All of the small things add up....and yes they do matter in life. These things like cleaning and hygiene are necessary skills to function as an adult. As your parents, their job is to prepare you for life on your own.I need advice for problems with my parents. it is nothing to serious but i dont no what to do.?
Dear Chelsea,
The two things you mentioned...brushing your teeth and a tidy room are not that hard to accomplish, right? Why don't you focus on doing them and see if your parents are happier. It is also good to learn early in life no one ruins your life. The things you have done have brought you the unhappiness. Your parents sound wonderful. If you learn the lessons of your training now, it will pay you rich dividends in your future.
IF YOU PRETTY MUCH KNOW WHAT P*%26amp;%26amp;^ THEM OFF, TAKE CARE OF THE SMALL STUFF AND THEY WONT LOOK FOR THE BIGGIES. AS A MAN TOLD ME ONE TIME,
''IF THEY DON'T SEE THE OUTHOUSE,(THE BIGGIE) THEY WON'T LOOK FOR THE TOILET PAPER'(THE SMALLIES) THINK ABOUT IT. IT WILL MAKE SENSE TO YOU. GOOD LUCK.
Parents tend to freak out a little when their kids become teenages... but you sound like a good kid and I'm sure your parents know this. Talk to them about it, you maybe surprised.
If you have a friend whose parents are close with yours, tell that friend what your parents are doing to you. Tell her to tell her parents what you said, and then ask if her parents can try to convince yours to change their disciplinary ways. If that doesn't work then just try talking to your parents.
Your parents are trying to teach you responsibility. By making sure that you do the chores that you have been assigned they are preparing you for when you're out in the workforce and you have jobs that need to be done. If you don't do them you don't get paid....it's that simple. So your parents are doing you a huge favor by making sure that you're ready to be on your own..that's their job.
You should be happy that you're not my kid because those ';C's'; would not make it around here if I knew you were capable of doing better. Why are you just getting by, why not do your best so that the future will be brighter for you? What you do today will impact your future. The choices you make today will affect your tomorrow. Just think about it. The future is yours right now, to do anything you want to do, to be anything you want to be...that's a gift, don't blow it.
I wish you well.
I have to agree... the punishments are extreme for the behaviors they're supposed to manage.
The consequence for not brushing should be more along the lines of ';go brush now';. The consequences for not cleaning your room should be ';Turn off the TV and do it now';.
By applying overly punitive consequences relative to the behavior they risk pushing you away.
I suggest that you sit down with them and talk about this stuff. Point out that you would never do drugs or any of that much worse stuff and you'd like to work out a system that involves lesser consequences.
try talking to them bout it .to solve a problem you need to talk bout it to the person itself.i know you don,t want hear it. but your parents love you,they are show you about life,they want to show you to have good values.but one thing i can say you are a very gooddaughter.but at your age you schould know when to brush your teeth.a month punishment is way to harse.they are treating you like a 5year old,as a mother myself i think of my kids my babys no matter how old thier are .just ask my 28year old daughter!she is married an has 2 boys,sometimes i try to boss her around without thinking,an she says mother i am a adult,so you see sometimes parents have to be reminded that thier baby is not a baby anymore,GoodLuck Sweet Heart!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
darling their just being parents
when ur one u'll understand why their doing this
but it is really good that they trust you not to do drugs, alcohol, or sex
I know how you feel my parents get on my back for the same exact things so here's what you do sit them down and tell them that you don't thinkt the punishment they give you fits the crime like if you forget to brush your teeth they should make you watch health films not take away going to party or if it takes you five minuets to clean your make you sit in bordom for five minuets.It works for my parents take it from a 14 yr old who is always getting yelled at!:}
ya i agree, they are going over bard over the little things, but maybe this is there way of reminding you who's in charge?or like you said, you get what you want, you a bit spoiled?maybe your taking advantage of them and your pushing that line in little ways, well usually when a kid pushes a little,if you don't respond, next time they push Little harder, maybe coming home after curfew?if parents dint put there foot down right away, the teenager is walking all over them-and soon the kids problem will be drugs and pregnancy?not using the phone is gonna kill you, or mess up your life.so clean your room everyday, it should stay clean, and for goodness sakes brush your teeth, its gross when you dint,and pull up your grades, C's are good, but you can do better,never settle, push your self, always always do your best. good luck and god bless you
yo dont worry about it..my parents where the same why with me but then one day i just told them that i didnt care anymore about wat they say...iam not telling you to do that cause yout parents might react different..o.. and the first couple times i told them i didnt care they would hit me but like iam taller and stronger then them it doesnt hurt me..lol..after a couple times they just didnt care *** much....iam only 16 so i understand you they complai about the smallest things...good luck...
Whats the question??
well your parents are only trying to prepare you 4 life out side this is only a stage you are going though.
';doesnt do that yet beause im only 15'; youd be surprise at the whole bunch of losers I know of doing drugs and sex and theyre waaay younger than you!!!.. anyways to the point.. talk to your parents.. tell them what you said, that you think they shouldnt worry about, you dont do drugs nor sex.. and youre a bit old to have them get mad at you for brushing your teeth (unless you dont brush them for days.. then I understand THEM) haha.. just talk to them .. theyre just looking out for you.. seems like they still see you as their little baby =)
they are just trying to raise you in a proper way. keeping yourself clean is a good thing. and its not so hard to brush your teeth or clean your room. To you it doesn't matter but I am sure to them it really does. I dont think they should punish you over it though. just do as they say and it shouldn't ruin your life over these little things
Explain to them that you feel they are jumping to punish you too quickly. If your room is a mess, ask them to give you a warning first. Then, if it's not clean in the next hour or so, they can punish you.
Sometimes parents don't want to negotiate, but if you can use a lot of words like ';I feel trapped and unhappy'; and focus on how you feel and DO NOT tell them ';you are being unfair'; then it may help them sympathize.
It's not a bad idea to do what they ask, though.
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