My ex boyfriend of over a year and I still talk
even though he hit me once and did awful things. Because he was crying his eyes out teling me how he wanted to be friends.
I agreed, and thats what we've been. He introduced me to someone. They arent really friends and do talk every once in a while. This guy treats me soo sweet. He really likes me and cares. Unlike my ex.
Talking to my ex isnt making things easier. I guess I just believed him when he keeps tellig me that hess changed and it seemas he has..but when i think about it..i just get mad and take it out o n him.
I like this other guy a lot.
So should I just stop contact with my ex?I'm having problems..advice please !?
You're young, and I'm an old fart. You'd be wise to learn this lesson now - abusive relationships are no fun at all. You already know this, and this is why you have moved on. Do not look back - you'll have regrets. In the most extreme scenario, you could even be putting your own life at risk if you go back to the ex-boyfriend.
In short, you simply need to cut all ties with the ex-boyfriend. It sounds like you're happy with your life as it is now, so why ruin it?
Tuesday, November 22, 2011
I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
Good evening from where I am :)
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
he was into you and still might be or it might just be too late. cuz anyone can do the basic flirtin **** with anyone else so it might have been a friendly flirt. just don't wait around on someone like that.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
To me it sounds like he likes u but also likes her... what ever u do don't make him pick. try to become friends with this mystery girl.
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
he was into you and still might be or it might just be too late. cuz anyone can do the basic flirtin **** with anyone else so it might have been a friendly flirt. just don't wait around on someone like that.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
To me it sounds like he likes u but also likes her... what ever u do don't make him pick. try to become friends with this mystery girl.
I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
Good evening from where I am :)
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
He likes you, but this girl keeps getting in the way, if you have his number give him a call and let him know, or you can tell him in a letter, its your senior year %26amp;%26amp; who knows if you'll ever see him again, just be honest and don't be afraid to show your feelings. Ask him out on a date.. if you don't want to write a note, and then just tell him there.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
I think he doesn't like you.
honestly.
it seems like he likes you
but you arn't giving off enough signal that you like him too.
you should be more forward about it.
and a way to do that is to ask him if he is going out with that girl
first of all it will give you clarification of his status and it will also let him know that you care about that kinda stuff
do me a favor
and answer my question.
im habing boy trouble too
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
some guys just like to have a close friend thats a girl even if they have a GF
sorry to say, i think your just the friend
My guess knowing our flawed logic system is: He likes you, but was probably waiting on a hint from you, then when you didn't give it, he settled for another girl thinking you were uninterested.
you should leave this person who does not have a clear behavior..you can find better boyfriend..he is hurting you with his behavior which is not normal...dont pay attention to him anymore and you will get the good result..
There is a thing called just being friends. But as long as theres a possibility of a GF u dont wanna put that stress on u her or him.
I've been having some boy troubles lately, and any advice or input you can give will be appreciated! In other words...I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP!!!
So I have this really weird ';relationship'; with this guy.....
We met last year (junior year) because he sat behind me in AP chemistry class. I guess we kind of hit it off and we'd talk every day, you know, like super basic flirting but kind of more talking as friends. I have this weird obsession with jelly beans, and one day he made me close my eyes and dropped off a huge bag on my desk which was soooo sweet :)
Then over Thanksgiving break, I went to LA and got him a box of really...interesting...cookies with a note in it saying ';so now we're even! ;)'; because he'd been giving me jelly beans, sometimes secretly putting them in my purse or just throwing them at me.
The thing is, through this, we never hung out outside of school. I don't know why. Probably because I'm insecure as hell and didn't want to ask him or maybe he wasn't interested? See, this is confusing! haha.
After first semester our seats got changed so we weren't next to each other anymore (he sat on my right side after we switched seats 2nd quarter) We couldn't really talk anymore since I had no other classes with him. But if I'd see him in the halls, he'd high five me or do this drum thing with his hands on my back (it was endearing, hehe). Still no hanging out.
