Hello, I have a 01 escort that is having some major issues, the car has some starting problems, when you get the car started it has a very erratic idle and wont stay idle for more than 15 minutes without dieing. when you push the gas pedal it completely bogs down, backfires, and will die. I noticed about 2 weeks ago that it ran really rough with the a/c or fan on, so I wasn't using them at all. now when you get it started and put the air while its sitting idle, it bogs out. We are at a loss.. WE did have some trouble codes P0171, cleared that and it went away and then got code P1401. We have changed the fuel pump, fuel filter, changed spark plugs, cleaned MAF sensor, check the IAC valve and cleaned that, checked the DPFE sensor, checked harmonic balancer, checked and cleaned ERG, had the ignition module checked.. and everything is in good working order, have found no vaccum leaks.. Any advice would be greatly appriciated!2001 escort starting/throttle problems.. advice!?
sounds like you are chaseing codes instead of know where to look which has cost you alot of monies.thats why the dealers are there and this is why they get the big bucks take it to them put it on the computer and find out what really is wrong with it and then have them fix it it for a reasonable cost that is and you get a warrantry also.you could have a manifold leak ,hose leak bad mapsensor etc . and you do have a 2001 escort you didnt say how many miles the car is 9 to 10 years old depending when you bought it or if your the 2nd or 3rd owner remembe this also good luck
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
7 month old sleep problems!!! Advice?
My 7 month old has terrible sleeping problems, thought us co-sleeping I'm sure hasn't helped...She still does sleep through the night and will want usually two bottles throughout the night. She just starting rolling all about a few weeks ago which also makes for terrible sleep for us all...She'll roll and roll like she can't get comfortable. She sleeps in the crib for ALL naps, but screams her head off if we put her it or the Pack n Play at night.
Yes, we feed her cereal three times a day
Yes, she naps well
She is formula and babyfood fed7 month old sleep problems!!! Advice?
dont let her nap during the day try that7 month old sleep problems!!! Advice?
move your nap time back an hour or so. This way she has more time to wear out before bed. You can start feeding her more foods besides cereal and babyfood, like mashed pots that will leave her fuller. Play with her and wear her out! practice walking helping her and stuff like that. Have crawling contests. etc. when you put her down to sleep sit with her or lay on the floor so she knows your there for a while.
She's used to a certain routine . . . but you need to change it for your own health and sanity! Here's what we did when our kids were 5-8 months old, and not sleeping (still eating) through the night:
1) after making sure they have everything they need, (aren't thirsty, hungry, wet, cold, etc.), put them in the crib.
2) when they cry the first time, go in, touch them, comfort for 30 seconds.
3) If they're still crying, after waiting 3 or 4 minutes, go and stand next to the crib, speak comforting words.
4) repeat the process, lengthening time, a couple of times, trying to stand farther back each time, till finally, just in the doorway.
It seems cruel, but they really just need to learn that they can fall asleep on their own in their own little beds. Otherwise, what we do to comfort them BECOMES their routine. This will help her learn to get comfortable %26amp; fall asleep by herself if she wakes in the middle of the night, not to cry and need to be 'put down' again. She needs to know she can do it, and I promise it isn't cruel, in the end!
By 7 months old, they should be easily able to sleep for 5-6 hours at a stretch.
Good luck!
Wow, exactly the same problem with me!! My son is 7 months old and wakes 2-3 times a night to eat and rolls all over the bed that we co-sleep with him in. My son takes naps in his crib too. The thing that helps us is that we have a bottle with two oz. of water in it next to the bed with one scoop of fornula measured out next to it. We just mix it up and feed him on the spot. That way he doesnt have to actually wait for a bottle to be made. We used to give him 4 oz. and we cut it down to only 2 oz. because I know he isnt actually hungry. He just wants that comfort. He moved from waking up 5 times a night to only one or two now. He hates to sleep in his pack n play too so next week we are moving his crib in our room and we are going to put him in there through the night. It may be hard at first but the other morning I woke up before him and came into the living room. A half an hour later I heard a big thump then a cry. He had rolled off the bed!! He is perfectly fine and only cried for like 5 sec. but thats scary and from now on he just cant sleep in our bed without us there. In a few months we will move the crib out of our room. It is going to have to be a slow transition. I hope that some of my suggestions might help!!
Yes, we feed her cereal three times a day
Yes, she naps well
She is formula and babyfood fed7 month old sleep problems!!! Advice?
dont let her nap during the day try that7 month old sleep problems!!! Advice?
move your nap time back an hour or so. This way she has more time to wear out before bed. You can start feeding her more foods besides cereal and babyfood, like mashed pots that will leave her fuller. Play with her and wear her out! practice walking helping her and stuff like that. Have crawling contests. etc. when you put her down to sleep sit with her or lay on the floor so she knows your there for a while.
She's used to a certain routine . . . but you need to change it for your own health and sanity! Here's what we did when our kids were 5-8 months old, and not sleeping (still eating) through the night:
1) after making sure they have everything they need, (aren't thirsty, hungry, wet, cold, etc.), put them in the crib.
2) when they cry the first time, go in, touch them, comfort for 30 seconds.
3) If they're still crying, after waiting 3 or 4 minutes, go and stand next to the crib, speak comforting words.
4) repeat the process, lengthening time, a couple of times, trying to stand farther back each time, till finally, just in the doorway.
It seems cruel, but they really just need to learn that they can fall asleep on their own in their own little beds. Otherwise, what we do to comfort them BECOMES their routine. This will help her learn to get comfortable %26amp; fall asleep by herself if she wakes in the middle of the night, not to cry and need to be 'put down' again. She needs to know she can do it, and I promise it isn't cruel, in the end!
By 7 months old, they should be easily able to sleep for 5-6 hours at a stretch.
Good luck!
Wow, exactly the same problem with me!! My son is 7 months old and wakes 2-3 times a night to eat and rolls all over the bed that we co-sleep with him in. My son takes naps in his crib too. The thing that helps us is that we have a bottle with two oz. of water in it next to the bed with one scoop of fornula measured out next to it. We just mix it up and feed him on the spot. That way he doesnt have to actually wait for a bottle to be made. We used to give him 4 oz. and we cut it down to only 2 oz. because I know he isnt actually hungry. He just wants that comfort. He moved from waking up 5 times a night to only one or two now. He hates to sleep in his pack n play too so next week we are moving his crib in our room and we are going to put him in there through the night. It may be hard at first but the other morning I woke up before him and came into the living room. A half an hour later I heard a big thump then a cry. He had rolled off the bed!! He is perfectly fine and only cried for like 5 sec. but thats scary and from now on he just cant sleep in our bed without us there. In a few months we will move the crib out of our room. It is going to have to be a slow transition. I hope that some of my suggestions might help!!
Best friend and boyfriend problems...advice?
I have this best friend who was there for me last year. She is a junior and I am a senior. I moved to another county and found this amazing guy. I spend a ton of time with him because I love him and he lives close. I would spend more time with her but she lives in another county. Neither one of us drives. She is starting to complain that I spend too much time with my boyfriend and not enough time with her. What should I tell her? And also; she is getting to where if I talk to her she complains about life in general and if I try to give her advice she replies with, ';Don't contradict me!'; I'm starting to get tired of talking to her b/c she doesn't like my boyfriend and hasn't even met him. We are growing apart.Best friend and boyfriend problems...advice?
well, you are in another county so she cant say that you spend too much time with him and not enough with her bc theres not that many ways you can see her yet. And when she complains about life in general you need to tell her to suck it up and make the best out of life or else shes going to be miserable. And if she doesnt want advice she shouldnt talk about that stuff. It sounds like she thinks she knows everything and doesnt need help ever. If you dont like how she talks to you about her horable life and then doesnt let you help her tell her to see a counciler.Best friend and boyfriend problems...advice?
Let it go were it goes if it doesn't change it wasn't ment to be.
i think that you you have no fault in this. she is very jelous that she doesn't have you to herself. i think that it is time for you guys to let go and move on with ur own lives.
i think you rock
well, you are in another county so she cant say that you spend too much time with him and not enough with her bc theres not that many ways you can see her yet. And when she complains about life in general you need to tell her to suck it up and make the best out of life or else shes going to be miserable. And if she doesnt want advice she shouldnt talk about that stuff. It sounds like she thinks she knows everything and doesnt need help ever. If you dont like how she talks to you about her horable life and then doesnt let you help her tell her to see a counciler.Best friend and boyfriend problems...advice?
Let it go were it goes if it doesn't change it wasn't ment to be.
i think that you you have no fault in this. she is very jelous that she doesn't have you to herself. i think that it is time for you guys to let go and move on with ur own lives.
i think you rock
Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Earlier in the day,my boyfriend texted me yesterday and he said that a girl that is close to his grandma said that I cheated on him,he said she thinks she is hating.I dont know this girl,and she keeps buggin him about it,and its getting to his head.
Later on on the middle of the night last night he called me because he said something was bothering him and it on his mind.What happened was that the same girl and him were in the room,and they were getting ready for a party earlier that day, she asked if he can put lotion on her.He admitted,it was just her legs.So then he leaves,and then this girl strips naked and goes in the room and kisses him.He said he didn't do anything,and i want to believe him and said he was call me later today to talk more about this,i couldnt handle the thought yesterday.We are both saved christians,WE DONT HAVE SEX,and we know thats till marriage,and I want to handle this the right way without buggin out,but I dont know how.Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
He made a big mistake putting lotion on her legs. Remember in the Old Testament, Joseph fled from Potiphar's wife. I don't think you can trust him. I'd give him his walking papers if he can't convince you that it was a one-time lapse in judgement, apologize and promise to never be in the same room alone with her again. Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Calm down. If your boyfriend is worthy of your trust, then accept his explanation. If you don't trust him, dump him.
It sounds to me like one of two things happened here:
1. Jealous girl tries to con boy into sleeping with her. When he refuses her advances, she spreads rumors about his girlfriend.
2. Boy cheats on girlfriend and lies about it.
You must decide which one is more likely, based on what you know about your boyfriend.
Pray for wisdom and powers of discernment. You bf was tempted but he says nothing else happened. Even Jesus Christ was tempted! No one is immune from temptation. Give this matter lots of prayer, lots of thought, and some time.
You shouldn't dump your boyfriend too hastily.
This is not God's plan for you. My advice? Say Goodbye...
Shortcakes,
Good for you and youcommitmentnt to stay pure. This situation would be much more difficult to handle had you had an intimate relationship with him.
This must be so upsetting for you. Without knowing him, it's hard to make a firm judgment call, but I gotta say, it doesn't sound good.
If I were you, I would see if he were willing to have nothing more to do with this girl. The Bible tells us to flee when this kind of thing happens.
If he insists that he should still be her friend or even continue to talk her etc.. I would move on. Also, if you would find out that he lied to you and something happened between them, still move on. Temptation will always be a part of a person's life. You don't want to make a lifetime commitmentnt to someone who is going to break your heart over and over.
It's also possible that in case he gets caught, he's got the ';but I thought you had cheated on me, and that's why I did it';.
Later on on the middle of the night last night he called me because he said something was bothering him and it on his mind.What happened was that the same girl and him were in the room,and they were getting ready for a party earlier that day, she asked if he can put lotion on her.He admitted,it was just her legs.So then he leaves,and then this girl strips naked and goes in the room and kisses him.He said he didn't do anything,and i want to believe him and said he was call me later today to talk more about this,i couldnt handle the thought yesterday.We are both saved christians,WE DONT HAVE SEX,and we know thats till marriage,and I want to handle this the right way without buggin out,but I dont know how.Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
He made a big mistake putting lotion on her legs. Remember in the Old Testament, Joseph fled from Potiphar's wife. I don't think you can trust him. I'd give him his walking papers if he can't convince you that it was a one-time lapse in judgement, apologize and promise to never be in the same room alone with her again. Christian dating with some problems.Advice Please?
Calm down. If your boyfriend is worthy of your trust, then accept his explanation. If you don't trust him, dump him.
It sounds to me like one of two things happened here:
1. Jealous girl tries to con boy into sleeping with her. When he refuses her advances, she spreads rumors about his girlfriend.
2. Boy cheats on girlfriend and lies about it.
You must decide which one is more likely, based on what you know about your boyfriend.
Pray for wisdom and powers of discernment. You bf was tempted but he says nothing else happened. Even Jesus Christ was tempted! No one is immune from temptation. Give this matter lots of prayer, lots of thought, and some time.
You shouldn't dump your boyfriend too hastily.
This is not God's plan for you. My advice? Say Goodbye...
Shortcakes,
Good for you and youcommitmentnt to stay pure. This situation would be much more difficult to handle had you had an intimate relationship with him.
This must be so upsetting for you. Without knowing him, it's hard to make a firm judgment call, but I gotta say, it doesn't sound good.
If I were you, I would see if he were willing to have nothing more to do with this girl. The Bible tells us to flee when this kind of thing happens.
If he insists that he should still be her friend or even continue to talk her etc.. I would move on. Also, if you would find out that he lied to you and something happened between them, still move on. Temptation will always be a part of a person's life. You don't want to make a lifetime commitmentnt to someone who is going to break your heart over and over.
It's also possible that in case he gets caught, he's got the ';but I thought you had cheated on me, and that's why I did it';.
I have some guy problems. ADVICE PLEASE?
I'm a freshman in high school and I kinda like this senior. We flirt and talk during school whenever we see each other. But he doesn't try to talk to me after school like on myspace or facebook. Still whenever he sees me around he tries to talk to me. So I don't know if he's just being a flirt because I think he is one.
There's this other guy in my year who I think likes me because we were flirting at the basketball games, and we even kissed but he hasn't asked me out because he says he's not sure if I like him or not. I found out from a friend. And I'm not sure if I do, so I don't know if I wanna go out with him.
I like the senior more, but I feel kinda stupid for liking him because I don't know if he likes me. I mean he's a senior. What should I do? If a guy's interested in you, he'd try to talk to you after school too, right?I have some guy problems. ADVICE PLEASE?
It depends on the guy, he might also think your not interested
There's this other guy in my year who I think likes me because we were flirting at the basketball games, and we even kissed but he hasn't asked me out because he says he's not sure if I like him or not. I found out from a friend. And I'm not sure if I do, so I don't know if I wanna go out with him.
I like the senior more, but I feel kinda stupid for liking him because I don't know if he likes me. I mean he's a senior. What should I do? If a guy's interested in you, he'd try to talk to you after school too, right?I have some guy problems. ADVICE PLEASE?
It depends on the guy, he might also think your not interested
Want another baby quite bad but some problems..advice please..?
ive already had a boy and a girl..had no problems concieving with them both..now me and my partner want our 3rd..only problem is..
hes perfect doesnt drink..smoke..drugs..etc
i on the other hand..have done drugs..namely..pills and weed..normally go out every month with friends on nights out and get pretty drunk..i smoke sometimes its quite heavy sometimes i can go days without smoking...
after the birth of my eldest i had endometriosis luckily fell pregnant with my youngest as doc said pregnancy would cure it.i also had an abortion june 2006 as it was too close to have another. i have cut down going out..stopped the drugs..although im not addicted to drugs..i have only ever done pills twice once landing me in hospital and weed making me sick..so its a no go from now on.
although i smoke i want to stop depseratly.
my partner isnt keen on the idea of having right this minute untill i sort myself out which i am trying..
