Ok so i have been with my bf for almost 7 months and we never really had an all out agruement. so about a week and a half ago i spoke on something that was reallly bothering me and he was ok cool we talk more on it when i see you. just to let you know he encourges me to speak my mine and don't hold my feelings in. Ever since i said what i needed to be said he be really distant and he has not called me. I call him and we speak for about 5 mins max. I trying to be fair and understanding since he owns he's own business and has a child from a previous relationship and he helps out his mom alot. But i just feel that i come last to everything in his life.Boyfriend Problems??? Advice and Opinions?
I had the exact same problem with my boyfriend. When we finally starting speaking again I let him know that I derserve an opinion and demand equal respect in this relationship. I told him that if he wasn't willing to do that for me then I was going to have to move on and if he truely loved me he would understand and would try to work it out. Sweetheart you have to be willing to walk away, only then will you know for sure if he's willing to go to the mat for you.Boyfriend Problems??? Advice and Opinions?
sounds like he has a problem when a woman asserts herself. you seemed happy until you voiced your diagreeement. not a good sign. tha compounded by the fact that you feel you come last in his life - i'd say take a break for a while. stop calling him %26amp; see what he does. maybe he's shocked that you stood up for yourself. or maybe he is genuinly hurt by what you said %26amp; doesn't know how to handle it. i'd say good for you for standing up for yourself, but he may not be right for you considering how he reacted and how he treats you in general. good luck.
firstly dont think that you come last but understand he is taking care of his mother and child to and that must be stressful and you need to be more open and tell him that you think that you might have offended him with what you said i think you are worring for nothing im not an expert but iv being in my relationship for 2 yrs and like all relationships you will have your ups and downs what is important is that you communicate with eachother that is the key to a good relationship!
I think it depends on some factors. What did you tell him? Was it something about an ex-boyfriend, or something at work? If it was something personal like an ex, or emotional issues in your life, then maybe he just doesn't know how to handle it. But if it was something calmer, like...you messed up at work, then maybe he's just busy at work, etc.
I know exactly where you are coming from with the feeling like you are coming last I have been talking to this guy for about 5 months and when i talk to him we talk for only a couple minutes and then it's some lame excuse to get off the phone. I put up with it for a little over a month and then i told him how much it was upsetting me and he told me things would change I am yet to see them change for the whole however he is making more of an effort now. WHICH at least made me feel like I matter so it's not like you have to feel like you are getting all emotional over someone who is for the lack of a better way of saying it...'getting over it'.
If you feel that you are last then this guy isnt for you if he treats you like that.
give him time. wait until he calls you. he probably needs some space to figure out what you said. keep the lines of communication open and go do what you love. he will come around when he is ready.
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