Then 4th quarter, we got moved back next to each other. We'd still talk, but then he started going out with one of my not-that-close friends which was reaaally weird. It was kind of awkward because I was thinking...I don't want to be a homewrecker!
Over the summer, I took a math class at school and he took health. I'm pretty sure he was still going out with that girl but every day after class he'd wait with me on the bench until my ride got there. (one of my friends would be there sometimes too) I met some of his friends there and he'd tell them how obsessed I was with jelly beans and all these other little facts that I didn't even know he noticed!
Then one day, a mutual friend that was in my math class planned out this beach trip and invited a bunch of people. I went, but he stayed home, idk why. When I was there, one of his friends talked to me a lot and was just really sweet. We went out in the water alone and talked for a little bit and then laid on the beach to try and get tan. He went to go get a drink and one of my friends told me he already had a girlfriend! But didn't invite her....
The next day after class we were sitting on the bench again waiting with the guy, his friend, and one of my friends. His friend started talking about how we didn't get tan at all, and I agreed. The guy looked really surprised and asked me ';you went too? I didn't know you were going!'; and then we talked about random stuff for a while, but before I left, he said that we'd all go to beach together another time.
But after summer classes ended I had an internship in Chicago the rest of the summer and wasn't home except on July 4th, when I went to see fireworks back in my town. I saw him there and he was really excited and asked me to hang out with him and his friends that night. I said yes, but then I saw that the other people we'd be hanging out with were his maybe-girlfriend(?), the friend from the beach, and his girlfriend! I'd be the odd one out, so I said I had other stuff to do and left.
Now since 4th quarter, his facebook picture has been of him and the girl. It used to say they were in a relationship, but now it's just left blank. She hacks into his profile a lot and changes things, but in his ';About Me'; it still says she's his girlfriend.
This year, senior year, we have one class together...and guess who else is in it...the maybe-girlfriend, the friend from the beach, AND his girlfriend! Now that's just pretty messed up. His maybe-girlfriend misses class a lot, and when she does, he always sits next to meand we talk just like we did last year.
Yesterday, he brought up that he still kept the box from the LA cookies I bought him! it was just kind of random, and I was reallly surprised. We then talked about a lot of random stuff and he kept trying to make me laugh which was cute :) But today, the girl was back in class and he sat between me and her and they were all acting cute together, which is sooo CONFUSING!
WHAT IS GOING ON WITH HIM?
I don't even know what to do.....aghh.
Help please? :) :) :)I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
He likes you, but this girl keeps getting in the way, if you have his number give him a call and let him know, or you can tell him in a letter, its your senior year %26amp;%26amp; who knows if you'll ever see him again, just be honest and don't be afraid to show your feelings. Ask him out on a date.. if you don't want to write a note, and then just tell him there.I HAVE BOY PROBLEMS, ADVICE PLEASE??? story inside :) it's pretty long! HELP?
I think he doesn't like you.
honestly.
it seems like he likes you
but you arn't giving off enough signal that you like him too.
you should be more forward about it.
and a way to do that is to ask him if he is going out with that girl
first of all it will give you clarification of his status and it will also let him know that you care about that kinda stuff
do me a favor
and answer my question.
im habing boy trouble too
http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
some guys just like to have a close friend thats a girl even if they have a GF
sorry to say, i think your just the friend
My guess knowing our flawed logic system is: He likes you, but was probably waiting on a hint from you, then when you didn't give it, he settled for another girl thinking you were uninterested.
you should leave this person who does not have a clear behavior..you can find better boyfriend..he is hurting you with his behavior which is not normal...dont pay attention to him anymore and you will get the good result..
There is a thing called just being friends. But as long as theres a possibility of a GF u dont wanna put that stress on u her or him.
Im having breathing problems? Advice?
Lately Ive been having problems breathing. For about the past week? Or since Like Friday.
Its kind of like, I feel like im not getting enough air, so I take a deep breath, and it feels like I cant get a full breath.
My mom thinks its allergy related, and well try benadryl.