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
thanks :-Want another baby quite bad but some problems..advice please..?
It's hard to manage parenting and health problems at the same time, and endometriosis can cause a lot of pain. But, it's also hard to parent well and deal with drugs or alcohol or other substances. They're hard on your body, to begin with, and when you're using, and drunk or high, it's hard on those around you as well, because you're just not yourself. Your partner sound wise. It seems like it would be a good idea to take time to stop using drugs and alcohol, to build a healthy realtionship with the children you have, and with your partner, and to heal your body, mind, and spirit a bit, before trying for a baby. Starting a pregnancy in your best health gives your baby, who is totally dependent on you while he or she is growing inside, the best possible start in life. There are many sources of support and help while you try and work out what's going on for you.Want another baby quite bad but some problems..advice please..?
OK, you had an abortion less than a year ago and now you want to get pregnant. Something isn't right there. I think you have enough children. Concentrate on being a good mom to them and cleaning up your act. I may get thumbs down for this but you don't need another child. Actually, you don't deserve one. Sorry, that's how I feel.
I would get your life in order before you think about getting pregnant again.beauty eye
hes perfect doesnt drink..smoke..drugs..etc
i on the other hand..have done drugs..namely..pills and weed..normally go out every month with friends on nights out and get pretty drunk..i smoke sometimes its quite heavy sometimes i can go days without smoking...
after the birth of my eldest i had endometriosis luckily fell pregnant with my youngest as doc said pregnancy would cure it.i also had an abortion june 2006 as it was too close to have another. i have cut down going out..stopped the drugs..although im not addicted to drugs..i have only ever done pills twice once landing me in hospital and weed making me sick..so its a no go from now on.
although i smoke i want to stop depseratly.
my partner isnt keen on the idea of having right this minute untill i sort myself out which i am trying..
any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
thanks :-Want another baby quite bad but some problems..advice please..?
It's hard to manage parenting and health problems at the same time, and endometriosis can cause a lot of pain. But, it's also hard to parent well and deal with drugs or alcohol or other substances. They're hard on your body, to begin with, and when you're using, and drunk or high, it's hard on those around you as well, because you're just not yourself. Your partner sound wise. It seems like it would be a good idea to take time to stop using drugs and alcohol, to build a healthy realtionship with the children you have, and with your partner, and to heal your body, mind, and spirit a bit, before trying for a baby. Starting a pregnancy in your best health gives your baby, who is totally dependent on you while he or she is growing inside, the best possible start in life. There are many sources of support and help while you try and work out what's going on for you.Want another baby quite bad but some problems..advice please..?
OK, you had an abortion less than a year ago and now you want to get pregnant. Something isn't right there. I think you have enough children. Concentrate on being a good mom to them and cleaning up your act. I may get thumbs down for this but you don't need another child. Actually, you don't deserve one. Sorry, that's how I feel.
I would get your life in order before you think about getting pregnant again.
I need some advice, boy problems............?
My best friend is falling hard for me.
Instead of doing handshakes he loves giving me hugs.
And he hates when I sit to my other bffl's boyfriend.
he is kinda overprotective.
I just don't know what to do.I need some advice, boy problems............?
just talk to him. tell him u don't like him.I need some advice, boy problems............?
Tell him to cool off - control himself.
Those 'hugs' you describe are ... big bear hugs that involve groping your waist and your back? If he wants to hug you, they should be less physical - put his hand on your shoulder or top of your back and not thrusting his body to yours. It's a definition between a 'friendly' hug and an 'over-passionate, romantically affectionate' hug.
Curb the jealousy and make him relax. He shouldn't be controlling anyone or anything but himself emotionally and physically.
If your not into him, you should tell him before he gets too serious about you. Just keep stating that hes such a great friend, and hes like a brother. Stuff like that.
Best way to sort whats going on is to talk to him...
Sit him down and set the facts straight...
Good luck!!!
talk to him and ask him how he feels about u and how u feel about yourself
yeah what she said toots
Instead of doing handshakes he loves giving me hugs.
And he hates when I sit to my other bffl's boyfriend.
he is kinda overprotective.
I just don't know what to do.I need some advice, boy problems............?
just talk to him. tell him u don't like him.I need some advice, boy problems............?
Tell him to cool off - control himself.
Those 'hugs' you describe are ... big bear hugs that involve groping your waist and your back? If he wants to hug you, they should be less physical - put his hand on your shoulder or top of your back and not thrusting his body to yours. It's a definition between a 'friendly' hug and an 'over-passionate, romantically affectionate' hug.
Curb the jealousy and make him relax. He shouldn't be controlling anyone or anything but himself emotionally and physically.
If your not into him, you should tell him before he gets too serious about you. Just keep stating that hes such a great friend, and hes like a brother. Stuff like that.
Best way to sort whats going on is to talk to him...
Sit him down and set the facts straight...
Good luck!!!
talk to him and ask him how he feels about u and how u feel about yourself
yeah what she said toots
Chat room marital advice family problems?
chat room marital advice family problems?........ AND?Chat room marital advice family problems?
To: ';Little Girl';...You are certainly aptly named!Chat room marital advice family problems?
I am 'assuming' you're asking either if this is such...If so, the answer would be no......
OR you're looking for such. And it seems that doing a search would provide you with an answer of a chat room with those issues.
What is the question? Are you asking if it is good? It can help to know you are not alone.
Did you get it ???
what the hell is the question you wana ask ???
To: ';Little Girl';...You are certainly aptly named!Chat room marital advice family problems?
I am 'assuming' you're asking either if this is such...If so, the answer would be no......
OR you're looking for such. And it seems that doing a search would provide you with an answer of a chat room with those issues.
What is the question? Are you asking if it is good? It can help to know you are not alone.
Did you get it ???
what the hell is the question you wana ask ???
I'm having problems..advice please !?
My ex boyfriend of over a year and I still talk
even though he hit me once and did awful things. Because he was crying his eyes out teling me how he wanted to be friends.
I agreed, and thats what we've been. He introduced me to someone. They arent really friends and do talk every once in a while. This guy treats me soo sweet. He really likes me and cares. Unlike my ex.
Talking to my ex isnt making things easier. I guess I just believed him when he keeps tellig me that hess changed and it seemas he has..but when i think about it..i just get mad and take it out o n him.
I like this other guy a lot.
So should I just stop contact with my ex?I'm having problems..advice please !?
You're young, and I'm an old fart. You'd be wise to learn this lesson now - abusive relationships are no fun at all. You already know this, and this is why you have moved on. Do not look back - you'll have regrets. In the most extreme scenario, you could even be putting your own life at risk if you go back to the ex-boyfriend.
In short, you simply need to cut all ties with the ex-boyfriend. It sounds like you're happy with your life as it is now, so why ruin it?
even though he hit me once and did awful things. Because he was crying his eyes out teling me how he wanted to be friends.
I agreed, and thats what we've been. He introduced me to someone. They arent really friends and do talk every once in a while. This guy treats me soo sweet. He really likes me and cares. Unlike my ex.
Talking to my ex isnt making things easier. I guess I just believed him when he keeps tellig me that hess changed and it seemas he has..but when i think about it..i just get mad and take it out o n him.
I like this other guy a lot.
So should I just stop contact with my ex?I'm having problems..advice please !?
You're young, and I'm an old fart. You'd be wise to learn this lesson now - abusive relationships are no fun at all. You already know this, and this is why you have moved on. Do not look back - you'll have regrets. In the most extreme scenario, you could even be putting your own life at risk if you go back to the ex-boyfriend.
In short, you simply need to cut all ties with the ex-boyfriend. It sounds like you're happy with your life as it is now, so why ruin it?
I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
Good evening from where I am :)
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
he was into you and still might be or it might just be too late. cuz anyone can do the basic flirtin **** with anyone else so it might have been a friendly flirt. just don't wait around on someone like that.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
To me it sounds like he likes u but also likes her... what ever u do don't make him pick. try to become friends with this mystery girl.
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
he was into you and still might be or it might just be too late. cuz anyone can do the basic flirtin **** with anyone else so it might have been a friendly flirt. just don't wait around on someone like that.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
To me it sounds like he likes u but also likes her... what ever u do don't make him pick. try to become friends with this mystery girl.
I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
Good evening from where I am :)
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
He likes you, but this girl keeps getting in the way, if you have his number give him a call and let him know, or you can tell him in a letter, its your senior year %26amp;%26amp; who knows if you'll ever see him again, just be honest and don't be afraid to show your feelings. Ask him out on a date.. if you don't want to write a note, and then just tell him there.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
I think he doesn't like you.
honestly.
it seems like he likes you
but you arn't giving off enough signal that you like him too.
you should be more forward about it.
and a way to do that is to ask him if he is going out with that girl
first of all it will give you clarification of his status and it will also let him know that you care about that kinda stuff
do me a favor
and answer my question.
im habing boy trouble too
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
some guys just like to have a close friend thats a girl even if they have a GF
sorry to say, i think your just the friend
My guess knowing our flawed logic system is: He likes you, but was probably waiting on a hint from you, then when you didn't give it, he settled for another girl thinking you were uninterested.
you should leave this person who does not have a clear behavior..you can find better boyfriend..he is hurting you with his behavior which is not normal...dont pay attention to him anymore and you will get the good result..
There is a thing called just being friends. But as long as theres a possibility of a GF u dont wanna put that stress on u her or him.
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
He likes you, but this girl keeps getting in the way, if you have his number give him a call and let him know, or you can tell him in a letter, its your senior year %26amp;%26amp; who knows if you'll ever see him again, just be honest and don't be afraid to show your feelings. Ask him out on a date.. if you don't want to write a note, and then just tell him there.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
I think he doesn't like you.
honestly.
it seems like he likes you
but you arn't giving off enough signal that you like him too.
you should be more forward about it.
and a way to do that is to ask him if he is going out with that girl
first of all it will give you clarification of his status and it will also let him know that you care about that kinda stuff
do me a favor
and answer my question.
im habing boy trouble too
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
some guys just like to have a close friend thats a girl even if they have a GF
sorry to say, i think your just the friend
My guess knowing our flawed logic system is: He likes you, but was probably waiting on a hint from you, then when you didn't give it, he settled for another girl thinking you were uninterested.
you should leave this person who does not have a clear behavior..you can find better boyfriend..he is hurting you with his behavior which is not normal...dont pay attention to him anymore and you will get the good result..
There is a thing called just being friends. But as long as theres a possibility of a GF u dont wanna put that stress on u her or him.
Im having breathing problems? Advice?
Lately Ive been having problems breathing. For about the past week? Or since Like Friday.
Its kind of like, I feel like im not getting enough air, so I take a deep breath, and it feels like I cant get a full breath.
My mom thinks its allergy related, and well try benadryl.
Any help on how to help me breathe better, for now?
because I cant go to the doctor at this point, because my dad doesnt have a job, or insurance, so.
Also.
This happened to me a bit when I was a kid. but it wasnt this bad.
It was like everyonce in a while.
And i went to the doctor and they said nothing was wrong but he gave me an inhaler anyways.Im having breathing problems? Advice?
Depending on which inhaler you were given, (a reliever or a preventer) you should consider taking the inhaler each day if it is a preventer or when you feel breathless take it (if it is a reliever)Im having breathing problems? Advice?
even i had this prob wen i was a kid.. n it was mainly because of travelling.. if u really wan to get rid of it i recommend yoga its the best..
when you go to school this morning go to the nurses office and see if they treat you maybe its something minorbeauty eye
Its kind of like, I feel like im not getting enough air, so I take a deep breath, and it feels like I cant get a full breath.
My mom thinks its allergy related, and well try benadryl.
Any help on how to help me breathe better, for now?
because I cant go to the doctor at this point, because my dad doesnt have a job, or insurance, so.
Also.
This happened to me a bit when I was a kid. but it wasnt this bad.
It was like everyonce in a while.
And i went to the doctor and they said nothing was wrong but he gave me an inhaler anyways.Im having breathing problems? Advice?
Depending on which inhaler you were given, (a reliever or a preventer) you should consider taking the inhaler each day if it is a preventer or when you feel breathless take it (if it is a reliever)Im having breathing problems? Advice?
even i had this prob wen i was a kid.. n it was mainly because of travelling.. if u really wan to get rid of it i recommend yoga its the best..
when you go to school this morning go to the nurses office and see if they treat you maybe its something minor
My husband had a gall bladder problems, the dr advice him to take a low fat diet ..?
the doctor told him that he should avoid taking fatty meals.. is it okay if he eats fish like fishmilkMy husband had a gall bladder problems, the dr advice him to take a low fat diet ..?
as long as its not fried
as long as its not fried
Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
I have had plumbing problems for the past year. There are 4 units in my apartment complex %26amp; we are the last one. Therefore, all of our plumbing is connected and we see to get the brunt of it.
My landlord is saying that I have to pay for the last plumbing bill because the plumber found paper towels in the drain (which in my opinion could be coming from any of the four units?) Do I really have to pay this? Our building is so old %26amp; I truly feel the problems we are constantly having can't possibly be from us. It's gotten so bad that at one point, sewage, human feces and toilet paper were running down the side of our complex.
She may threaten to raise our rent if I don't pay this bill. Any suggestions on what to do? Perhaps call the housing authority about the sewage outside? (I have pictures for evidence).Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
You have to read your lease.
AND you MUST follow-up what the lease states - or doesn't state - in the form of an e-mail and/or ';snail mail';.
In real estate AND in the practice of law, there is a very basic expression:
';When it isn't in writing, it simply doesn't exist.';
If the landlord won't communicate with you - in writing, THEN YOU should do it. Send ';snail mails'; and/or e-mails to the landlord's attention.
In case he/she denies any of those statements, be sure you keep exact duplicates in your files. THEN you produce that correspondence. You NEVER, EVER give any one those copies - except in court.
Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it!
VTY,
Ron Berue
Yes, that is my real last name!Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
DEFINATELY call about the sewage outside, but if he can provide expert evidence from a licensed plumber (the statement of cause on the bill is enough) that a particular unit is the cause the landlord can charge that tenant.
I tend to downplay Ron Berue's answers as he only uses generic ';cut %26amp; paste'; file responses.
call DEQ regarding fical-matter exposed and if you are all on a community sewerline, its on the LL to pay for and keep a clear %26amp; clean area for you to reside.
If you are on a lease, they cannot raise rents and if you are on a MotoMo rental agreement, it may be the better choice for you to leave anyway.
If its the latter, stop paying rents and force the LL's hand at a day in court and explain the situation to the Judge.
Photos and facts are a useful item when in court.
