes and actions spell addiction and the porn thing certainly can mess up a guy, I know, but I fail to see where her attitude is coming from.
Whatever is going on with her, it's clear that she isn't going to be able to get past this on her own. Has she expressed a desire to make it work? Have the two of you sought help together?
I'm 46, widowed and I would be inclined to give you a better chance than it sounds like you've had with her. I also believe in love and in marriage and it sounds sad that she would end it when you are obviously trying very hard to overcome your problems, especially since there was no one else brought into your bed.
I wish I could tell you how to thaw her soul. For me, I think if I felt that way I would want to give it more time to see if my feelings returned, and with a child involved I think that's the way to go. But convincing her that you are doing your best may be hard if she isn't receptive. Are you doing all you can to make sure she has what information she needs to trust you? if what she wants is a play by play of your day and activities, are you willing to provide her with that? Have you opened up your entire life to her so that she can be reasonably sure you are following the practices that ensure successful resolution with regard to yur addiction? I only ask these things to help you decide whether you are doing all you can do to give her what she needs to trust you.
If you are doing all that you can and she isnt doing anything but talking of divorce, than there may be little you can do to change that. If it's her final answer then the work you need to do lies in letting go of her and looking to the future for you and your child.
Do remember that words are very important to women and that she needs to hear your feelings and thoughts. The best you can do now is to express yourself openly to her and see if she wouldn't give you more time.
I wish you good luck and will be hoping she gives you that time to prove yourself.
How would you like it if your wife fantasized about other men constantly. How would you feel if she was making love to you and thinking about another man. I do not understand men and their thinking. I wouldn't want to make love to a man who was fantasizing about another woman - what's the point????? It almost sounds like you are flaunting this to her and that is probably what is making her mad. Do you really want the marriage or is something inside doing this to get her upset so you can go out and fulfill all of your fantasies. What about your child? Is sex more important than that?
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