Any help on how to help me breathe better, for now?
because I cant go to the doctor at this point, because my dad doesnt have a job, or insurance, so.
Also.
This happened to me a bit when I was a kid. but it wasnt this bad.
It was like everyonce in a while.
And i went to the doctor and they said nothing was wrong but he gave me an inhaler anyways.Im having breathing problems? Advice?
Depending on which inhaler you were given, (a reliever or a preventer) you should consider taking the inhaler each day if it is a preventer or when you feel breathless take it (if it is a reliever)Im having breathing problems? Advice?
even i had this prob wen i was a kid.. n it was mainly because of travelling.. if u really wan to get rid of it i recommend yoga its the best..
when you go to school this morning go to the nurses office and see if they treat you maybe its something minorbeauty eye
Its kind of like, I feel like im not getting enough air, so I take a deep breath, and it feels like I cant get a full breath.
My mom thinks its allergy related, and well try benadryl.
Any help on how to help me breathe better, for now?
because I cant go to the doctor at this point, because my dad doesnt have a job, or insurance, so.
Also.
This happened to me a bit when I was a kid. but it wasnt this bad.
It was like everyonce in a while.
And i went to the doctor and they said nothing was wrong but he gave me an inhaler anyways.Im having breathing problems? Advice?
Depending on which inhaler you were given, (a reliever or a preventer) you should consider taking the inhaler each day if it is a preventer or when you feel breathless take it (if it is a reliever)Im having breathing problems? Advice?
even i had this prob wen i was a kid.. n it was mainly because of travelling.. if u really wan to get rid of it i recommend yoga its the best..
when you go to school this morning go to the nurses office and see if they treat you maybe its something minor
My husband had a gall bladder problems, the dr advice him to take a low fat diet ..?
the doctor told him that he should avoid taking fatty meals.. is it okay if he eats fish like fishmilkMy husband had a gall bladder problems, the dr advice him to take a low fat diet ..?
as long as its not fried
as long as its not fried
Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
I have had plumbing problems for the past year. There are 4 units in my apartment complex %26amp; we are the last one. Therefore, all of our plumbing is connected and we see to get the brunt of it.
My landlord is saying that I have to pay for the last plumbing bill because the plumber found paper towels in the drain (which in my opinion could be coming from any of the four units?) Do I really have to pay this? Our building is so old %26amp; I truly feel the problems we are constantly having can't possibly be from us. It's gotten so bad that at one point, sewage, human feces and toilet paper were running down the side of our complex.
She may threaten to raise our rent if I don't pay this bill. Any suggestions on what to do? Perhaps call the housing authority about the sewage outside? (I have pictures for evidence).Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
You have to read your lease.
AND you MUST follow-up what the lease states - or doesn't state - in the form of an e-mail and/or ';snail mail';.
In real estate AND in the practice of law, there is a very basic expression:
';When it isn't in writing, it simply doesn't exist.';
If the landlord won't communicate with you - in writing, THEN YOU should do it. Send ';snail mails'; and/or e-mails to the landlord's attention.
In case he/she denies any of those statements, be sure you keep exact duplicates in your files. THEN you produce that correspondence. You NEVER, EVER give any one those copies - except in court.
Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it!
VTY,
Ron Berue
Yes, that is my real last name!Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
DEFINATELY call about the sewage outside, but if he can provide expert evidence from a licensed plumber (the statement of cause on the bill is enough) that a particular unit is the cause the landlord can charge that tenant.
I tend to downplay Ron Berue's answers as he only uses generic ';cut %26amp; paste'; file responses.
call DEQ regarding fical-matter exposed and if you are all on a community sewerline, its on the LL to pay for and keep a clear %26amp; clean area for you to reside.
If you are on a lease, they cannot raise rents and if you are on a MotoMo rental agreement, it may be the better choice for you to leave anyway.
If its the latter, stop paying rents and force the LL's hand at a day in court and explain the situation to the Judge.
Photos and facts are a useful item when in court.