IF the sewer was fixed and it is not running down the side of the building anymore, you dont have a case. It may have came from some other unit. He also may have charged the other 3 people for plumbing issues before and now its your turn (you are the last unit). If there is a next time, he will charge the 1st unit and start over. I, however, would charge all of the tenants 1/4 of the bill. Send him a certified letter stating that you will be willing to pay 1/4 of the bill, but not all of it as there are 3 other tenants that could have done it. The landlord is NOT going to take your word that the paper towels arent yours. Been there done that before. So pay 1/4 with the letter and send it. On the bottom of the check put ';plumbing, my portion paid in full';. If he cashes it, he has agreed to the terms.
If the main sewer plugs up, any one of the tenants could be the source of the paper towels. Also the sewer could be damaged and plugs up with no one at fault.
I once cleared a sewer from a single family home where the pattern on the offending paper towels (blue bells) matched the roll in the kitchen!!!!!!!!! The tenant claimed she was not the source of the paper towels.
My landlord is saying that I have to pay for the last plumbing bill because the plumber found paper towels in the drain (which in my opinion could be coming from any of the four units?) Do I really have to pay this? Our building is so old %26amp; I truly feel the problems we are constantly having can't possibly be from us. It's gotten so bad that at one point, sewage, human feces and toilet paper were running down the side of our complex.
She may threaten to raise our rent if I don't pay this bill. Any suggestions on what to do? Perhaps call the housing authority about the sewage outside? (I have pictures for evidence).Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
You have to read your lease.
AND you MUST follow-up what the lease states - or doesn't state - in the form of an e-mail and/or ';snail mail';.
In real estate AND in the practice of law, there is a very basic expression:
';When it isn't in writing, it simply doesn't exist.';
If the landlord won't communicate with you - in writing, THEN YOU should do it. Send ';snail mails'; and/or e-mails to the landlord's attention.
In case he/she denies any of those statements, be sure you keep exact duplicates in your files. THEN you produce that correspondence. You NEVER, EVER give any one those copies - except in court.
Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it!
VTY,
Ron Berue
Yes, that is my real last name!Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
DEFINATELY call about the sewage outside, but if he can provide expert evidence from a licensed plumber (the statement of cause on the bill is enough) that a particular unit is the cause the landlord can charge that tenant.
I tend to downplay Ron Berue's answers as he only uses generic ';cut %26amp; paste'; file responses.
call DEQ regarding fical-matter exposed and if you are all on a community sewerline, its on the LL to pay for and keep a clear %26amp; clean area for you to reside.
If you are on a lease, they cannot raise rents and if you are on a MotoMo rental agreement, it may be the better choice for you to leave anyway.
If its the latter, stop paying rents and force the LL's hand at a day in court and explain the situation to the Judge.
Photos and facts are a useful item when in court.
IF the sewer was fixed and it is not running down the side of the building anymore, you dont have a case. It may have came from some other unit. He also may have charged the other 3 people for plumbing issues before and now its your turn (you are the last unit). If there is a next time, he will charge the 1st unit and start over. I, however, would charge all of the tenants 1/4 of the bill. Send him a certified letter stating that you will be willing to pay 1/4 of the bill, but not all of it as there are 3 other tenants that could have done it. The landlord is NOT going to take your word that the paper towels arent yours. Been there done that before. So pay 1/4 with the letter and send it. On the bottom of the check put ';plumbing, my portion paid in full';. If he cashes it, he has agreed to the terms.
If the main sewer plugs up, any one of the tenants could be the source of the paper towels. Also the sewer could be damaged and plugs up with no one at fault.
I once cleared a sewer from a single family home where the pattern on the offending paper towels (blue bells) matched the roll in the kitchen!!!!!!!!! The tenant claimed she was not the source of the paper towels.
Major Ex-Boyfriend problems. Advice, Please.?
alright. I had a boyfriend for a year, and he broke up with me a week ago because he felt tied down and because he was bored with me. I was devastated. He said we could be friends, so we are now... But for the past week, he's been telling me perverted comments, hugging me, following me, even kissing me on the cheek... And he's been calling me babe. But when i ask him if he still liked me, he said, ';I told you i didn't. And I can't go back.'; But he is acting like we're still going out! Can someone give me their honest opinion on what he's trying to do? And what should i do with him?Major Ex-Boyfriend problems. Advice, Please.?
Avoid him like the turd he is.
He wants to be free to pursue his own interests (other girls)
while keeping you close enough to use you if nothing better comes along.Major Ex-Boyfriend problems. Advice, Please.?
I went through something similar, too. Don't let him do things like that if you've broke up. It just makes things worse. If it's over, and he can't just be friends with you, then it's over. Seems like he just wants to put up a front for other people, and maybe himself, and that's wrong. Let him know how you feel, and that if you're not really dating anymore, than both of you should just move on. It hurts too much to pretend to be something you're not.
Ignore him for a while.
Stop seeing him.
Answer the phones and stuff,act normal as if you were friends,but never call him or plan to meet him for a while.
If he wants you as a friend he will be there in a couple of weeks so no problem.
But if he still wants you as a gf,it will drive him nuts and he will come back.
You can never be friends with an ex. This guy is probably trying to get something from you, but you can not give it to him. Most guys that want to be friends after a relationship are keeping the girl at arms length just in case she is willing to give up sex. Go away from him and start your life over. He isn't worth your time.
He is playing you and that's not right. He knows how you feel and he knows how he is acting is giving you ideas.. and he doesn't care if that hurts you. What you need to do is keep away from him. If he touches you again tell him to keep his hands off of you. .better yet.. start dating and he'll get the idea. He wants you right where you are.. wanting him but him playing his games. Don't let him do this to you. You're better than he deserves by far!
It sounds to me like he just want some. either that or he physically misses you. and he thinks he can easily get it from you because he knows you still have feelings for him. But that's just the thing. You need to tell him that you guys are FRIENDS. Not friends with benefits. And if he can't respect that and is gonna sit up here and play wit yo emotions for his own benefits, then you don't want his friendship.
he wants the best of both worlds, he doesn't want to commit to you but yet he wants to have some relations with you, no strings attached. remind him that you deserve respect, the next time he talks to you like that, put him in his place. he's the one that left. so make him sorry that he did.
Leave his *** alone. He wants the benefits of having you as a girlfriend without actually being with you. Don't let him do that to you. If he can't be with you as a girlfriend then don't let him treat you like that.
girl, if i was you, dont let him do that.
just ignore him and move if he tries to kiss you.
he's toying with your emotions.
show him you know whats up and flirt with boys around him.
(:
hope i helped!
-katie.
You might have done something to piss him off really bad and now he's just trying to make you jealous.
It sounds to me like he wants to be more than friends, but you obviously aren't a priority in the commitment department. Maybe he wants to be with you, but be free to hook up with other girls and not feel guilty about it.
Maybe he's just a pig.
My opinion aside, you need to decide what to do about it, no one else. Long story short, he hurt you. It's pouring salt on the wound, acting the way he is.
My ex and I broke up, and for months we kept hooking up. Once I finally asked him ';Does this mean we're back together?'; He looked at me and literally started laughing.
One day, as I was fawning over him and a variety of other men who really weren't worth my time, Prince Charming tapped on my shoulder. We're getting married next November.
Just tell him to eff off, that you're worth more. Saying it out loud, especially to him, will mean the world to the both of you.
Cheers,
Alex
No, dump him. He wants friend with benefit. If does not like you what the hell is doing with you? Who care what he is trying do do. He is not worthy, dump him and let him know you don't need him. If you want friends you can have someone else. Tell him that you find a nice boyfriend that like you, even so is not true both that what is going to happen eventually. Remember is playing with you and your feeling and one day out the blue he is going to come with the same b.s. He probably doing the same thing with other girls. When we all stop playing the game he will have nobody to play game. Girl, you deserve better and you know it, don't let this jerk in your way. Step on his foot until he fly. (My experience) Tell him he is a big bored and you don't like him. Even if you like him, be strong don't let anybody play with you. God bless you and I hope you find someone that can kick his ball.
Avoid him like the turd he is.
He wants to be free to pursue his own interests (other girls)
while keeping you close enough to use you if nothing better comes along.Major Ex-Boyfriend problems. Advice, Please.?
I went through something similar, too. Don't let him do things like that if you've broke up. It just makes things worse. If it's over, and he can't just be friends with you, then it's over. Seems like he just wants to put up a front for other people, and maybe himself, and that's wrong. Let him know how you feel, and that if you're not really dating anymore, than both of you should just move on. It hurts too much to pretend to be something you're not.
Ignore him for a while.
Stop seeing him.
Answer the phones and stuff,act normal as if you were friends,but never call him or plan to meet him for a while.
If he wants you as a friend he will be there in a couple of weeks so no problem.
But if he still wants you as a gf,it will drive him nuts and he will come back.
You can never be friends with an ex. This guy is probably trying to get something from you, but you can not give it to him. Most guys that want to be friends after a relationship are keeping the girl at arms length just in case she is willing to give up sex. Go away from him and start your life over. He isn't worth your time.
He is playing you and that's not right. He knows how you feel and he knows how he is acting is giving you ideas.. and he doesn't care if that hurts you. What you need to do is keep away from him. If he touches you again tell him to keep his hands off of you. .better yet.. start dating and he'll get the idea. He wants you right where you are.. wanting him but him playing his games. Don't let him do this to you. You're better than he deserves by far!
It sounds to me like he just want some. either that or he physically misses you. and he thinks he can easily get it from you because he knows you still have feelings for him. But that's just the thing. You need to tell him that you guys are FRIENDS. Not friends with benefits. And if he can't respect that and is gonna sit up here and play wit yo emotions for his own benefits, then you don't want his friendship.
he wants the best of both worlds, he doesn't want to commit to you but yet he wants to have some relations with you, no strings attached. remind him that you deserve respect, the next time he talks to you like that, put him in his place. he's the one that left. so make him sorry that he did.
Leave his *** alone. He wants the benefits of having you as a girlfriend without actually being with you. Don't let him do that to you. If he can't be with you as a girlfriend then don't let him treat you like that.
girl, if i was you, dont let him do that.
just ignore him and move if he tries to kiss you.
he's toying with your emotions.
show him you know whats up and flirt with boys around him.
(:
hope i helped!
-katie.
You might have done something to piss him off really bad and now he's just trying to make you jealous.
It sounds to me like he wants to be more than friends, but you obviously aren't a priority in the commitment department. Maybe he wants to be with you, but be free to hook up with other girls and not feel guilty about it.
Maybe he's just a pig.
My opinion aside, you need to decide what to do about it, no one else. Long story short, he hurt you. It's pouring salt on the wound, acting the way he is.
My ex and I broke up, and for months we kept hooking up. Once I finally asked him ';Does this mean we're back together?'; He looked at me and literally started laughing.
One day, as I was fawning over him and a variety of other men who really weren't worth my time, Prince Charming tapped on my shoulder. We're getting married next November.
Just tell him to eff off, that you're worth more. Saying it out loud, especially to him, will mean the world to the both of you.
Cheers,
Alex
No, dump him. He wants friend with benefit. If does not like you what the hell is doing with you? Who care what he is trying do do. He is not worthy, dump him and let him know you don't need him. If you want friends you can have someone else. Tell him that you find a nice boyfriend that like you, even so is not true both that what is going to happen eventually. Remember is playing with you and your feeling and one day out the blue he is going to come with the same b.s. He probably doing the same thing with other girls. When we all stop playing the game he will have nobody to play game. Girl, you deserve better and you know it, don't let this jerk in your way. Step on his foot until he fly. (My experience) Tell him he is a big bored and you don't like him. Even if you like him, be strong don't let anybody play with you. God bless you and I hope you find someone that can kick his ball.
Loestrin 24 Fe Problems - Advice Needed?
I've been on the pill for about 3 weeks now and I'm beginning to have some strange symptoms with this. I want to know if anyone else has had these problems and what I can do about them:
-Extremely heavy bleeding for the past 7 days, nonstop
-Strange headaches, dizziness
-Extreme mood swings, depression (sometimes I'll just cry for hours on end without a reason for it) and this weird anxiety where I seem to be nervous about everything
-Stomach bloating and weight gain (even though I keep to a regular diet and exercise regularly)
-Idk if this is related but my hair has always been very thick and now it seems to be thinner and a large clump always comes out when I shower...Idk how to explain it
I'm 17, nonsmoker, and- before I started- was in perfect physical and mental health. Now I'm emotional all of the time and achey and my boyfriend thinks this is seriously damaging our relationship. I don't have any sex drive with this pill. I only started taking it because my boyfriend wanted to start having sex but with me like I am now neither of us wants it and it's seriously hurting our relationship.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.Loestrin 24 Fe Problems - Advice Needed?
This is pretty normal for birth control...I was in your same situation and tried everything to restore it. I switched pills a couple times and gave up, the libido was just not coming back. I then found a natural herbal enhancer that is supposed to increase your sex drive and a couple other things. It's called Hersolution gel, read up about it at herenhancement .com where I saved on it at the time. However it's like an instant libido rush and as I kept using it my sex drive was through the roof and continues to be. The sensation blast is great too, I can't tell you how many times I've had multiple orgasms when before I couldn't even get a single one. Theres also capsules you can take that I've heard are better but I don't like swallowing many pills throughout the day. I was skeptical at first but the return policy was so great that the company was offer. From what I remember you had to try it out for a couple months but then you had time afterwards to return it for a full money back if it didn't work. I didn't have that problem as you can see. Well good luck and I hope this helps.
-Extremely heavy bleeding for the past 7 days, nonstop
-Strange headaches, dizziness
-Extreme mood swings, depression (sometimes I'll just cry for hours on end without a reason for it) and this weird anxiety where I seem to be nervous about everything
-Stomach bloating and weight gain (even though I keep to a regular diet and exercise regularly)
-Idk if this is related but my hair has always been very thick and now it seems to be thinner and a large clump always comes out when I shower...Idk how to explain it
I'm 17, nonsmoker, and- before I started- was in perfect physical and mental health. Now I'm emotional all of the time and achey and my boyfriend thinks this is seriously damaging our relationship. I don't have any sex drive with this pill. I only started taking it because my boyfriend wanted to start having sex but with me like I am now neither of us wants it and it's seriously hurting our relationship.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.Loestrin 24 Fe Problems - Advice Needed?
This is pretty normal for birth control...I was in your same situation and tried everything to restore it. I switched pills a couple times and gave up, the libido was just not coming back. I then found a natural herbal enhancer that is supposed to increase your sex drive and a couple other things. It's called Hersolution gel, read up about it at herenhancement .com where I saved on it at the time. However it's like an instant libido rush and as I kept using it my sex drive was through the roof and continues to be. The sensation blast is great too, I can't tell you how many times I've had multiple orgasms when before I couldn't even get a single one. Theres also capsules you can take that I've heard are better but I don't like swallowing many pills throughout the day. I was skeptical at first but the return policy was so great that the company was offer. From what I remember you had to try it out for a couple months but then you had time afterwards to return it for a full money back if it didn't work. I didn't have that problem as you can see. Well good luck and I hope this helps.
