My suggestion is for both of you to start over like me and my wife did.
I took her out to the lake and I talk to her like I just met her and she is a new woman in my life.
We had to re-invent ourselves again.
Whatever it's worth...it works.Marriage problems?.Advice please...
Be very careful that your concept of ';communication'; is not just you telling him how you want him to change.
It sounds like you are not really telling him your feelings but how he is somehow deficient.
The defensive posturing has begun and now, rather than discussing feelings and positive change it comes down to a defensive argument.
You should think very long and hard about your attitude here.
Your assessment that it is your husband who does not ';communicate';
may very well be his being tired of being told, You don't do this, You need to change that. This is not communication. These come to him as messages of inadequacy and get tuned out.
This may not be a situation where he is not communicating. It could very well be his method of dealing with what he sees as a constant barrage of instruction from you that is viewed as criticism.
BTW why not counseling? If it is not a money issue what is the resistance? If it is him, he may find that it is not him who will be told that they need to change so much.
Communication is a two way thing. If things have changed it is like an argument it takes two to fail at it. Look at what has changed in you as well and see if you are changing your stances or ability to compromise as well. Seldom do things change without something stimulating them. If you really work at it I am sure you can come about the real problems and find solutions.
Check out the Boundaries in marriage book.
Maybe you will have to take a really close look at yourself to see how you speak to your husband...if the way you speak winds him up or upsets him every time you may have to change your approach and the way you speak.to your hubby...like copies like...so if you ask him nicely, he'll come back nicely,....if you ask him rudely, he'll reply rudely....
Also get the book out of the library Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus so you can understand the Male species...very different thinking from women...try to understand where you husband is coming from and think before you speak...good luck!
When my husband and I can't talk or I fell like i will yell at him and don't want to, we either write letters or emails. This way you can read what you are going to say and make it informative and not argumentative.
I got a book How to talk so kids will listen. This works on everyone not just your kids. It is called reflective listening and it seems to work. Also be careful you aren't picking fights, some women do.
Seek counseling and I think honesty, trust and communication is just a part of a good relationship.
I think a marriage counsler would be the best thing for yall. Dont give up, keep working on it.
if you can't communicate, why did you marry him???
if there is no communication, then time to get out...
Sorry but I do not understand what ';ROW'; is???? How does communication finish with ROW.
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