IF the sewer was fixed and it is not running down the side of the building anymore, you dont have a case. It may have came from some other unit. He also may have charged the other 3 people for plumbing issues before and now its your turn (you are the last unit). If there is a next time, he will charge the 1st unit and start over. I, however, would charge all of the tenants 1/4 of the bill. Send him a certified letter stating that you will be willing to pay 1/4 of the bill, but not all of it as there are 3 other tenants that could have done it. The landlord is NOT going to take your word that the paper towels arent yours. Been there done that before. So pay 1/4 with the letter and send it. On the bottom of the check put ';plumbing, my portion paid in full';. If he cashes it, he has agreed to the terms.
If the main sewer plugs up, any one of the tenants could be the source of the paper towels. Also the sewer could be damaged and plugs up with no one at fault.
I once cleared a sewer from a single family home where the pattern on the offending paper towels (blue bells) matched the roll in the kitchen!!!!!!!!! The tenant claimed she was not the source of the paper towels.
My landlord is saying that I have to pay for the last plumbing bill because the plumber found paper towels in the drain (which in my opinion could be coming from any of the four units?) Do I really have to pay this? Our building is so old %26amp; I truly feel the problems we are constantly having can't possibly be from us. It's gotten so bad that at one point, sewage, human feces and toilet paper were running down the side of our complex.
She may threaten to raise our rent if I don't pay this bill. Any suggestions on what to do? Perhaps call the housing authority about the sewage outside? (I have pictures for evidence).Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
You have to read your lease.
AND you MUST follow-up what the lease states - or doesn't state - in the form of an e-mail and/or ';snail mail';.
In real estate AND in the practice of law, there is a very basic expression:
';When it isn't in writing, it simply doesn't exist.';
If the landlord won't communicate with you - in writing, THEN YOU should do it. Send ';snail mails'; and/or e-mails to the landlord's attention.
In case he/she denies any of those statements, be sure you keep exact duplicates in your files. THEN you produce that correspondence. You NEVER, EVER give any one those copies - except in court.
Thanks for asking your Q! I enjoyed answering it!
VTY,
Ron Berue
Yes, that is my real last name!Plumbing and landlord problems. Advice?
DEFINATELY call about the sewage outside, but if he can provide expert evidence from a licensed plumber (the statement of cause on the bill is enough) that a particular unit is the cause the landlord can charge that tenant.
I tend to downplay Ron Berue's answers as he only uses generic ';cut %26amp; paste'; file responses.
call DEQ regarding fical-matter exposed and if you are all on a community sewerline, its on the LL to pay for and keep a clear %26amp; clean area for you to reside.
If you are on a lease, they cannot raise rents and if you are on a MotoMo rental agreement, it may be the better choice for you to leave anyway.
If its the latter, stop paying rents and force the LL's hand at a day in court and explain the situation to the Judge.
Photos and facts are a useful item when in court.
IF the sewer was fixed and it is not running down the side of the building anymore, you dont have a case. It may have came from some other unit. He also may have charged the other 3 people for plumbing issues before and now its your turn (you are the last unit). If there is a next time, he will charge the 1st unit and start over. I, however, would charge all of the tenants 1/4 of the bill. Send him a certified letter stating that you will be willing to pay 1/4 of the bill, but not all of it as there are 3 other tenants that could have done it. The landlord is NOT going to take your word that the paper towels arent yours. Been there done that before. So pay 1/4 with the letter and send it. On the bottom of the check put ';plumbing, my portion paid in full';. If he cashes it, he has agreed to the terms.
If the main sewer plugs up, any one of the tenants could be the source of the paper towels. Also the sewer could be damaged and plugs up with no one at fault.
I once cleared a sewer from a single family home where the pattern on the offending paper towels (blue bells) matched the roll in the kitchen!!!!!!!!! The tenant claimed she was not the source of the paper towels.