Ovarian cyst thryroid problems? advice please?
so i had a pap done on the 21st of sept. everything came back normal i have had my period this month it was 5 days and it wasnt nearly as heavy as usual. but my questions is i have movement in my lower abdomen like something is moving. it isnt anything like gas. and the other night i was on the couch laying with my fiance with my head on his lap and he had his hand on my stomach and he even felt it jump up and he asked me if i was pregnant lol but the doc gave me a pregnancy test and it was negative.. could this ';kicking'; be an ovarian cyst or like a thryoid tumor. also when we have sex it its really uncomfortable.. so has anyone had something like this happen and what was it? any advice is greatly appreciated..
no rude comments on please :-]Ovarian cyst thryroid problems? advice please?
hey there.
i personally have an ovarian cyst but ive never felt that problem before.
the only way i knew i hd something wrong with me was that my periods were all over the place and eventually after an ultrasound i found out that one of ovaries had a cyst and was stopping my period coming from that ovary..my friend has them too, she had the same period problem but had pains in her pelvis area and felt like she had gas all the time. if you unsure i would talk to your doctor and ask, he may take you for an ultrasound to have a look or he might tell you thats not the problem.
i also dont think its anything to do with your pap either, yet you could have an infection if its uncomfortable during sex.
sorry im not much help but i think asking the doctor would be the best option. plus if you were pregnant and the baby was kicking you would be a couple of months gone.
hope it helps x
no rude comments on please :-]Ovarian cyst thryroid problems? advice please?
hey there.
i personally have an ovarian cyst but ive never felt that problem before.
the only way i knew i hd something wrong with me was that my periods were all over the place and eventually after an ultrasound i found out that one of ovaries had a cyst and was stopping my period coming from that ovary..my friend has them too, she had the same period problem but had pains in her pelvis area and felt like she had gas all the time. if you unsure i would talk to your doctor and ask, he may take you for an ultrasound to have a look or he might tell you thats not the problem.
i also dont think its anything to do with your pap either, yet you could have an infection if its uncomfortable during sex.
sorry im not much help but i think asking the doctor would be the best option. plus if you were pregnant and the baby was kicking you would be a couple of months gone.
hope it helps x
HhEeLlPp...HELP MOM PROBLEMS ADVICE ON THIS MOVIE!!!?
How the hell do i get my mom to say yes To Something....i mean Do i butter her up or cry or WHAT?? The problem is i REALLY want to go to my friends house to shoot a movie because we wrote one It took us a month or 2...And her parents aren't going to be home from 8 to 11 but my friends older brother will be there!! ANd My Mom Wont let me Go cuz of her older brother idk she is being really mean!! ANd my moms birthday was on saturday and we were at the beach for her birthday...but she wants 1 at our house now with the whole family on SATURDAY!! i told Her that i already went to her party at the beach y cant i just go to my friends but she she just keeps making up excuses why i cant go!!...ugh pleez how can i make her say yes??
WE Want to Shoot it at her house because its a horror movie and her house has woods that we are going to be running through some other girls are going saturday too to help us shoot the movie and i DO NOT LIKE HER BROTHER!!! HE WILL BE SUPERVISING!HhEeLlPp...HELP MOM PROBLEMS ADVICE ON THIS MOVIE!!!?
ok you can either sneak out or just keep nagging lolHhEeLlPp...HELP MOM PROBLEMS ADVICE ON THIS MOVIE!!!?
Either get smarter or forget it. The movie probably won't be that good, anyway. Make some compromise or some. Suck up your pride and just go to the party ..
Umm hard one I Cant help CUZ I AM THE GIRL HELPING U MAKE THE MOVIE!!
Well ask her if you can g oto the party for a little bit. Then go to the movie shoot. And if she still says no. Sneek out!
SNEAK OUT!beauty eye
WE Want to Shoot it at her house because its a horror movie and her house has woods that we are going to be running through some other girls are going saturday too to help us shoot the movie and i DO NOT LIKE HER BROTHER!!! HE WILL BE SUPERVISING!HhEeLlPp...HELP MOM PROBLEMS ADVICE ON THIS MOVIE!!!?
ok you can either sneak out or just keep nagging lolHhEeLlPp...HELP MOM PROBLEMS ADVICE ON THIS MOVIE!!!?
Either get smarter or forget it. The movie probably won't be that good, anyway. Make some compromise or some. Suck up your pride and just go to the party ..
Umm hard one I Cant help CUZ I AM THE GIRL HELPING U MAKE THE MOVIE!!
Well ask her if you can g oto the party for a little bit. Then go to the movie shoot. And if she still says no. Sneek out!
SNEAK OUT!
Weird netgear router problems.... advice for a new router?
Ok so my roommates and I have a messed up router, it's been giving us problems for a while but now it seems to not work at all. I tried resetting to factory settings, but now the ';wireless'; light won't even come on. Here's the weird thing though..........somehow my laptop still catches the netgear network....and connects to it, but internet won't load, the network still appears even when I turn the router off altogether.
I haven't called the netgear people yet, I'll do that tomorrow so maybe they'll be of help, but in the meantime can any of you potentially shed some light on the subject?
The bottom line is probably that we need a new router, so can anyone advise a decent router we can get that isn't too expensive? preferably something that has a quality of service feature to it as well.
Thanks in advanceWeird netgear router problems.... advice for a new router?
Sounds like a typical power surge. Netgears, Linksys, Dlink, etc. Behave this way sometimes. The internet may work but some of those have internal DNS fowarders and such that may not be working. You could try typing an IP address in the browser to see it you get a site to come up.
As for a new router, all the names above are cheap, inexpensive and work ok for the most part. Good routers cost hundreds if not thousands. Linksys for example can be had for less then $40-$50 dollars, and typically last a year or so in my experience.
Justin
www.crossloop.com/justinoliverWeird netgear router problems.... advice for a new router?
well about your laptop catching the netgear network your probably connecting to ur neighbors network and since ur probably 2 houses away its slow and ive always been a fan of the linksys routers so...get a new router (linksys) and your problems should be solved hope i helped
I haven't called the netgear people yet, I'll do that tomorrow so maybe they'll be of help, but in the meantime can any of you potentially shed some light on the subject?
The bottom line is probably that we need a new router, so can anyone advise a decent router we can get that isn't too expensive? preferably something that has a quality of service feature to it as well.
Thanks in advanceWeird netgear router problems.... advice for a new router?
Sounds like a typical power surge. Netgears, Linksys, Dlink, etc. Behave this way sometimes. The internet may work but some of those have internal DNS fowarders and such that may not be working. You could try typing an IP address in the browser to see it you get a site to come up.
As for a new router, all the names above are cheap, inexpensive and work ok for the most part. Good routers cost hundreds if not thousands. Linksys for example can be had for less then $40-$50 dollars, and typically last a year or so in my experience.
Justin
www.crossloop.com/justinoliverWeird netgear router problems.... advice for a new router?
well about your laptop catching the netgear network your probably connecting to ur neighbors network and since ur probably 2 houses away its slow and ive always been a fan of the linksys routers so...get a new router (linksys) and your problems should be solved hope i helped
I Have Some Problems, Advice?
Ok, I am 32 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I love him...and I hate him at the same time.
When I got pregnant we both had good jobs. He was making over $100,000/year (though quite a bit went to child support for his other two kids...who I cannot stand but that's beside the point) and I was making around $40,000/year. We had a nice house we rented in the Seattle area and were doing good.
Well, he lost his job due to layoffs and decided to go back to school, 200 miles away. My family lives where his school is and I moved too, figuring itd be nice to have my family around for when the baby comes. But this meant having to find a new job for me too.
He is a student on the GI bill, so they pay for school. I have found a nanny job that pays me a whopping $700/month for watching their 2 month old baby 40 hours a week- with no break during the day. My car payment is $200/month, insurance is $175, phone is $80. And no, I can't sell my car because I owe more than its currently valued at (thanks to our lovely economy).
We are struggling financially. We now have a small two bedroom duplex, and life basically sucks. I don't enjoy being pregnant- I just want the kid out of me so I can focus on getting a better job and moving back up with my life. It feels like I'm treading water- not getting anywhere.
My boyfriend is in school full-time, and gets unemployment until end of the month when it runs out- then who knows what we will do because I cannot afford to pay rent or utilities. He has to pay his ex-wife $490/month in child support so who knows how that will get paid when unemployment runs out either. He has been paying our rent and utilities with unemployment, but unemployment is running out. With the economy beings as it is there aren't a lot of jobs out there, but he doesn't want to work while going to school anyway.
So, in the beginning I really did want this baby, and I think I still do, but I just am feeling tired of being responsible for everything. I mean, yes he pays the rent/utilities, but I work my butt off everyday at work with a screaming infant that's not even my own, I single handedly have purchased everything our baby will need (he has not bought or contributed one thing for the baby). He also complains when I ask him to clean up after himself, and his kids when they visit, or ask him to help me carry baby stuff to the babies room, or paint the babies dresser. I mean, he doesn't work, would it kill him to help out? And I figure the least he can do is help with the moving around of the baby stuff and painting the dresser since he didn't have to purchase it- I did. I bought everything, on my measley salary I prepared for this kid. Mostly second hand stuff, but its good enough and still was expensive since I did it alone.
I feel like I'm stuck. I'm tired after work, I hate the baby I work with. She's cute, but she wants to be held all the time and her parents make me do other chores during the day too so its tough to get stuff done and I often end up working late (without extra pay, without any break) just to get their house in order. And then I get to go home and clean up after my boyfriend and the messes he has made during the day. Its like I'm working all the time.
Deep down I love our baby, but with all the added stress I've decided to look into putting him in daycare during the day while I am with the girl I nanny for because the stress of two infants plus everything else scares me. They would allow me to bring the baby, but I just don't want the extra work, and dshs will pay for childcare I think. I'm also pretty decided on not breastfeeding, which is causing some issues between my boyfriend and I. He's calling me selfish and controlling and all, but I mean really, I have enough to worry about without a kid on my boob all day too.
I'm just not sure what to do. This isn't what I signed on for, when I got pregnant he made enough money and things were fine and we lived in an area where there were more jobs and they paid a heck of a lot better. And now nothing is fine.
Advice?I Have Some Problems, Advice?
Gosh, I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I'm sort of in the same boat. I have 2 kids though. Both young. 2yr %26amp; 1 yr. Got laid off of work. Had a great job. Fiance got laid off. Now is going to school full time. So I know the stress. Now, try not to freak too much. I know its a lot but all this stressing out isnt helping your baby too much.
So, as far as your bf not helping around the house. I'm sorry that's just BS. I make my fiance clean his crap up cause I have 2 children I have to tend to 24/7. I make him take care of the kids if he doesnt want to clean. An even exchange. Kids are stressful. And being pregnant with your first isnt any much easier. What I would do is really sit down with your boyfriend. Talk to him. Tell him your concerns and whats bothering you. Open communication, although hard, is the best thing. And I know...easier said than done. But, that's going to be the only way you are going to fix things. Tell him...i mean you should be resting when not working. It's really important. Believe me, i know first hand. Both my children were born prematurely. My daughter 8weeks early and my son 6 weeks. Its harder than you can possibly believe. So, taking care of yourself now can really benefit you. So, I'd be open and up front with him and tell him he needs to pull his weight. Especially with his 2 children from another woman. It's not completely your responsibility to be cleaning up after these children and this grown man....if they are capable. You are the one who should be relaxing.
Another reason why you're probably feeling this way about your baby is because your coming to the end of your pregnancy. You have 8 weeks left. That's a big thing. Its nerve wracking. You are going to be responsible for someone other than yourself. But you will see it will come natural. Once you have that child in your arms, you will know what I mean. As far as breast feeding....don't worry. I didn't breast feed either. I just couldn't. There's nothing wrong with it. Who cares what other people think about that. It's your body. It's your child. You know whats best for your child. I'm sorry, but not even your boyfriend can tell you what to do with your body and your child. Cause in the end, you will know whats best.
My advice in the end of all my jibber jabber....
Talk to your boyfriend. Let him know he NEEDS to pull his weight around the house. Cause when this baby comes, you are going to be out of commission and he's going to need to buck up.
And your worries for your child/daycare...
Don't stress. Only you know what will work best for you and your child. If you feel you wouldn't be able to tend to your child properly while @ work, do what you need to do. There's nothing wrong with it. Do what you feel is right.
I hope I helped a little
When I got pregnant we both had good jobs. He was making over $100,000/year (though quite a bit went to child support for his other two kids...who I cannot stand but that's beside the point) and I was making around $40,000/year. We had a nice house we rented in the Seattle area and were doing good.
Well, he lost his job due to layoffs and decided to go back to school, 200 miles away. My family lives where his school is and I moved too, figuring itd be nice to have my family around for when the baby comes. But this meant having to find a new job for me too.
He is a student on the GI bill, so they pay for school. I have found a nanny job that pays me a whopping $700/month for watching their 2 month old baby 40 hours a week- with no break during the day. My car payment is $200/month, insurance is $175, phone is $80. And no, I can't sell my car because I owe more than its currently valued at (thanks to our lovely economy).
We are struggling financially. We now have a small two bedroom duplex, and life basically sucks. I don't enjoy being pregnant- I just want the kid out of me so I can focus on getting a better job and moving back up with my life. It feels like I'm treading water- not getting anywhere.
My boyfriend is in school full-time, and gets unemployment until end of the month when it runs out- then who knows what we will do because I cannot afford to pay rent or utilities. He has to pay his ex-wife $490/month in child support so who knows how that will get paid when unemployment runs out either. He has been paying our rent and utilities with unemployment, but unemployment is running out. With the economy beings as it is there aren't a lot of jobs out there, but he doesn't want to work while going to school anyway.
So, in the beginning I really did want this baby, and I think I still do, but I just am feeling tired of being responsible for everything. I mean, yes he pays the rent/utilities, but I work my butt off everyday at work with a screaming infant that's not even my own, I single handedly have purchased everything our baby will need (he has not bought or contributed one thing for the baby). He also complains when I ask him to clean up after himself, and his kids when they visit, or ask him to help me carry baby stuff to the babies room, or paint the babies dresser. I mean, he doesn't work, would it kill him to help out? And I figure the least he can do is help with the moving around of the baby stuff and painting the dresser since he didn't have to purchase it- I did. I bought everything, on my measley salary I prepared for this kid. Mostly second hand stuff, but its good enough and still was expensive since I did it alone.
I feel like I'm stuck. I'm tired after work, I hate the baby I work with. She's cute, but she wants to be held all the time and her parents make me do other chores during the day too so its tough to get stuff done and I often end up working late (without extra pay, without any break) just to get their house in order. And then I get to go home and clean up after my boyfriend and the messes he has made during the day. Its like I'm working all the time.