Major Ex-Boyfriend problems. Advice, Please.?
alright. I had a boyfriend for a year, and he broke up with me a week ago because he felt tied down and because he was bored with me. I was devastated. He said we could be friends, so we are now... But for the past week, he's been telling me perverted comments, hugging me, following me, even kissing me on the cheek... And he's been calling me babe. But when i ask him if he still liked me, he said, ';I told you i didn't. And I can't go back.'; But he is acting like we're still going out! Can someone give me their honest opinion on what he's trying to do? And what should i do with him?Major Ex-Boyfriend problems. Advice, Please.?
Avoid him like the turd he is.
He wants to be free to pursue his own interests (other girls)
while keeping you close enough to use you if nothing better comes along.Major Ex-Boyfriend problems. Advice, Please.?
I went through something similar, too. Don't let him do things like that if you've broke up. It just makes things worse. If it's over, and he can't just be friends with you, then it's over. Seems like he just wants to put up a front for other people, and maybe himself, and that's wrong. Let him know how you feel, and that if you're not really dating anymore, than both of you should just move on. It hurts too much to pretend to be something you're not.
Ignore him for a while.
Stop seeing him.
Answer the phones and stuff,act normal as if you were friends,but never call him or plan to meet him for a while.
If he wants you as a friend he will be there in a couple of weeks so no problem.
But if he still wants you as a gf,it will drive him nuts and he will come back.
You can never be friends with an ex. This guy is probably trying to get something from you, but you can not give it to him. Most guys that want to be friends after a relationship are keeping the girl at arms length just in case she is willing to give up sex. Go away from him and start your life over. He isn't worth your time.
He is playing you and that's not right. He knows how you feel and he knows how he is acting is giving you ideas.. and he doesn't care if that hurts you. What you need to do is keep away from him. If he touches you again tell him to keep his hands off of you. .better yet.. start dating and he'll get the idea. He wants you right where you are.. wanting him but him playing his games. Don't let him do this to you. You're better than he deserves by far!
It sounds to me like he just want some. either that or he physically misses you. and he thinks he can easily get it from you because he knows you still have feelings for him. But that's just the thing. You need to tell him that you guys are FRIENDS. Not friends with benefits. And if he can't respect that and is gonna sit up here and play wit yo emotions for his own benefits, then you don't want his friendship.
he wants the best of both worlds, he doesn't want to commit to you but yet he wants to have some relations with you, no strings attached. remind him that you deserve respect, the next time he talks to you like that, put him in his place. he's the one that left. so make him sorry that he did.
Leave his *** alone. He wants the benefits of having you as a girlfriend without actually being with you. Don't let him do that to you. If he can't be with you as a girlfriend then don't let him treat you like that.
girl, if i was you, dont let him do that.
just ignore him and move if he tries to kiss you.
he's toying with your emotions.
show him you know whats up and flirt with boys around him.
(:
hope i helped!
-katie.
You might have done something to piss him off really bad and now he's just trying to make you jealous.
It sounds to me like he wants to be more than friends, but you obviously aren't a priority in the commitment department. Maybe he wants to be with you, but be free to hook up with other girls and not feel guilty about it.
Maybe he's just a pig.
My opinion aside, you need to decide what to do about it, no one else. Long story short, he hurt you. It's pouring salt on the wound, acting the way he is.
My ex and I broke up, and for months we kept hooking up. Once I finally asked him ';Does this mean we're back together?'; He looked at me and literally started laughing.
One day, as I was fawning over him and a variety of other men who really weren't worth my time, Prince Charming tapped on my shoulder. We're getting married next November.
Just tell him to eff off, that you're worth more. Saying it out loud, especially to him, will mean the world to the both of you.
Cheers,
Alex
No, dump him. He wants friend with benefit. If does not like you what the hell is doing with you? Who care what he is trying do do. He is not worthy, dump him and let him know you don't need him. If you want friends you can have someone else. Tell him that you find a nice boyfriend that like you, even so is not true both that what is going to happen eventually. Remember is playing with you and your feeling and one day out the blue he is going to come with the same b.s. He probably doing the same thing with other girls. When we all stop playing the game he will have nobody to play game. Girl, you deserve better and you know it, don't let this jerk in your way. Step on his foot until he fly. (My experience) Tell him he is a big bored and you don't like him. Even if you like him, be strong don't let anybody play with you. God bless you and I hope you find someone that can kick his ball.