Deep down I love our baby, but with all the added stress I've decided to look into putting him in daycare during the day while I am with the girl I nanny for because the stress of two infants plus everything else scares me. They would allow me to bring the baby, but I just don't want the extra work, and dshs will pay for childcare I think. I'm also pretty decided on not breastfeeding, which is causing some issues between my boyfriend and I. He's calling me selfish and controlling and all, but I mean really, I have enough to worry about without a kid on my boob all day too.
I'm just not sure what to do. This isn't what I signed on for, when I got pregnant he made enough money and things were fine and we lived in an area where there were more jobs and they paid a heck of a lot better. And now nothing is fine.
Advice?I Have Some Problems, Advice?
Gosh, I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I'm sort of in the same boat. I have 2 kids though. Both young. 2yr %26amp; 1 yr. Got laid off of work. Had a great job. Fiance got laid off. Now is going to school full time. So I know the stress. Now, try not to freak too much. I know its a lot but all this stressing out isnt helping your baby too much.
So, as far as your bf not helping around the house. I'm sorry that's just BS. I make my fiance clean his crap up cause I have 2 children I have to tend to 24/7. I make him take care of the kids if he doesnt want to clean. An even exchange. Kids are stressful. And being pregnant with your first isnt any much easier. What I would do is really sit down with your boyfriend. Talk to him. Tell him your concerns and whats bothering you. Open communication, although hard, is the best thing. And I know...easier said than done. But, that's going to be the only way you are going to fix things. Tell him...i mean you should be resting when not working. It's really important. Believe me, i know first hand. Both my children were born prematurely. My daughter 8weeks early and my son 6 weeks. Its harder than you can possibly believe. So, taking care of yourself now can really benefit you. So, I'd be open and up front with him and tell him he needs to pull his weight. Especially with his 2 children from another woman. It's not completely your responsibility to be cleaning up after these children and this grown man....if they are capable. You are the one who should be relaxing.
Another reason why you're probably feeling this way about your baby is because your coming to the end of your pregnancy. You have 8 weeks left. That's a big thing. Its nerve wracking. You are going to be responsible for someone other than yourself. But you will see it will come natural. Once you have that child in your arms, you will know what I mean. As far as breast feeding....don't worry. I didn't breast feed either. I just couldn't. There's nothing wrong with it. Who cares what other people think about that. It's your body. It's your child. You know whats best for your child. I'm sorry, but not even your boyfriend can tell you what to do with your body and your child. Cause in the end, you will know whats best.
My advice in the end of all my jibber jabber....
Talk to your boyfriend. Let him know he NEEDS to pull his weight around the house. Cause when this baby comes, you are going to be out of commission and he's going to need to buck up.
And your worries for your child/daycare...
Don't stress. Only you know what will work best for you and your child. If you feel you wouldn't be able to tend to your child properly while @ work, do what you need to do. There's nothing wrong with it. Do what you feel is right.
I hope I helped a little
I Have Some Problems, Advice?
Ok, I am 32 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years and I love him...and I hate him at the same time.
When I got pregnant we both had good jobs. He was making over $100,000/year (though quite a bit went to child support for his other two kids...who I cannot stand but that's beside the point) and I was making around $40,000/year. We had a nice house we rented in the Seattle area and were doing good.
Well, he lost his job due to layoffs and decided to go back to school, 200 miles away. My family lives where his school is and I moved too, figuring itd be nice to have my family around for when the baby comes. But this meant having to find a new job for me too.
He is a student on the GI bill, so they pay for school. I have found a nanny job that pays me a whopping $700/month for watching their 2 month old baby 40 hours a week- with no break during the day. My car payment is $200/month, insurance is $175, phone is $80. And no, I can't sell my car because I owe more than its currently valued at (thanks to our lovely economy).
We are struggling financially. We now have a small two bedroom duplex, and life basically sucks. I don't enjoy being pregnant- I just want the kid out of me so I can focus on getting a better job and moving back up with my life. It feels like I'm treading water- not getting anywhere.
My boyfriend is in school full-time, and gets unemployment until end of the month when it runs out- then who knows what we will do because I cannot afford to pay rent or utilities. He has to pay his ex-wife $490/month in child support so who knows how that will get paid when unemployment runs out either. He has been paying our rent and utilities with unemployment, but unemployment is running out. With the economy beings as it is there aren't a lot of jobs out there, but he doesn't want to work while going to school anyway.
So, in the beginning I really did want this baby, and I think I still do, but I just am feeling tired of being responsible for everything. I mean, yes he pays the rent/utilities, but I work my butt off everyday at work with a screaming infant that's not even my own, I single handedly have purchased everything our baby will need (he has not bought or contributed one thing for the baby). He also complains when I ask him to clean up after himself, and his kids when they visit, or ask him to help me carry baby stuff to the babies room, or paint the babies dresser. I mean, he doesn't work, would it kill him to help out? And I figure the least he can do is help with the moving around of the baby stuff and painting the dresser since he didn't have to purchase it- I did. I bought everything, on my measley salary I prepared for this kid. Mostly second hand stuff, but its good enough and still was expensive since I did it alone.
I feel like I'm stuck. I'm tired after work, I hate the baby I work with. She's cute, but she wants to be held all the time and her parents make me do other chores during the day too so its tough to get stuff done and I often end up working late (without extra pay, without any break) just to get their house in order. And then I get to go home and clean up after my boyfriend and the messes he has made during the day. Its like I'm working all the time.
Deep down I love our baby, but with all the added stress I've decided to look into putting him in daycare during the day while I am with the girl I nanny for because the stress of two infants plus everything else scares me. They would allow me to bring the baby, but I just don't want the extra work, and dshs will pay for childcare I think. I'm also pretty decided on not breastfeeding, which is causing some issues between my boyfriend and I. He's calling me selfish and controlling and all, but I mean really, I have enough to worry about without a kid on my boob all day too.
I'm just not sure what to do. This isn't what I signed on for, when I got pregnant he made enough money and things were fine and we lived in an area where there were more jobs and they paid a heck of a lot better. And now nothing is fine.
Advice?I Have Some Problems, Advice?
Gosh, I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I'm sort of in the same boat. I have 2 kids though. Both young. 2yr %26amp; 1 yr. Got laid off of work. Had a great job. Fiance got laid off. Now is going to school full time. So I know the stress. Now, try not to freak too much. I know its a lot but all this stressing out isnt helping your baby too much.
So, as far as your bf not helping around the house. I'm sorry that's just BS. I make my fiance clean his crap up cause I have 2 children I have to tend to 24/7. I make him take care of the kids if he doesnt want to clean. An even exchange. Kids are stressful. And being pregnant with your first isnt any much easier. What I would do is really sit down with your boyfriend. Talk to him. Tell him your concerns and whats bothering you. Open communication, although hard, is the best thing. And I know...easier said than done. But, that's going to be the only way you are going to fix things. Tell him...i mean you should be resting when not working. It's really important. Believe me, i know first hand. Both my children were born prematurely. My daughter 8weeks early and my son 6 weeks. Its harder than you can possibly believe. So, taking care of yourself now can really benefit you. So, I'd be open and up front with him and tell him he needs to pull his weight. Especially with his 2 children from another woman. It's not completely your responsibility to be cleaning up after these children and this grown man....if they are capable. You are the one who should be relaxing.
Another reason why you're probably feeling this way about your baby is because your coming to the end of your pregnancy. You have 8 weeks left. That's a big thing. Its nerve wracking. You are going to be responsible for someone other than yourself. But you will see it will come natural. Once you have that child in your arms, you will know what I mean. As far as breast feeding....don't worry. I didn't breast feed either. I just couldn't. There's nothing wrong with it. Who cares what other people think about that. It's your body. It's your child. You know whats best for your child. I'm sorry, but not even your boyfriend can tell you what to do with your body and your child. Cause in the end, you will know whats best.
My advice in the end of all my jibber jabber....
Talk to your boyfriend. Let him know he NEEDS to pull his weight around the house. Cause when this baby comes, you are going to be out of commission and he's going to need to buck up.
And your worries for your child/daycare...
Don't stress. Only you know what will work best for you and your child. If you feel you wouldn't be able to tend to your child properly while @ work, do what you need to do. There's nothing wrong with it. Do what you feel is right.
I hope I helped a little
When I got pregnant we both had good jobs. He was making over $100,000/year (though quite a bit went to child support for his other two kids...who I cannot stand but that's beside the point) and I was making around $40,000/year. We had a nice house we rented in the Seattle area and were doing good.
Well, he lost his job due to layoffs and decided to go back to school, 200 miles away. My family lives where his school is and I moved too, figuring itd be nice to have my family around for when the baby comes. But this meant having to find a new job for me too.
He is a student on the GI bill, so they pay for school. I have found a nanny job that pays me a whopping $700/month for watching their 2 month old baby 40 hours a week- with no break during the day. My car payment is $200/month, insurance is $175, phone is $80. And no, I can't sell my car because I owe more than its currently valued at (thanks to our lovely economy).
We are struggling financially. We now have a small two bedroom duplex, and life basically sucks. I don't enjoy being pregnant- I just want the kid out of me so I can focus on getting a better job and moving back up with my life. It feels like I'm treading water- not getting anywhere.
My boyfriend is in school full-time, and gets unemployment until end of the month when it runs out- then who knows what we will do because I cannot afford to pay rent or utilities. He has to pay his ex-wife $490/month in child support so who knows how that will get paid when unemployment runs out either. He has been paying our rent and utilities with unemployment, but unemployment is running out. With the economy beings as it is there aren't a lot of jobs out there, but he doesn't want to work while going to school anyway.
So, in the beginning I really did want this baby, and I think I still do, but I just am feeling tired of being responsible for everything. I mean, yes he pays the rent/utilities, but I work my butt off everyday at work with a screaming infant that's not even my own, I single handedly have purchased everything our baby will need (he has not bought or contributed one thing for the baby). He also complains when I ask him to clean up after himself, and his kids when they visit, or ask him to help me carry baby stuff to the babies room, or paint the babies dresser. I mean, he doesn't work, would it kill him to help out? And I figure the least he can do is help with the moving around of the baby stuff and painting the dresser since he didn't have to purchase it- I did. I bought everything, on my measley salary I prepared for this kid. Mostly second hand stuff, but its good enough and still was expensive since I did it alone.
I feel like I'm stuck. I'm tired after work, I hate the baby I work with. She's cute, but she wants to be held all the time and her parents make me do other chores during the day too so its tough to get stuff done and I often end up working late (without extra pay, without any break) just to get their house in order. And then I get to go home and clean up after my boyfriend and the messes he has made during the day. Its like I'm working all the time.
Deep down I love our baby, but with all the added stress I've decided to look into putting him in daycare during the day while I am with the girl I nanny for because the stress of two infants plus everything else scares me. They would allow me to bring the baby, but I just don't want the extra work, and dshs will pay for childcare I think. I'm also pretty decided on not breastfeeding, which is causing some issues between my boyfriend and I. He's calling me selfish and controlling and all, but I mean really, I have enough to worry about without a kid on my boob all day too.
I'm just not sure what to do. This isn't what I signed on for, when I got pregnant he made enough money and things were fine and we lived in an area where there were more jobs and they paid a heck of a lot better. And now nothing is fine.
Advice?I Have Some Problems, Advice?
Gosh, I'm sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I'm sort of in the same boat. I have 2 kids though. Both young. 2yr %26amp; 1 yr. Got laid off of work. Had a great job. Fiance got laid off. Now is going to school full time. So I know the stress. Now, try not to freak too much. I know its a lot but all this stressing out isnt helping your baby too much.
So, as far as your bf not helping around the house. I'm sorry that's just BS. I make my fiance clean his crap up cause I have 2 children I have to tend to 24/7. I make him take care of the kids if he doesnt want to clean. An even exchange. Kids are stressful. And being pregnant with your first isnt any much easier. What I would do is really sit down with your boyfriend. Talk to him. Tell him your concerns and whats bothering you. Open communication, although hard, is the best thing. And I know...easier said than done. But, that's going to be the only way you are going to fix things. Tell him...i mean you should be resting when not working. It's really important. Believe me, i know first hand. Both my children were born prematurely. My daughter 8weeks early and my son 6 weeks. Its harder than you can possibly believe. So, taking care of yourself now can really benefit you. So, I'd be open and up front with him and tell him he needs to pull his weight. Especially with his 2 children from another woman. It's not completely your responsibility to be cleaning up after these children and this grown man....if they are capable. You are the one who should be relaxing.
Another reason why you're probably feeling this way about your baby is because your coming to the end of your pregnancy. You have 8 weeks left. That's a big thing. Its nerve wracking. You are going to be responsible for someone other than yourself. But you will see it will come natural. Once you have that child in your arms, you will know what I mean. As far as breast feeding....don't worry. I didn't breast feed either. I just couldn't. There's nothing wrong with it. Who cares what other people think about that. It's your body. It's your child. You know whats best for your child. I'm sorry, but not even your boyfriend can tell you what to do with your body and your child. Cause in the end, you will know whats best.
My advice in the end of all my jibber jabber....
Talk to your boyfriend. Let him know he NEEDS to pull his weight around the house. Cause when this baby comes, you are going to be out of commission and he's going to need to buck up.
And your worries for your child/daycare...
Don't stress. Only you know what will work best for you and your child. If you feel you wouldn't be able to tend to your child properly while @ work, do what you need to do. There's nothing wrong with it. Do what you feel is right.
I hope I helped a little
PLEASE help?? Girlfriend problems... Advice??
Okay, ive got together with someone (nearly 2 months ago) and i love her but she doesnt love me (she says it takes time so fair enough) but i feel like shes not really 100% mine becuase i never see her (shes sooo busy) and she doesnt ever talk about personal things. (fair enough) anyways, im trying to put my all into the relationship cus i really want her to truly b mine instead of 'just another bf' but i never see her so i cant!! How do i get her love and make her the happiest girl alive??? Anything would be appriciated, its driving me insain!PLEASE help?? Girlfriend problems... Advice??
From a girl's side...you're already doing everything you can...any girl would kill to have a bf who wanted to spend as much time with her as possible, and want to put his all into the relationship because some guys just want to hang out with their friends all the time and seem to not care too much about the commitment aspect of the relationship...so if she doesn't take the time to appreciate your gestures then maybe she is not the one for you...it may not want to be what you want to hear but if you take the time to realize that you are putting in way more of an effort than she is...maybe you shouldn't...because unless she starts contributing more...because you are already doing enough...you can't have a good relationship with only one person working for it...i hope this helped...PLEASE help?? Girlfriend problems... Advice??
Give her her space and quite trying to be so controlling!
first of all u sound quite desparate. how about taking things slowly and letting the relationship grow to that level. don't rush things. she will slowly open up to you when the time is right.
okay, here is my best advice. tell her how you feel. give her, her space. dont make abig deal out of it cause it will spook her off. no one hsould fall in love in 2 mo. lust and well being should be it at this point. love comes in its own sweet time dont rush it or it will never work
Don't get your hopes too high b/c if she is not that into you then you will only be hurt. How many times have you seen her in 2 months? If you are seeing her at least once a week then she prob does like you. If you think she really likes you then flowers work. Compliment her when you see her- that works for me. Maybe you shouldn't go overboard b/c you don't want to push her away. Once she gives you signs that she is into you THEN you can go all out- FLOWERS, sweet cards (don't have to say love), romantic dates ect. Let us know when you find out she IS into you then we can help more. Good luck!
Open relationships are the only ones worth having! Make a specal time to tell her all these things about how you feel! Take her out or something. Be careful to make sure that she is as dedicated to the relationship as you seem to be or else you could be setting yourself up for heartache!
Move on and get over her. Find someone who will be just as into you as you are to them. Dont chase something that doesn't want to be caught. Besides you shouldn't act like you are going to drop everything for her because that just makes you seem desperate. If you back off a little and distance yourself maybe she will start to like you back. Otherwise move on.
Back off a little! Not to alarm you, but you may be in danger of scaring her away, so maybe cool it giver her a chance to initiate contact.
You can't make someone love you, so just know that if you two are truly right for each other she will naturally fall in love with you, too.
hi! Sounds like you're putting in 100% into something and not getting that much back. You want to make her the happiest girl alive, and you deserve that in return.
Just give her time... although I do know that you have to be on the same page in a realtionship :)
You can only do so much and at that point she has to put some effort into it. If you're making time to see her but she just can't seem to clear even an hour of her time for you then I'd have to say you should just break up. There's no point in dating somebody who you never see and who isn't willing to put their all into a relationship when you so clearly are.
You trying too hard and being very needy, she will run from you soon enough.
Dump her and stop talking to her, start dating other women. (I know you wont do it but its your best shot)
Mark my words if you dont believe me. Also, how old are you two?
You know what I truly really wish I could help you out but if someone doesnt love you then they dont love you. There isnt any special pill or recipe to have someone fall in love with you. It seems like she giving you the brush off. If you really want to see if she cares for you start ignoring her play hard to get dont answer her phone calls. Sometimes when you are all over a girl they lose interest you have to play it off a little dont smother her. I know from experience when you act like you dont care they are all over you. Well sometimes lol if they are interested in you.
Sounds like she really isn't into you that much. 2 months is a good amount of time to get to know someone, but if you 2 are never together that much, it's a little different. It really seems like you 2 are not really even together. Reread what you posted, it's all there. She isn't into you and you should be tru to yourself and find someone that is into you. Who knows, that hotty you are looking for might be already there and waiting for you to open your eyes.
yo bro you gotta stop this if you dont see her and she doesnt say anything that means that ure in a relationship dont try to impress her. she might not even like u bro she should do something thats relationship-like
bro are you like in 5th grade?
You really can't force a relationship on someone.. Why don't you hardly see her? is it by choice or do you not live close enough to her? I don't understand. You should never give your all to someone who doesn't 1.) appreciates it 2.) even wants it! In your case I don't think you and your gf are even on the same page. She's not even comfortable enough with you to discuss private/personal issues. Move on. You deserve better!
From a girl's side...you're already doing everything you can...any girl would kill to have a bf who wanted to spend as much time with her as possible, and want to put his all into the relationship because some guys just want to hang out with their friends all the time and seem to not care too much about the commitment aspect of the relationship...so if she doesn't take the time to appreciate your gestures then maybe she is not the one for you...it may not want to be what you want to hear but if you take the time to realize that you are putting in way more of an effort than she is...maybe you shouldn't...because unless she starts contributing more...because you are already doing enough...you can't have a good relationship with only one person working for it...i hope this helped...PLEASE help?? Girlfriend problems... Advice??
Give her her space and quite trying to be so controlling!
first of all u sound quite desparate. how about taking things slowly and letting the relationship grow to that level. don't rush things. she will slowly open up to you when the time is right.
okay, here is my best advice. tell her how you feel. give her, her space. dont make abig deal out of it cause it will spook her off. no one hsould fall in love in 2 mo. lust and well being should be it at this point. love comes in its own sweet time dont rush it or it will never work
Don't get your hopes too high b/c if she is not that into you then you will only be hurt. How many times have you seen her in 2 months? If you are seeing her at least once a week then she prob does like you. If you think she really likes you then flowers work. Compliment her when you see her- that works for me. Maybe you shouldn't go overboard b/c you don't want to push her away. Once she gives you signs that she is into you THEN you can go all out- FLOWERS, sweet cards (don't have to say love), romantic dates ect. Let us know when you find out she IS into you then we can help more. Good luck!
Open relationships are the only ones worth having! Make a specal time to tell her all these things about how you feel! Take her out or something. Be careful to make sure that she is as dedicated to the relationship as you seem to be or else you could be setting yourself up for heartache!
Move on and get over her. Find someone who will be just as into you as you are to them. Dont chase something that doesn't want to be caught. Besides you shouldn't act like you are going to drop everything for her because that just makes you seem desperate. If you back off a little and distance yourself maybe she will start to like you back. Otherwise move on.
Back off a little! Not to alarm you, but you may be in danger of scaring her away, so maybe cool it giver her a chance to initiate contact.
You can't make someone love you, so just know that if you two are truly right for each other she will naturally fall in love with you, too.
hi! Sounds like you're putting in 100% into something and not getting that much back. You want to make her the happiest girl alive, and you deserve that in return.
Just give her time... although I do know that you have to be on the same page in a realtionship :)
You can only do so much and at that point she has to put some effort into it. If you're making time to see her but she just can't seem to clear even an hour of her time for you then I'd have to say you should just break up. There's no point in dating somebody who you never see and who isn't willing to put their all into a relationship when you so clearly are.
You trying too hard and being very needy, she will run from you soon enough.
Dump her and stop talking to her, start dating other women. (I know you wont do it but its your best shot)
Mark my words if you dont believe me. Also, how old are you two?
You know what I truly really wish I could help you out but if someone doesnt love you then they dont love you. There isnt any special pill or recipe to have someone fall in love with you. It seems like she giving you the brush off. If you really want to see if she cares for you start ignoring her play hard to get dont answer her phone calls. Sometimes when you are all over a girl they lose interest you have to play it off a little dont smother her. I know from experience when you act like you dont care they are all over you. Well sometimes lol if they are interested in you.
Sounds like she really isn't into you that much. 2 months is a good amount of time to get to know someone, but if you 2 are never together that much, it's a little different. It really seems like you 2 are not really even together. Reread what you posted, it's all there. She isn't into you and you should be tru to yourself and find someone that is into you. Who knows, that hotty you are looking for might be already there and waiting for you to open your eyes.
yo bro you gotta stop this if you dont see her and she doesnt say anything that means that ure in a relationship dont try to impress her. she might not even like u bro she should do something thats relationship-like
bro are you like in 5th grade?
You really can't force a relationship on someone.. Why don't you hardly see her? is it by choice or do you not live close enough to her? I don't understand. You should never give your all to someone who doesn't 1.) appreciates it 2.) even wants it! In your case I don't think you and your gf are even on the same page. She's not even comfortable enough with you to discuss private/personal issues. Move on. You deserve better!
Depressed, a hundred problems..advice please?
im just so depressed now. my two closest friends are leaving school at the end of this year, all my enemies are still in school. The stress between the two groups is just too much. There's always a constant grudge of ignoring each other, them doing mean stuff etc. giving us a hard time. spreading rumors.
I have so much hwk to do, grades to keep up
My dad had tinnitus and is not at his best
I just feel like collapsing and im just so stressed.
Sometimes i just feel lyk i want to move school and leave this messy life. What should i do?Depressed, a hundred problems..advice please?
Nahh..,it really isnt worth it.You say rumors right?Just think about things those people say,are they true?If NOT,there is no point of being stressed over this,besides you being stressed over their bs makes them look stronger...,they like that sh*t you know?I went through similar stuff in high school,except different dad story.And what i just told you was how i learned to not care,took me a while but i did it.I also took prozac too...sometimes i felt like i was gonna kill myself...but you know everything will be ok EFF THEM you know?Dont get stressed over things that arent true.Be who you are show them you are betterDepressed, a hundred problems..advice please?
My wife died in August 2005 from breast cancer, my son totaled my my brand new (only 800 miles on it) in April of 2006, my house burned down in July of 2006, I lost my business in February of 2007. Would you like to trade problems? I'll trade stress with you any day
Focus on your father and not worrying about all that other stuff, its not worth it.
You should pull a Forrest Gump and just start running, run as far away as possible and never go back.
I have so much hwk to do, grades to keep up
My dad had tinnitus and is not at his best
I just feel like collapsing and im just so stressed.
Sometimes i just feel lyk i want to move school and leave this messy life. What should i do?Depressed, a hundred problems..advice please?
Nahh..,it really isnt worth it.You say rumors right?Just think about things those people say,are they true?If NOT,there is no point of being stressed over this,besides you being stressed over their bs makes them look stronger...,they like that sh*t you know?I went through similar stuff in high school,except different dad story.And what i just told you was how i learned to not care,took me a while but i did it.I also took prozac too...sometimes i felt like i was gonna kill myself...but you know everything will be ok EFF THEM you know?Dont get stressed over things that arent true.Be who you are show them you are betterDepressed, a hundred problems..advice please?
My wife died in August 2005 from breast cancer, my son totaled my my brand new (only 800 miles on it) in April of 2006, my house burned down in July of 2006, I lost my business in February of 2007. Would you like to trade problems? I'll trade stress with you any day
Focus on your father and not worrying about all that other stuff, its not worth it.
You should pull a Forrest Gump and just start running, run as far away as possible and never go back.
Friend, kinda sorta problems? Advice?
*ONLY FOR PEOPLE WHO ARENT GOING TO LEAVE RUDE COMMENTS!*
Well you see there is this girl at school and she is nice to me sometimes. About 40% of the time, she is nice to me only when she wants me to do something for her and the other 10% she is just nice to me. (that was only the times she is nice to me). Okay so she is rude to me 50% of the time? Mm Kay. She tells me to my face rude comments then says ';oh, just kidding'; but i now that she doesn't really mean it. She also talks about me behind my back, but not nearly as much as she does to my face.
What should I do about it. Im trying to make her be nice to me MORE because we are going to be on cheer together next year.
thanks for the advice!
XOXOXO
SARAH
MUCH LOVEFriend, kinda sorta problems? Advice?
It seems she's using you.. if you have to TRY to get someone to like you, they're probably not worth your friendship. Forget her and make new friends.Friend, kinda sorta problems? Advice?
omg this happend to me once with a girl named Katy she used to insult me and say just kidding with this annoying laugh but somtimes she would be nice just to get me to do somthing for her so its exactly like your story i ignored her and hung out with other friends for a while like a week untill she got jealous and then she started beig nice again and never insulted me again wierd huh hope i helped
XOXOXSallyXOXOX %26lt;3 =D
Sarah you know what you don't' need a person in your life like that. shes mean and rude then would ignore her and talk to her as little as you can when you are cheering stay clear of her and never talk about her and be nice. you just be the Better person and the girls will see and soon they wil no like her take it from me. take care and good luck
this girl has serious hormonal issues. my advice would to just react in an offended manner next time she's treating you badly. if she apologises for hurting your feelings then she might just need to be told to tone down the insults a bit but if she just couldn't care less, thats when you need to stop wasting your time with this one person who obviously won't give you the time of day really. hope this helps, goodluck :)
Keep trying to be her friend if you'd like. Just protect yourself. This girl sounds self centered, and immature to me. In my humble opinion, it will be many years until she regrets this type of behavior. If ever. Never allow her to get the better of your emotions. There will be many people who will want to be your friend just because of whom you are.
Give it back, the only reason she is doing it is because your letting her. STAND UP 4 YOURSELF! She sounds very rude, and it sounds like she has low self esteem to keep acting like that. You sound shy, i think its time you broke out of that!
Cheerleaders are usually mean anyway. Be nice to her, but have NO real relationship with her and do not do things for her, just be cordial.
Those 'kind' of people are just better ignored. Really. She will know you are trying and just use you to feed her own self esteem.
Ignore her she will ask how you are.
just stop giving her what she wants when she iws being nice to you and also would say to get ur attitude higher and defend urself and sont let her talk **** behind ur back.
confront her..
ask her if uve done something wrong or is it just her personality.
if shes doin it 2 ur face id say its in her nature..
n if it is u need 2 tell her how it makes u feel.
Awww =[ Same Problem With Me To I Need Help To Sorry =[
normally, in time, it works out for the better.
tell her to sto wat she is doing and that she is a bitc*
Confront her dont be afraid to tell her wat u post online speak ur mind u may loose a friend but u wont loose ur dignity
all girls are mean to each other (ask me i know these things) the best thing to do is start hanging out with all her other friends and then she will start being nice because her friends like you so it will work out!! best of luck =)
I've heard this phrase used a lot: ';Kill her with kindess';. That's the best advice I can give you. Be extra nice to her. It will either piss her off, confuse her, or make her think ';hey, she's nice to me, maybe she's not such a bad person.'; Or something along the lines of that.
Or you can talk to her concerning the problem. Is she really her friend? If you're both just in the same class, then it shouldn't be a major concern. If you both hang out with different crowds and she wants a pencil or something from you, then just tell her you don't have one and she'll find someone else to use and stuff.
Is that good advice? Sorry if I'm just talking rubbish here. Just trying to help...beauty eye
Well you see there is this girl at school and she is nice to me sometimes. About 40% of the time, she is nice to me only when she wants me to do something for her and the other 10% she is just nice to me. (that was only the times she is nice to me). Okay so she is rude to me 50% of the time? Mm Kay. She tells me to my face rude comments then says ';oh, just kidding'; but i now that she doesn't really mean it. She also talks about me behind my back, but not nearly as much as she does to my face.
What should I do about it. Im trying to make her be nice to me MORE because we are going to be on cheer together next year.
thanks for the advice!
XOXOXO
SARAH
MUCH LOVEFriend, kinda sorta problems? Advice?
It seems she's using you.. if you have to TRY to get someone to like you, they're probably not worth your friendship. Forget her and make new friends.Friend, kinda sorta problems? Advice?
omg this happend to me once with a girl named Katy she used to insult me and say just kidding with this annoying laugh but somtimes she would be nice just to get me to do somthing for her so its exactly like your story i ignored her and hung out with other friends for a while like a week untill she got jealous and then she started beig nice again and never insulted me again wierd huh hope i helped
XOXOXSallyXOXOX %26lt;3 =D
Sarah you know what you don't' need a person in your life like that. shes mean and rude then would ignore her and talk to her as little as you can when you are cheering stay clear of her and never talk about her and be nice. you just be the Better person and the girls will see and soon they wil no like her take it from me. take care and good luck
this girl has serious hormonal issues. my advice would to just react in an offended manner next time she's treating you badly. if she apologises for hurting your feelings then she might just need to be told to tone down the insults a bit but if she just couldn't care less, thats when you need to stop wasting your time with this one person who obviously won't give you the time of day really. hope this helps, goodluck :)
Keep trying to be her friend if you'd like. Just protect yourself. This girl sounds self centered, and immature to me. In my humble opinion, it will be many years until she regrets this type of behavior. If ever. Never allow her to get the better of your emotions. There will be many people who will want to be your friend just because of whom you are.