Avoid him like the turd he is.
He wants to be free to pursue his own interests (other girls)
while keeping you close enough to use you if nothing better comes along.Major Ex-Boyfriend problems. Advice, Please.?
I went through something similar, too. Don't let him do things like that if you've broke up. It just makes things worse. If it's over, and he can't just be friends with you, then it's over. Seems like he just wants to put up a front for other people, and maybe himself, and that's wrong. Let him know how you feel, and that if you're not really dating anymore, than both of you should just move on. It hurts too much to pretend to be something you're not.
Ignore him for a while.
Stop seeing him.
Answer the phones and stuff,act normal as if you were friends,but never call him or plan to meet him for a while.
If he wants you as a friend he will be there in a couple of weeks so no problem.
But if he still wants you as a gf,it will drive him nuts and he will come back.
You can never be friends with an ex. This guy is probably trying to get something from you, but you can not give it to him. Most guys that want to be friends after a relationship are keeping the girl at arms length just in case she is willing to give up sex. Go away from him and start your life over. He isn't worth your time.
He is playing you and that's not right. He knows how you feel and he knows how he is acting is giving you ideas.. and he doesn't care if that hurts you. What you need to do is keep away from him. If he touches you again tell him to keep his hands off of you. .better yet.. start dating and he'll get the idea. He wants you right where you are.. wanting him but him playing his games. Don't let him do this to you. You're better than he deserves by far!
It sounds to me like he just want some. either that or he physically misses you. and he thinks he can easily get it from you because he knows you still have feelings for him. But that's just the thing. You need to tell him that you guys are FRIENDS. Not friends with benefits. And if he can't respect that and is gonna sit up here and play wit yo emotions for his own benefits, then you don't want his friendship.
he wants the best of both worlds, he doesn't want to commit to you but yet he wants to have some relations with you, no strings attached. remind him that you deserve respect, the next time he talks to you like that, put him in his place. he's the one that left. so make him sorry that he did.
Leave his *** alone. He wants the benefits of having you as a girlfriend without actually being with you. Don't let him do that to you. If he can't be with you as a girlfriend then don't let him treat you like that.
girl, if i was you, dont let him do that.
just ignore him and move if he tries to kiss you.
he's toying with your emotions.
show him you know whats up and flirt with boys around him.
(:
hope i helped!
-katie.
You might have done something to piss him off really bad and now he's just trying to make you jealous.
It sounds to me like he wants to be more than friends, but you obviously aren't a priority in the commitment department. Maybe he wants to be with you, but be free to hook up with other girls and not feel guilty about it.
Maybe he's just a pig.
My opinion aside, you need to decide what to do about it, no one else. Long story short, he hurt you. It's pouring salt on the wound, acting the way he is.
My ex and I broke up, and for months we kept hooking up. Once I finally asked him ';Does this mean we're back together?'; He looked at me and literally started laughing.
One day, as I was fawning over him and a variety of other men who really weren't worth my time, Prince Charming tapped on my shoulder. We're getting married next November.
Just tell him to eff off, that you're worth more. Saying it out loud, especially to him, will mean the world to the both of you.
Cheers,
Alex
No, dump him. He wants friend with benefit. If does not like you what the hell is doing with you? Who care what he is trying do do. He is not worthy, dump him and let him know you don't need him. If you want friends you can have someone else. Tell him that you find a nice boyfriend that like you, even so is not true both that what is going to happen eventually. Remember is playing with you and your feeling and one day out the blue he is going to come with the same b.s. He probably doing the same thing with other girls. When we all stop playing the game he will have nobody to play game. Girl, you deserve better and you know it, don't let this jerk in your way. Step on his foot until he fly. (My experience) Tell him he is a big bored and you don't like him. Even if you like him, be strong don't let anybody play with you. God bless you and I hope you find someone that can kick his ball.
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