Give it back, the only reason she is doing it is because your letting her. STAND UP 4 YOURSELF! She sounds very rude, and it sounds like she has low self esteem to keep acting like that. You sound shy, i think its time you broke out of that!
Cheerleaders are usually mean anyway. Be nice to her, but have NO real relationship with her and do not do things for her, just be cordial.
Those 'kind' of people are just better ignored. Really. She will know you are trying and just use you to feed her own self esteem.
Ignore her she will ask how you are.
just stop giving her what she wants when she iws being nice to you and also would say to get ur attitude higher and defend urself and sont let her talk **** behind ur back.
confront her..
ask her if uve done something wrong or is it just her personality.
if shes doin it 2 ur face id say its in her nature..
n if it is u need 2 tell her how it makes u feel.
Awww =[ Same Problem With Me To I Need Help To Sorry =[
normally, in time, it works out for the better.
tell her to sto wat she is doing and that she is a bitc*
Confront her dont be afraid to tell her wat u post online speak ur mind u may loose a friend but u wont loose ur dignity
all girls are mean to each other (ask me i know these things) the best thing to do is start hanging out with all her other friends and then she will start being nice because her friends like you so it will work out!! best of luck =)
I've heard this phrase used a lot: ';Kill her with kindess';. That's the best advice I can give you. Be extra nice to her. It will either piss her off, confuse her, or make her think ';hey, she's nice to me, maybe she's not such a bad person.'; Or something along the lines of that.
Or you can talk to her concerning the problem. Is she really her friend? If you're both just in the same class, then it shouldn't be a major concern. If you both hang out with different crowds and she wants a pencil or something from you, then just tell her you don't have one and she'll find someone else to use and stuff.
Is that good advice? Sorry if I'm just talking rubbish here. Just trying to help...
My husband had a gall bladder problems, the dr advice him to take a low fat diet ..?
the doctor told him that he should avoid taking fatty meals.. is it okay if he eats fish like fishmilkMy husband had a gall bladder problems, the dr advice him to take a low fat diet ..?
Fish is fine, as long as it isn't fried.
Fish is fine, as long as it isn't fried.
Guinea pig bonding problems advice very much needed?
Ok I did all my research and after it all I reeeeaally wanted a ferret but my mom said no because they reminded her of a rat. I chose a guinea pig but the problem is is that it is nearly impossible to bond with. I've had it for about 2months and it will let me hold it its just kind of acts like it hates me most of the time I know whats normal and whats not because really I did do my research but if you have any advice let me know thanks. oh and ps. Ive done all the bonding tricks but none have worked. also please tell if u think a ferret would have been better!Guinea pig bonding problems advice very much needed?
Some pigs take longer to bond than others. Every pig is different and some just need a little more time.
You have only had it for two months so I wouldn't worry. It will bond, it just isn't ready. It has to bond with you on it's own terms not yours, keep that in mind.
Keep holding and cuddling it every chance you get. Also, hand feed it too. That helps speed up the process a bit. Make sure you are talking to it as well, mine love when I talk to them. I can be on my bed while they are in their cage and they peek over at me and squeak/chatter until I start to talk to them.Guinea pig bonding problems advice very much needed?
Ferrets are much worse imo. They can be nippy too and would rather run around than be held.
Please look over www.guinealynx.info and www.guineapigcages.com for care info and more tips.
Have you tried my towel trick? where you use a towel folded in half and wrap the guinea pig in it and hold it over your heart. It is quite long to type out however i have never had it fail or has any one that has tried it and i would be more that glad to type it out for you if you want me to.
I do have a service in which i help people with their guinea pigs for no reason other than i love guinea pigs and love to help them I work with two Exotic Vet Clinics so i you had other questions that d did not know the answer to i am a phone call away. If you wish you can contact me at carolmoore30@yahoo,com
Some pigs take longer to bond than others. Every pig is different and some just need a little more time.
You have only had it for two months so I wouldn't worry. It will bond, it just isn't ready. It has to bond with you on it's own terms not yours, keep that in mind.
Keep holding and cuddling it every chance you get. Also, hand feed it too. That helps speed up the process a bit. Make sure you are talking to it as well, mine love when I talk to them. I can be on my bed while they are in their cage and they peek over at me and squeak/chatter until I start to talk to them.Guinea pig bonding problems advice very much needed?
Ferrets are much worse imo. They can be nippy too and would rather run around than be held.
Please look over www.guinealynx.info and www.guineapigcages.com for care info and more tips.
Have you tried my towel trick? where you use a towel folded in half and wrap the guinea pig in it and hold it over your heart. It is quite long to type out however i have never had it fail or has any one that has tried it and i would be more that glad to type it out for you if you want me to.
I do have a service in which i help people with their guinea pigs for no reason other than i love guinea pigs and love to help them I work with two Exotic Vet Clinics so i you had other questions that d did not know the answer to i am a phone call away. If you wish you can contact me at carolmoore30@yahoo,com
New dialysis patient problems. Advice?
After years of dreading the day, my mother started dialysis last week. So far it has been horrible. They told her not to take her blood pressure medicine and her top number is going well over 200. Her cramping is so severe that she's sore all over. Today they took her off early because she couldn't stand the cramping from the chest down. She's losing only minimal weight--about 10 lbs from 6 treatments in 9 days. Her fistula arm has a bruise the size of two soft balls. Not to mention that she loses her voice at every treatment and doesn't get it back for about 6 hours. We just don't understand why she's suffering so much yet getting almost no results. Her doctor is great and she has been following the diet to the T. Her treatments last only 4 hours but her speed is 420 (we're not quite familiar with the terminology yet). Anyone have any advice or encouragement? She noramally really happy-go-lucky but the thought of living like this for the rest of her life is really bringing her down.
Thanks!New dialysis patient problems. Advice?
In terms of energy levels / general 'drained' ness, traditional 3-times-a-week hemodialysis in a center is the WORST possible option.
I would definately look into the more 'human friendly' methods of dialysis that can be done at home, especially peritoneal dialysis.
It requires a large time commitment and a lot more time spent 'hooked up', but the trade off, feeling better, being able to follow a less restrictive diet, ect, is VERY important and definately worth considering. New dialysis patient problems. Advice?
Your mother is on what the call In-Center Hemodialysis.
Peritoneal Dialysis show a higher survival rate than for hemodialysis. That is, peritoneal dialysis patients live longer than patients with Dialysis, bu about 15%.
This is because Home Peritoneal Dialysis, especially Automatic Peritoneal Dyalisys (APD), is done 7 days a week. Therefore the toxins are removed better and the patient stays healthier.
The advantagec to APD is that it is done at home, while you are sleeping. NO BLOOD is transferred.
The major disadvantge is that you have to have a cannula (I think that's what they call it) installed into your belly to hook up the ';cycler';. Also, you have to keep a LOT of supplies in the home.
And, since you have the ';cannula'; installed, there is a greater possibility of infection (peritonitis), a potentially deadly disease. This is usually easlily managed by proper hygenic techniques.
Thanks!New dialysis patient problems. Advice?
In terms of energy levels / general 'drained' ness, traditional 3-times-a-week hemodialysis in a center is the WORST possible option.
I would definately look into the more 'human friendly' methods of dialysis that can be done at home, especially peritoneal dialysis.
It requires a large time commitment and a lot more time spent 'hooked up', but the trade off, feeling better, being able to follow a less restrictive diet, ect, is VERY important and definately worth considering. New dialysis patient problems. Advice?
Your mother is on what the call In-Center Hemodialysis.
Peritoneal Dialysis show a higher survival rate than for hemodialysis. That is, peritoneal dialysis patients live longer than patients with Dialysis, bu about 15%.
This is because Home Peritoneal Dialysis, especially Automatic Peritoneal Dyalisys (APD), is done 7 days a week. Therefore the toxins are removed better and the patient stays healthier.
The advantagec to APD is that it is done at home, while you are sleeping. NO BLOOD is transferred.
The major disadvantge is that you have to have a cannula (I think that's what they call it) installed into your belly to hook up the ';cycler';. Also, you have to keep a LOT of supplies in the home.
And, since you have the ';cannula'; installed, there is a greater possibility of infection (peritonitis), a potentially deadly disease. This is usually easlily managed by proper hygenic techniques.
Debt and Overdraft problems. Advice please?
Hi,
I was made reduntant from my job last September. I worked for a large bank and they layed off 80% of the department.
I had only been there 8 months so I was not elible for reduncy payment.
I had no debts and 拢3500 in savings at the time.
Ive been to lots of interviews but just cant seem to get the positions. I have been using my savings to pay bills/rent etc and I have also sold my car for extra money. I now have no savings and I am into my 拢1500 overdraft by 拢1300!
I hated having to go onto jobseekers allowance but I have just applied so will get 拢62 per week.
I've just paid off my last months rent and I am having to move out and back home with the parents. Im 34 so this is the worst thing and I feel so pathetic.
Apart from looking for a job and living with the parents I am very worried about not been able to pay bills etc. I have a mobile phone with 7 months left on the contract plus other direct debits. Add this with the interest payments on the overdraft and I have outgoings of 拢528 per month. Incoming of 拢242 per month.
I dont want to have to go bankrupt or anything like that and I am tryng hard to get a job. Is anyone in the same position or does anyone have any advice on any help available or ideas on how I can sort this out.
Its making me sick with worry and I could really do with some positive ideas.
Im selling on Ebay and I dont go out or buy anything anymore.
Be good to hear from others in this type of situation as I know Im not alone with the state of the country at the minute.
Thanks for reading and I look forward to your responses.Debt and Overdraft problems. Advice please?
i dont really have a great answer but i do know that if your phone contact was for 18months then after 9 you can usually lower the tarrif, it may only be by a fiver but every little helps!
good luckDebt and Overdraft problems. Advice please?
lot of difficult things going with you. Why dont you start internet marketing you can make money but you do have to spend a little bit of money to get started
http://www.whoisshaunsmith.com/
http://andrew-reynolds.com/recession-bus鈥?/a>
The only thing I can suggest is read this from CAB:
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/life鈥?/a>
You can get some good advise on money from Martin Lewis at http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/
Best of luck.
You have my empathy I know how helpless and frustrating your current situation can make you feel. Jobs are harder than ever to get at the moment but in the past I have found Temping is better than not working at all. If you are willing to be flexible and consider applying for anything you increase the chances of getting work. I can only suggest you try to stay positive and keep doing things to help yourself. I really hope your situation improves, and there's no shame in moving back in with your parents temporarily. Most of us are struggling at the moment. :0) Out of interest what county/area do you live in?
Ok there is lots of help available to you. You will be able to claim housing benefit to cover your rent and rates, ring your mobile phone supplier, you'll be very surprised some of the deals they will offer. Go into the bank and talk face to face with them, see what they will do for you. Also ring the national debt help line, it's free and that advice off them they are great, honest. You are lucky, I know your not feeling that at the mo, thankfully you have no major debt's, which means there is no reason for you to go bankrupt.
Please stop feeling pathetic because your not OK! You have not got yourself into this situation and by the sounds of things you've done far more than what most people are prepare to do. Stay positive, keep trying don't give up and you know, that's what good parents are for.
I'm sending you all the luck I can muster up xxxxxxxx
Your overdraft is growing and you are unable to meet the payments.
The first thing you need to do is go see the bank manager about this.
They will understand your situation if you explain the job situation. It is not something uncommon nowadays with so many layoffs.
The important thing is not to just run away and not pay your debts. This will hurt your Credit History and you will have trouble borrowing money , even find a house to rent,etc...
Banks usually will prefer to help you meet your payments. Say you have credit card payments and interest charges are high. The bank can combine all your loans and debt and then help you with a reasonable monthly payment so you can slowly manage to pay off this overdraft.
Don't just let the overdraft grow, as the interest charges are higher than if you went to the bank to ask for a personal loan. As I said, a finance company will always prefer you tell them you're in trouble and will help you. Rather than have to find you to get you to pay up.
Good luck in your job finding. I would say, take anything that comes along. This is not the time to be picking at a job. Any job that pays you a wage is better than no job at all.
contact the bank you have the overdraft with them and explain you are in financial didifficultiesnd they may be able to reduce or freeze the ininterestn your account.
also speak to either the cccs - 0800 138 1111 or your local citizens advice bureau who can be found in your local yellow pages.
if your really under a lot of stress you may want to talk to your doctor about it.
hoe things work out better for you
Soo sorry this happened to you. Sounds like your doing all you can and thank God that you had some place to go. Don't get any loans or credit cards cause we both know you can't pay that back any time soon. Just think positive and do your best to get a job. Live off of the necessities only and try to look at the bright side. A lot of people have no where to go. Just pace yourself and get a job first and then move back up from there, and most of all remember you started from your parents house one time and rose up to where you were and you can do it again. I believe in you.
first of all don't panic call your mobile phone provider and see if you can go onto a lower cheaper tariff explain your situation next your debts go and see the citizens advice bureau and see if they can help at least they may be able to get you lower payments on your debts until you can get a job and back on your feet again
call you banks and credit cards explain your situation to them and ask them to give you a relief till you get a job, also fill an application form for social security and send it to the bank and credit cards to prove your financial situation. If they accept it without charging you interest fair enough if not tell them you have no other choice but to be bankcrupt, they will then consider your situation.
You sound like a lovely person and I am very sorry to hear about your situation. I don't have an answer, sadly but I think you will eventually find work. We are living in terrible times. I have 3 friends, all high flyers, who have lost their jobs. One was a senior IT consultant at Bradford and Bingley Bank and the other 2 were recruitment consultants, in the square mile (London). I don't think anyone is immune. Good luck.
I was made reduntant from my job last September. I worked for a large bank and they layed off 80% of the department.
I had only been there 8 months so I was not elible for reduncy payment.
I had no debts and 拢3500 in savings at the time.
Ive been to lots of interviews but just cant seem to get the positions. I have been using my savings to pay bills/rent etc and I have also sold my car for extra money. I now have no savings and I am into my 拢1500 overdraft by 拢1300!
I hated having to go onto jobseekers allowance but I have just applied so will get 拢62 per week.
I've just paid off my last months rent and I am having to move out and back home with the parents. Im 34 so this is the worst thing and I feel so pathetic.
Apart from looking for a job and living with the parents I am very worried about not been able to pay bills etc. I have a mobile phone with 7 months left on the contract plus other direct debits. Add this with the interest payments on the overdraft and I have outgoings of 拢528 per month. Incoming of 拢242 per month.
I dont want to have to go bankrupt or anything like that and I am tryng hard to get a job. Is anyone in the same position or does anyone have any advice on any help available or ideas on how I can sort this out.
Its making me sick with worry and I could really do with some positive ideas.
Im selling on Ebay and I dont go out or buy anything anymore.
Be good to hear from others in this type of situation as I know Im not alone with the state of the country at the minute.
Thanks for reading and I look forward to your responses.Debt and Overdraft problems. Advice please?
i dont really have a great answer but i do know that if your phone contact was for 18months then after 9 you can usually lower the tarrif, it may only be by a fiver but every little helps!
good luckDebt and Overdraft problems. Advice please?
lot of difficult things going with you. Why dont you start internet marketing you can make money but you do have to spend a little bit of money to get started
http://www.whoisshaunsmith.com/
http://andrew-reynolds.com/recession-bus鈥?/a>
The only thing I can suggest is read this from CAB:
http://www.adviceguide.org.uk/index/life鈥?/a>
You can get some good advise on money from Martin Lewis at http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/
Best of luck.
You have my empathy I know how helpless and frustrating your current situation can make you feel. Jobs are harder than ever to get at the moment but in the past I have found Temping is better than not working at all. If you are willing to be flexible and consider applying for anything you increase the chances of getting work. I can only suggest you try to stay positive and keep doing things to help yourself. I really hope your situation improves, and there's no shame in moving back in with your parents temporarily. Most of us are struggling at the moment. :0) Out of interest what county/area do you live in?
Ok there is lots of help available to you. You will be able to claim housing benefit to cover your rent and rates, ring your mobile phone supplier, you'll be very surprised some of the deals they will offer. Go into the bank and talk face to face with them, see what they will do for you. Also ring the national debt help line, it's free and that advice off them they are great, honest. You are lucky, I know your not feeling that at the mo, thankfully you have no major debt's, which means there is no reason for you to go bankrupt.
Please stop feeling pathetic because your not OK! You have not got yourself into this situation and by the sounds of things you've done far more than what most people are prepare to do. Stay positive, keep trying don't give up and you know, that's what good parents are for.
I'm sending you all the luck I can muster up xxxxxxxx
Your overdraft is growing and you are unable to meet the payments.
The first thing you need to do is go see the bank manager about this.
They will understand your situation if you explain the job situation. It is not something uncommon nowadays with so many layoffs.
The important thing is not to just run away and not pay your debts. This will hurt your Credit History and you will have trouble borrowing money , even find a house to rent,etc...
Banks usually will prefer to help you meet your payments. Say you have credit card payments and interest charges are high. The bank can combine all your loans and debt and then help you with a reasonable monthly payment so you can slowly manage to pay off this overdraft.
Don't just let the overdraft grow, as the interest charges are higher than if you went to the bank to ask for a personal loan. As I said, a finance company will always prefer you tell them you're in trouble and will help you. Rather than have to find you to get you to pay up.
Good luck in your job finding. I would say, take anything that comes along. This is not the time to be picking at a job. Any job that pays you a wage is better than no job at all.
contact the bank you have the overdraft with them and explain you are in financial didifficultiesnd they may be able to reduce or freeze the ininterestn your account.
also speak to either the cccs - 0800 138 1111 or your local citizens advice bureau who can be found in your local yellow pages.
if your really under a lot of stress you may want to talk to your doctor about it.
hoe things work out better for you
Soo sorry this happened to you. Sounds like your doing all you can and thank God that you had some place to go. Don't get any loans or credit cards cause we both know you can't pay that back any time soon. Just think positive and do your best to get a job. Live off of the necessities only and try to look at the bright side. A lot of people have no where to go. Just pace yourself and get a job first and then move back up from there, and most of all remember you started from your parents house one time and rose up to where you were and you can do it again. I believe in you.
first of all don't panic call your mobile phone provider and see if you can go onto a lower cheaper tariff explain your situation next your debts go and see the citizens advice bureau and see if they can help at least they may be able to get you lower payments on your debts until you can get a job and back on your feet again
call you banks and credit cards explain your situation to them and ask them to give you a relief till you get a job, also fill an application form for social security and send it to the bank and credit cards to prove your financial situation. If they accept it without charging you interest fair enough if not tell them you have no other choice but to be bankcrupt, they will then consider your situation.
You sound like a lovely person and I am very sorry to hear about your situation. I don't have an answer, sadly but I think you will eventually find work. We are living in terrible times. I have 3 friends, all high flyers, who have lost their jobs. One was a senior IT consultant at Bradford and Bingley Bank and the other 2 were recruitment consultants, in the square mile (London). I don't think anyone is immune. Good luck.
Sister in law problems...advice please!
So, my sister in law...let's call her Mimi....she is my husband's brother's wife. She is an odd person and has continually been a sneak towards me. Let me explain:
1st - she is always trying to put my husband down behind his back as if he is stupid.
2nd - when I had a myspace account, she would check out my calendar and call up my mother in law and spill out every detail of our life. Granted my mother in law doesn't really care for her either because of several incidences she and her family have pulled. We don't care that my mother in law knew our calendar but to call her up behind our backs just to discuss that we found weird. She would then compete with me on myspace (immature, I know). I would post a variety of what I was doing everyday...and she would post the same exact thing but try and make it sound better! For instance I had posted on Father's Day, ';I am spoiling my hubby on Father's Day';...she then posted, ';I am spoiling my hubby even more on Father's Day';. This would have been fine if she actually was human enough to respond to my polite and kind comments I would leave her on her myspace.
3rd - my hubby and I are 7 months pregnant and decided to have a co-ed baby shower hosted by ourselves. I sent the invites out on a Monday...they would have received theirs on Tuesday (based on past mail experiences)....Tuesday afternoon I received a call from Mimi and she left me a voicemail saying, ';Hi, I wanted to let you know I can't make it to your baby shower...I saw on your myspace that it is August 3rd. (we deleted our myspace account 2-3 weeks prior). My friend is having a baby shower the day before and I am obligated to be there because she is my friend.'; With the invites I included a slip of paper with our registry info. She then said, ';I was wondering if you are registered at Target or anywhere.';
I never called her back. I had my hubby call her hubby (his brother) that evening to let them know where we are registered. She has a history of lying to her husband so we wanted to make sure he knew he was invited. She claims they never received the invitation to this day. We think she threw it away based on the fact that she bought off of our registry before even knowing where we were registered at.
At this point I want nothing to do with her and my hubby feels the same way.
We don't want to jeopardize our relationship we have with my hubby's brother though.
Any thoughts and advice?Sister in law problems...advice please!
She sounds very similar to my sister in law. She does stuff like that all the time. It is like a competition who can be the best daughter in law, and the whole family sees right through it, and she is a big trouble maker.
We have kids and our kids' like her so we (my husband and I) just basically talk to her only when we have to. We still talk to his brother, but anything she does we just try to ignore because everyone knows how she is and if we dwell on it we just get angry and we really don't want a confrontation because then we will look like the jerks.
So I would still encourage your husband to have a relationship with his brother, you can do it and not have to talk to her, just don't get into any big conversations with her, be elusive and maybe she will get the hint.Sister in law problems...advice please!
all family's have a caracter like her and the best thing to do is be sure that her husband is the one you and your husband talk to and let her do as she wishes
Just ignore her. There are odd ducks in every family. It could be that she's just really intimidated by you, or is just really bad around other people.
Is it possible to have a relationship with just your hubby's brother and NOT her? That may not be the easiest thing since your bro in law needs to stand by his woman. U may just have to see your bro in law less.
Its too bad cause he sounds like a nice guy, how did he end up with such a manipulative immature person?
Good call on getting rid of the Myspace account. Sounds like more trouble than its worth.
Sorry i couldnt offer any better solutions. i just dont think there are any.
Good Luck
eew i know you cant be mean to her because of you husband and his brothers relationship but that doesnt mean that you have to be nice just ignore her and dont add her to your myspace or facebook or w/e and next time when you mail something make sure your husband calls his brother to let him know its on the way! good luck i think you will need it :D
Just dont talk to her, don't invite her to any of your parties. I have an aunt like that, I just don't talk to her, she can say whatever she wants about me, but I'm not giving her the time of day. Do your own thing and forget about her, let her comments slide off your shoulder, cause really who cares? She's a snake that might just be jealous of your family or just really has nothing better to do. So like I said, forget her, make your calendar w/ no worries ;)
1st - she is always trying to put my husband down behind his back as if he is stupid.
2nd - when I had a myspace account, she would check out my calendar and call up my mother in law and spill out every detail of our life. Granted my mother in law doesn't really care for her either because of several incidences she and her family have pulled. We don't care that my mother in law knew our calendar but to call her up behind our backs just to discuss that we found weird. She would then compete with me on myspace (immature, I know). I would post a variety of what I was doing everyday...and she would post the same exact thing but try and make it sound better! For instance I had posted on Father's Day, ';I am spoiling my hubby on Father's Day';...she then posted, ';I am spoiling my hubby even more on Father's Day';. This would have been fine if she actually was human enough to respond to my polite and kind comments I would leave her on her myspace.
3rd - my hubby and I are 7 months pregnant and decided to have a co-ed baby shower hosted by ourselves. I sent the invites out on a Monday...they would have received theirs on Tuesday (based on past mail experiences)....Tuesday afternoon I received a call from Mimi and she left me a voicemail saying, ';Hi, I wanted to let you know I can't make it to your baby shower...I saw on your myspace that it is August 3rd. (we deleted our myspace account 2-3 weeks prior). My friend is having a baby shower the day before and I am obligated to be there because she is my friend.'; With the invites I included a slip of paper with our registry info. She then said, ';I was wondering if you are registered at Target or anywhere.';
I never called her back. I had my hubby call her hubby (his brother) that evening to let them know where we are registered. She has a history of lying to her husband so we wanted to make sure he knew he was invited. She claims they never received the invitation to this day. We think she threw it away based on the fact that she bought off of our registry before even knowing where we were registered at.
At this point I want nothing to do with her and my hubby feels the same way.
We don't want to jeopardize our relationship we have with my hubby's brother though.
Any thoughts and advice?Sister in law problems...advice please!
She sounds very similar to my sister in law. She does stuff like that all the time. It is like a competition who can be the best daughter in law, and the whole family sees right through it, and she is a big trouble maker.
We have kids and our kids' like her so we (my husband and I) just basically talk to her only when we have to. We still talk to his brother, but anything she does we just try to ignore because everyone knows how she is and if we dwell on it we just get angry and we really don't want a confrontation because then we will look like the jerks.
So I would still encourage your husband to have a relationship with his brother, you can do it and not have to talk to her, just don't get into any big conversations with her, be elusive and maybe she will get the hint.Sister in law problems...advice please!
all family's have a caracter like her and the best thing to do is be sure that her husband is the one you and your husband talk to and let her do as she wishes
Just ignore her. There are odd ducks in every family. It could be that she's just really intimidated by you, or is just really bad around other people.
Is it possible to have a relationship with just your hubby's brother and NOT her? That may not be the easiest thing since your bro in law needs to stand by his woman. U may just have to see your bro in law less.
Its too bad cause he sounds like a nice guy, how did he end up with such a manipulative immature person?
Good call on getting rid of the Myspace account. Sounds like more trouble than its worth.
Sorry i couldnt offer any better solutions. i just dont think there are any.
Good Luck
eew i know you cant be mean to her because of you husband and his brothers relationship but that doesnt mean that you have to be nice just ignore her and dont add her to your myspace or facebook or w/e and next time when you mail something make sure your husband calls his brother to let him know its on the way! good luck i think you will need it :D
Just dont talk to her, don't invite her to any of your parties. I have an aunt like that, I just don't talk to her, she can say whatever she wants about me, but I'm not giving her the time of day. Do your own thing and forget about her, let her comments slide off your shoulder, cause really who cares? She's a snake that might just be jealous of your family or just really has nothing better to do. So like I said, forget her, make your calendar w/ no worries ;)
I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :)?
Good evening from where I am :)
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :)?
I read all of that. Surprise people! :D Lol
It sounds like he is interested. Then again, it sounds like he thinks of you as one of his best friends. Which is pretty confusing.
Try asking him out, just once. Just build up the courage. %26amp; see how he reacts, responds, what he does about, if he accepts!
Or maybe he is one of those guys who is flirty with all girls. Which makes it hard to tell if the guy likes you.
But, I am leaning towards ';He likes you';. It definitely sounds like it. He remembers small details. He gets excited, happy when you are around. He wanted to hang out with you! You should of gone. But that's in the past. If he asks you somewhere again, say yes! Maybe talk about another guy in front of him to see how he acts. Don't go overboard on it, just bring up some guy maybe say ';He was kinda cute.'; or something along those lines and watch how he reacts to it.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :)?
How the hell should I know, sexy? Either ask him or move on, but stop asking random morons on the internet to evaluate the situation.
maybe he's gay.
Haha jk, guys are confusing but he seems lyk a flirt, or he loves you like a best friend.
Too long, i'm sure he adores you though.
wow i can't believe i read it all. I feel like i should be rewarded.
make a summary for all of us to read!
he likes you but he is a flirt.
I think he likes you and idk maybe he dated your not that close friend to make you jealous??? idk guys are wierd lol but its obvious that he likes you. :) so as for the girlfriend idk what hes up to but you should start hanging out with him more. :) and i think its so cute that he would give you jellybeans lol but the throwing them at you thats WAY flirty.gold eyeshadow
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :)?
I read all of that. Surprise people! :D Lol
It sounds like he is interested. Then again, it sounds like he thinks of you as one of his best friends. Which is pretty confusing.
Try asking him out, just once. Just build up the courage. %26amp; see how he reacts, responds, what he does about, if he accepts!
Or maybe he is one of those guys who is flirty with all girls. Which makes it hard to tell if the guy likes you.
But, I am leaning towards ';He likes you';. It definitely sounds like it. He remembers small details. He gets excited, happy when you are around. He wanted to hang out with you! You should of gone. But that's in the past. If he asks you somewhere again, say yes! Maybe talk about another guy in front of him to see how he acts. Don't go overboard on it, just bring up some guy maybe say ';He was kinda cute.'; or something along those lines and watch how he reacts to it.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :)?
How the hell should I know, sexy? Either ask him or move on, but stop asking random morons on the internet to evaluate the situation.
maybe he's gay.
Haha jk, guys are confusing but he seems lyk a flirt, or he loves you like a best friend.
Too long, i'm sure he adores you though.
wow i can't believe i read it all. I feel like i should be rewarded.
make a summary for all of us to read!
he likes you but he is a flirt.
I think he likes you and idk maybe he dated your not that close friend to make you jealous??? idk guys are wierd lol but its obvious that he likes you. :) so as for the girlfriend idk what hes up to but you should start hanging out with him more. :) and i think its so cute that he would give you jellybeans lol but the throwing them at you thats WAY flirty.
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